For those of you who have been working and living outside for many years, I wonder if you have the feeling that when you return to your hometown, you are just a "guest".
grew up in a rural area. He studied, went to school, went to work in other places, or worked part-time in business outside, and then bought a house and settled down in other places, because he had parents in his hometown in the countryside.
When we were young, we traveled between our hometown and a foreign land without feeling tired. Our parents will give us a lot of warmth when they are in our hometown.
When we are over fifty, will our parents still be in our hometown?
Maybe some people’s parents have passed away, and there are two graves in their hometown. We can only visit graves during the Qingming Festival, burn incense and paper, and express our thoughts.
Perhaps some people’s parents have moved with them to the city. At the door of the old house, there were weeds and a desolate scene appeared.
As for the neighbors next door, there are no young people to see. Occasionally there are old people at home. There are even too many young people who don’t recognize you when they meet you, and you can only get a little bit of stories about your hometown from people you knew when you were a child.
Something that cannot be ignored is that "parents are getting older and older" and will eventually leave. The scenery in our hometown is a little more strange and farther and farther away from us.
When we return to our hometown less and less often, and the possibility of returning to our hometown to stay is very small, the old house becomes a "hotel".
His childhood playmate Lao Zhang often said: "Go back to your hometown to build a house? In fact, it is just a kind of sustenance in your heart. It is completely unnecessary to close the door all year round and no one lives in it?"
Lao Zhang's parents have passed away. A few years ago, he demolished his old house and built a three-story small Western-style building next to the highway. Because he lives and works out of town for a long time, he doesn't live there for more than a few days throughout the year.
The iron door of this small western-style building is already rusty.
Lao Zhang sometimes comes back and stays at his uncle's house. His children are all working and they don't have time to accompany him back to his hometown. He always comes back alone. On the one hand, I don’t want to light a fire to cook, and on the other hand, I come and go in a hurry and don’t have time to clean my house.
Uncle is very enthusiastic. When he returns to his hometown, he will prepare some gifts for his uncle. When eating, I often think about it, if my uncle passed away, whose house would I go to for dinner?
Lao Zhang, he is just a guest now, a guest with a family.
The mountains and rivers of my hometown are still there, and the roads in my hometown have also become better, but 70 years later, we are worried. Looking at the deserted small village, I wonder if I should "return to my hometown to retire".
has changed from the owner of his hometown to a guest. This is the result of wandering for too long. It makes us feel uncomfortable, but there is no way to turn back time.
"When a young man leaves home, his old man returns, his local pronunciation remains unchanged and his hair on his temples fades away." The ancient poems I read when I was a child have turned into today's life, which is very touching.
It’s hard to return to your hometown, and it’s hard to stay in a foreign land. This is the bottleneck of life, and it is also an opportunity that forces us to think about life and change our destiny.
"You know your destiny at fifty." This ancient saying does not allow us to accept our destiny, but allows us to follow the flow of destiny after seeing it clearly.
There is not much we can do now.
One is to find ways to save money and settle down, regardless of whether we have money or not. With a stable residence, you will feel at ease whether you are in your hometown or a foreign country.
The two are the power to reunite families. Arranging old-age care issues based on the life development of your children can not only reassure your children, but also provide you with a certain amount of reliance.
There are some lyrics in the once-popular old song "Clouds of My Hometown": "Wandering wanderers, come back, come back, don't wander around anymore, I am full of exhaustion, and my eyes are full of sad tears... .”
If a person wanders for too long, he always has to find a way back, and he will always stop and spend the rest of his life. Although we don’t dare to stop, because life requires us to run forward everywhere.
The first half of my life depends on tossing, and the second half of my life depends on "peace of mind".
This is the life of most of us. Whether we are born in the 1970s or the 1980s, people from rural areas know this better.
I can’t go back to my hometown.
