text / Tao Bi
dictation / Li Weiwei (pseudonym)
I never expected that my husband and I had an argument and I almost laughed.
I have been married for more than ten years and have never had an argument in person. Every time I feel that the argument is not enjoyable, the next day both of us choose to forget.
A few days ago, my father-in-law and mother-in-law came to our place with luggage. I saw the luggage that my father-in-law and mother-in-law brought, which shows that the stay will not be too short.
After my father-in-law and mother-in-law came, my husband and I chose to hand over the big house to them. Our 12-year-old son stayed in his grandpa and grandma’s room every day and never came back no matter how he was called?
I had an argument with my husband before and we chose to use mobile phones. This time it was better. My father-in-law and mother-in-law were both here. He couldn't hide even if he wanted to.
On weekdays, he always stays downstairs for a long time after get off work before going upstairs. Although he bought my favorite sea snails, I know that he must be secretly drinking outside.
I finally seized the opportunity today. As soon as my husband entered the house, I smelled the smell of alcohol: Hey, he drank liquor.
As soon as I said the first sentence, my father-in-law and mother-in-law stood up and said: Let's go downstairs for a walk and buy tomorrow's groceries.
The son also stood up: Grandpa, take me with you.
really shows a root! My father-in-law and mother-in-law haven't visited each other for several years. My mother and father have raised the child since he was a child, but now he is very close to his grandfather and grandmother. Hey, the blood relationship is amazing!
After my father-in-law and mother-in-law finished talking, they put on their clothes and went downstairs. Oops, they hate me so much. I originally wanted to tell him in front of his face that his son was drinking behind my back, but I didn’t expect that the old man chose to escape. .
Think about it, my husband and I have been married for more than ten years. Both of us are too reserved, too concerned about face, and too timid. We don’t seem to have very high emotional intelligence. We are afraid of the other person’s change of attitude and dare not hear what the other person says with our own ears. He uses vicious words, so he chooses to use messages every time he quarrels.
Once I wanted to irritate him, "phrases" were jumping in my mind, and I said more than a dozen phrases at once, like a knife, and it was bloody. After reading his message, my whole body trembled and tears flowed out. It was enough It proves that quarreling is a science.
My husband actually typed out several English abbreviations, and I didn’t even know what they meant. After my son told me what they meant, I searched online and found out that quarrels can still be like this.
If this were to quarrel in person, wouldn't it be embarrassing? You would probably laugh at yourself for being so stupid.
I didn’t expect that after my father-in-law and mother-in-law left, they took my son and eavesdropped outside the security door. It was so embarrassing.
I said angrily: I drank again. Who did I drink with? Is there a woman? Why didn't you take me with you and why didn't you tell me?
The corners of my husband’s eyes slightly raised: Brother, please stop messing around. I have a reason for this. I went to buy sea screws for my brother and happened to meet a neighbor. This neighbor was none other than my son’s classmate, my father. I got off my horse and started talking. As he spoke, I felt that he wanted to win over me and discuss important matters with him and contribute to the family, so I listened with all my ears. The atmosphere was heightened, and I had a few drinks with him.
I slapped the table: You started talking about classical Chinese with me again.
My husband smiled slightly: No, "A conversation with you is worth ten years of reading." He discussed it with me for no other reason than...
I walked over to my husband and grabbed his ear: "Don't talk nonsense with me." Can you speak properly? The matter of you drinking is not a trivial matter. Can you drink?
My husband reached out and took my hand down: Madam, please don’t be angry, listen to me carefully, my son was praised by the teacher today, do you know.
I didn’t understand half of it, but I heard it too loudly: Husband, please talk nicely, I’m going crazy if you do this, I blame you for your drinking, okay.
The husband became serious: Wife, it’s like this. Today, my son was praised by the teacher at school, but the teacher said that he was partial to subjects and his son was making up lessons. I learned about the make-up lessons.
I wondered: What does that have to do with drinking.
The husband sighed: Hey, I don’t drink with him, can you tell me?
I pouted and asked: Then tell me, who spent the money.
The husband came over and said, “Honey, what about money? It’s like this. You said it’s for our son’s study, are we investing it properly?”
I went up and kicked him: You invited me, how much did it cost, our parents are still at home, if you don’t come back to eat with them, you hid your private money there.
At this time, my father-in-law, mother-in-law and children entered the house. I knew that the money was given by my mother-in-law.
My father-in-law and mother-in-law covered their heads and returned to the house. My son walked up to me: Mom, my grandfather and grandmother heard what you just said.
At this time, my husband came to me with a plate of sea screws: Brother, please give me some food and salary.
The son knelt down on one knee: Lord, please give the general some food and salary.
Mother-in-law and father-in-law were in the house, laughing.
In the evening, my mother-in-law called me to their house and took out a passbook: Women are boxes for carrying money, and men are rakes for making money. You are doing the right thing. Your father and I plan to live with you. You see It’s okay, my lord.
I grabbed my husband’s pigtails this time, but I didn’t expect that he would escape again. It seemed that the chance of being a martyr in front of my parents-in-law was shattered again.
However, the actions of my parents-in-law also made me understand the situation between ourselves and the enemy.
The author has something to say:
When couples quarrel, they should keep their mission in mind and not forget their original intention. "You can make him raise his head with anger and then smile proudly," but do not hold grudges.
