A person has to experience many things in his life. There are happy things and sad things.
We will also face many choices on the road of life. For example, when we go to school, should we study hard or squander our youth; when we graduate, should we work in a company or start our own business? When we get married, should we choose the person you love or... Someone who loves you, or someone who is suitable for both parties in all aspects, etc.
Every choice you make in life can affect your future, such as who you will meet in the future, what kind of environment you live in, what kind of life you live... Just like what Li Zongsheng said: " Life is not a road in vain, every step counts.”
Some people understand the importance of choice. They think carefully when choosing, think about it again and again, and be very cautious. However, when something happens and does not develop as they expected, they will be depressed all day long, regretting that they did not consider it carefully at the beginning, living with regrets, and tormenting themselves into misery.
01 There is no turning back in life
There is a saying in "The Book of the Later Han Dynasty: The Chronicles of Emperor Guangwu": "Rebellion will lead to endless regrets."
As we all know, people cannot go back to the past, nor can they change what has happened. There are many kinds of human suffering, and regret is the most unworthy one, and even the stupidest one.
In life, people always regret not studying seriously when they are working; they always regret their choices after getting married; they always regret their crazy purchases when they have no money to spend. In short, as long as you are not living well now, you will regret what you did in the past.
But in fact, no matter how you choose in life, you will encounter some setbacks, and it is impossible for everything to go well in life.
is like "The Road Not Taken" written by the American poet Robert Frost. When two roads appeared in front of the poet, the poet chose a road sparsely traveled and full of thorns. He believes that once you have made a choice, you should go on firmly, let alone regret the path you did not choose many years later.
Chinese writer Mo Yan once wrote: "Try to regret as little as possible for what has happened, and always look forward with your head upright. There are three keys in life, accept, change or leave. If you can't accept it, change it. If you can't change it, change it. Just leave, please believe that everything is the best arrangement. "
Don't cry over spilled milk, there is no point in regretting it. The present is the best time, cherish the people around you, and don't let the impossible-to-change ending affect your mood. Put your time and energy into the things and people you like, and you will find how beautiful the world is.
02 Regret is the normal state of life.
I read this sentence on the Internet: "The probability of a person marrying his first love is 1%. Even after seeing such data, I don’t think anyone will hastily marry someone in order to live a life without regrets. To treat first love, regret that it has its own meaning of existence. "
Take first love as an example. Only after experiencing heartbeat, pure love, and later having to separate due to reality, can you know how to love someone. .
First love, even if it is difficult to reach the end, the heart-pounding feeling when we were young is enough to make us miss it for a lifetime.
Ji Xianlin said: "Everyone strives for a perfect life. However, since ancient times and now, at home and abroad, there is no 100% perfect life."
It can be seen that regret is the normal state of life. Don't feel sad because of regret. Your life is perfect precisely because you have regrets.
03You will bear whatever you choose.
Since life is filled with countless choices, we must have the ability to bear the consequences of our choices.
If you choose to live an ordinary life, then live an ordinary life extraordinary.You must understand that small days also bring great happiness. Don't envy other people's wonderful lives, let alone regret your own choices.
On the contrary, if you choose a vigorous life, you must be aware of the ups and downs. You will also understand a lot of truths from it, and naturally you will not envy other people's stability. These precious adventures only belong to you, and they are a stroke of your life. treasure.
If you choose to be a scientist, you have to endure the boredom and repetition brought by scientific research; if you choose to be a doctor, you have to endure a busy life all year round; if you choose to be a teacher, you have to endure the pressure from parents, and children naughty and so on.
In life, every choice has its own consequences. Therefore, be careful when choosing, and don't regret it once you make a choice. Either make yourself stronger to change your choice, or slowly accept the facts.
Just like Murakami Ryu said this, "The most terrible thing in life is to regret while living." A person's life is inherently short. Don't waste time on regrets, otherwise you will both If you don't live well in the present and can't change the past, it's really a waste of your time and energy.
Author: Mr. Slightly Understanding
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