Bill Gates is divorced. In fact, he has not passed the most dangerous stage of marriage.
Marriage is divided into six stages. The first stage is the passionate love stage. During the first 18 months of your relationship, you are in the passionate love stage. The two of you are in love with each other and never get tired of looking at each other. This is the passionate love stage.
The second stage is the nesting period, which is the second to third year of marriage. Two people build a new home together and are in the running-in stage. At this stage, differences begin to appear, and there are some conflicts and running-in.
The third stage is the self-affirmation period, which is the third to fourth year of marriage. At this time, both parties begin to try to find themselves in the marriage and find ways to make themselves more comfortable in conflicts.
The fourth stage is the cooperation period, which is from the fifth to the 14th year of marriage. Life enters a new stage. You may have children at this time, you may have new career goals, and you may have a common motivation to move forward.
The fifth stage is the adaptation period of marriage. This is the most dangerous stage in marriage, from the 15th to the 25th year. By this time, your children have grown up and your career has stabilized. The two began to pursue the lives they wanted, and were no longer willing to accommodate each other.
Bill Gates's divorce is at this stage. Many couples are also at this stage, and they seem to feel that they can't go on together. If you can adjust to each other and compromise at this time, you will enter the last stage of marriage and rekindle the love period. This is the 25th to 50th year of marriage. Both parties have gone through the previous stages. Instead, the old couple began to love each other again, cherish the last time of their lives, support each other, and grow old together.
So, how to get over the dark rocks of marriage and continue to move forward when marriage is at its most difficult?
First of all, we must realize what true love is. The love between men and women is different. Communicate separately. Maybe the other party still needs you, or you still need the other party, so learn to compromise with each other. After two people communicate, the second point is to establish a new common goal, just like when you two started a business together and raised children together, you established a new goal together. This goal may be to maintain a healthy body together, or it may be to encourage each other and learn a new skill. Sharing the joys and sorrows together will bring you back together.
If you can't find a common goal, then make a game where I take the lead. Set a time and follow the other person's lead to do what he likes. The next time, you will take the lead and do what you like together. . In this way, the two people maintain the same frequency and the same pace can continue to develop. Third, we must actively create intimate moments, which come in many languages and have many ways of expression, all of which require careful crafting. Two people can enjoy beauty and romance together. No matter what stage of life and marriage we are in, or what problems we face, we can find a good way of communication and rekindle love.
