Author: Wen Qiusheng original article, plagiarism must be investigated 01. Introduction Love is like a beautiful cake, it has a sweet appearance, and the cake embryo is wrapped with rich fillings, which makes people want to take a bite. However, if the ingredients are not fresh a

Author: Wen Qiusheng

original article, plagiarism will be investigated

01, introduction

Love is like a beautiful cake, it has a sweet appearance, and the cake embryo is wrapped with rich fillings, which makes people want to taste it. One mouthful.

However, if the ingredients are not fresh and the quality is not up to standard, no matter how beautiful it is, it will be difficult to swallow.

When falling in love, a man and a woman are always attracted by their appearance when they meet at first sight.

The attractiveness of appearance determines whether two people can create sparks when they meet. And inner self-cultivation and cultivation determine how long two people can love each other.

Good love requires attraction. However, attraction requires positive attraction. Attraction comes from the inner temperament, not from self-display.

There is a "self-verification effect of deficiency" in psychology, which means that "the more a person hopes that the outside world will admit that he has something, the more he actually lacks something."

Sometimes, over-expressing yourself, showing off yourself, and showing off One's own "advantages" can easily backfire, making people look down upon, and making it impossible to make friends with people who treat you sincerely.

The more a woman "shows off" these things, the more men will look down on you.

02. Show off your good rapport with the opposite sex

When a woman shows off her good rapport with the opposite sex, it does not actually prove her charm.

On the contrary, men do not think that a woman is "in demand", but that she is very casual, and even think that she does not love herself and thinks that she is cheap.

Some women want to attract men's attention, so they dress themselves up to be the center of attention.

However, if you do not pay attention to propriety and have ambiguous feelings with many members of the opposite sex, it will make men feel disgusted and feel that women do not have enough self-respect.

When a woman is very popular with the opposite sex, she will make people look like she is very popular, as if she is sought after by many men. In fact, there are often very few men who treat her sincerely.

Because women who have a good rapport with the opposite sex tend to attract frivolous and playboy men.

At the same time, if a woman always shows off her good rapport with the opposite sex, always attends parties, or eats together, or plays with different men, she will give people a very "playful" feeling.

A clean and excellent man will take the initiative to keep a distance from her and deliberately reduce contact with her. In this way, women who have a good relationship with the opposite sex are often more likely to miss good men.

03. Show off your appearance and figure

Yishu said: "A truly elegant lady never shows off everything she owns. She does not tell people what books she has read, where she has been, how many pieces of clothing she has, and what jewelry she has bought. , because she has no inferiority complex. "

A woman who is overconfident in her figure and appearance, but has only superficial appearance and no rich connotation to support her, will make men shine in their eyes, but they will feel dull when they interact with her. It's tasteless and will be disappointing.

Yu Ying'er in " The Legend of Zhen Huan ", because she heard the conversation between the emperor and Zhen Huan and learned two lines of poetry, she assumed the identity of Zhen Huan and became the favored person of the emperor.

Although Yu Ying'er is young and beautiful, has a delicate appearance, enchanting figure, and can sing, she always loves to show off and thinks that she is great if she is favored. In fact, she is looked down upon.

She used her power to bully others and was very arrogant. When she was bullying Zhen Huan, she was seen by the emperor. In the end, she was beaten back to her original self.

Later, she completely fell out of favor and lost her life in revenge by the eunuch whom she had bullied.

A woman who pays too much attention to her appearance actually has little confidence in her inner self. even cares too much about their beauty and figure and does not work hard to improve themselves.

If you show off your appearance and figure too much, but have no cultivation and self-cultivation in your heart, it will make men feel boring and stay away.

04. Show off that there are always men spending money on her.

When a woman shows a man gifts given to her by other men, she feels that this is a reflection of her own charm.

In fact, when a woman always shows off that a man spends money for her, it shows that the woman cares about material things and is likely to ignore love.

Moreover, women who are always used to "spending" men's money are not independent and will be looked down upon by men.

A woman who is short of money always likes to show off what luxury goods a man bought her and what expensive gifts he gave her. The more she shows off, it proves that she always trades feelings, which means that what she cares about most is material things.

Defang once said: "More women are ruined by vanity than by love."

A woman who always shows off that men spend money on her will label herself as "vanity" and "material" Tag of. The men who are close to him will often give her material things, but they will not give her sincerity.

The more a woman shows off that men spend money on her, the lower her self-worth will be. Because, a woman who depends on a man for her life and is not independent will be looked down upon by men.

05, Wen Qiusheng's message

American psychologist Alice said: "Our pain is not caused by the problems themselves, but by our views on these problems."

In life, there may be many difficulties, some There are many setbacks and problems, but as long as women face them, work hard to improve themselves, and change themselves, they can break through the difficulties.

Women, please learn to manage yourself well, take a long-term view and have a bigger picture.

On the road of life, no matter how beautiful you are, you must enrich your connotation, constantly transform and grow, and make yourself a better person. Only in this way can you meet better men and better love.

If you always stick to your own standards and blindly show off yourself, you will easily be looked down upon. The more a person shows off, the less likely he is to find a way out.

On the road of life, please take good care of yourself and don't deliberately attract others.

Being a woman and living a shining life will definitely attract more kindness. When a woman has real talents and learns, and lives an elegant and confident life, she can often become a person that everyone respects and loves.

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About the author: Wen Qiusheng makes a living by writing. The autumn wind boils the rain, a glass of sake, and a few stories will keep you company on the lonely road.