In extramarital affairs, the mistress who gets pregnant and forces her first wife to divorce is not scary. What is scary is the cheating man who condones the pregnant mistress.
If a cheating man indulges his mistress, it is basically impossible for the first wife to kick the mistress out.
But if the cheating man does not condone the mistress, or even hates the mistress and the child, it will be easy to resolve the extramarital affair.
So how to make a cheating man hate his mistress and children? Lan Fang will tell you the answer with a real case.
The original wife, Ms. Qiu, has been married to her husband for six years. Ms. Qiu has a relatively strong personality.
After getting married, she was very strict with her husband because although her family conditions were good, her appearance was not good.
She knew that her husband cared a little about appearance and married her because of her conditions.
Her husband is tall and handsome and can easily provoke little girls, so she has always been on guard.
If a man wants to develop an extramarital affair, his first wife cannot prevent it at all.
You can't watch a cheating man 24 hours a day, he will always find an opportunity to cheat.
Her husband cheated on her for the first time when she was pregnant because her pregnancy reaction was severe.
Her parents were worried, so they kept her living in her parents' home, which was a bit far away from where the cheating man worked.
Therefore, the cheating man will only stay with Ms. Qiu on Saturdays and Sundays, and he will be at home alone from Monday to Friday.
This gave her husband the mistress who cheated on her. She returned to her home one month before she was due to give birth.
Her parents were worried and would visit her every day. Her mother had been staying at her home for a week before the due date.
At this time, her mother heard her husband talking to his mistress on the phone in the bathroom and discovered the extramarital affair.
Because Ms. Qiu was about to give birth, her mother did not tell her anything, but waited until she was postpartum to tell her.
The first time she cheated, Ms. Qiu didn’t put in much effort because the cheating man was immersed in the joy of becoming a father for the first time.
became very indifferent towards the mistress. The mistress took the initiative to come to her house to make trouble, and the cheating man broke up with the mistress directly.
Ms. Qiu felt disgusted for a while because of her husband's cheating.
Because the child was just born, she didn't want to divorce, so she finally chose to forgive.
As a result, her husband cheated on her again after more than a year of getting along with her, and this time the cheating was better hidden.
prepared two mobile phones, one of which is kept in the car all year round, specifically for communicating with the mistress.
After the cheating man comes home, the mistress cannot take the initiative to find the cheating man.
Because he was well prepared, the cheating man concealed his extramarital affair for more than two years.
The mistress was pregnant and wanted to be in a position of power. He only found out after he found Ms. Qiu.
Although the cheating man was dissatisfied with his mistress for going directly to Ms. Qiu to force a divorce, he was not willing to break up with the mistress directly.
has always been hesitant, not willing to divorce or break up with his mistress.
The mistress’s pregnancy situation was quite urgent. Ms. Qiu could only come to Lan Fang for help and asked me what should I do?
Lan Fang told her that if she wanted to solve the problem of the mistress, she must start with the cheating man.
Only if the cheating man doesn’t want the child will the mistress take the initiative to abort the child.
Only when the cheating man does not want to continue with his mistress can this extramarital affair end completely.
Under what circumstances would a cheating man refuse to have his mistress’s child, divorce him or marry his mistress?
In one case, the profit loss is too great, and the cheating man chooses to abandon the mistress for his own benefit.
What kind of losses extramarital affairs can cause to an unfaithful man should be known to the original wife, and also to the unfaithful man.
First of all, it is property. Only when the original wife divorces and divides the property will the cheating man suffer property losses.
If the original wife shows an attitude that she will not divorce her no matter what, the cheating man does not need to worry about the loss.
Secondly, in terms of career, the original wife is so ruthless that the cheating man feels that the original wife has a life-or-death attitude.
Regardless of divorce or not, first make the cheating man’s job difficult, and the cheating man will calculate the loss.
If the first wife does not want a divorce, she is also worried that the cheating man will lose his job and his family will lose their source of income.
A man who cheats does not need to worry about career losses at all, so the attitude of the original wife is very important.
In the end, it was about reputation. The original wife ignored the trouble and sued for divorce, which was widely known.
The words cheating men, abandoning wives and children, and being shameless are all used on cheating men. Aren’t cheating men afraid of this loss?
With so many losses in divorce, why would a cheating man dare to continue cheating on his mistress? Isn't he afraid?
Cheating men are not afraid of the losses caused by divorce. They know that their first wives will not divorce, and they do not have to bear these losses.
The original wife should account for these losses and let the cheating man know, and make the cheating man feel that he has to bear these losses.
When a cheating man feels pain when a needle sticks into his body, he will be afraid of his wife who is holding the needle.
In order to avoid being pricked by needles and not bear these losses, cheating men will naturally abandon their mistresses.
Another situation is that the cheating man is disgusted with the mistress, and by the way, he is disgusted with the mistress’s children.
Why does the cheating man want to continue the extramarital affair with the mistress? He still has feelings for the mistress and enjoys the extramarital affair.
If an extramarital affair becomes torture and the relationship with a mistress becomes a shame, will the cheating man continue?
Most women who are mistresses have no moral bottom line, and the first wife can take advantage of this.
creates the illusion that even if the mistress is pregnant with the child of a cheating man, she is still restless and having an affair with another man.
used an unfamiliar mobile phone number to send anonymous messages to the cheating man, telling him that the mistress’s child was not his.
Then create the illusion that the mistress is going out with another man, there is no need to beat the mistress to death.
As long as there is suspicion about a cheating man, it will be difficult for the relationship between the cheating man and his mistress to continue.
The mistress is a mistress. There is still a big gap between her and the original wife. Compared with the original wife, the mistress is more likely to be abandoned.
Therefore, when a cheating man becomes suspicious, he will involuntarily think about the worst.
For example, the child in the mistress's belly is not his, and he has to take the blame for other men.
If the child is not born, we can’t get a paternity test , and a man who cheats can’t wait until the child is born.
As long as there is doubt, the cheating man will choose to abandon the mistress and will not take the risk of letting the mistress have children.
Finally, Lan Fang wants to say that no matter what the situation is, the first wife is taking advantage of the selfishness of the cheating man.
A cheating man must abandon his mistress because the mistress harmed his interests, rather than because he has deeper feelings for his original wife.
Blue Party hopes that the first wives will understand this. Instead of talking about feelings with a cheating man, it is better to talk about interests and use means.
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I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does practical things.
