People on the Internet raised a question, saying that they are about to get married, but they feel that getting married may not necessarily make them happy, and not getting married may not necessarily make them unhappy. What should I choose at this time? Man is a very strange cre

Someone on the Internet raised a question, saying that he is about to get married, but when he feels that getting married may not necessarily make him happy, and not getting married may not make him unhappy, what should he choose at this time?

Human beings are very strange creatures, always trapped in choices.

Perhaps, there is no answer to this question, but happiness or unhappiness is really not given by marriage.

If one day I am asked on the street the question of whether I am happy or not, then I will definitely refer to the responses given by CCTV reporters when they interviewed uncles and aunts. My surname is Wang, not Fu!

Of course, this is just a joke.

However, choice is always there. I just wrote a college entrance examination album about "choice management" not long ago. I think what was said at that time was actually more representative.

So, today I will share with you some content about happiness. The content shared today is more methodological. If you don’t read it, you won’t lose anything, but if you read it, you will benefit.

1. What is happiness power?

It is said in "Three Kingdoms" that peace of mind is a blessing and being worry-free is a blessing. The so-called happiness, our ancestors believe, is not about how much real estate you own or how many luxury cars you have, but about being able to live at ease and carefree every day. This is happiness.

As Kant said, the concept of happiness is extremely uncertain. Although everyone wants it, no one can clearly and coherently say what he hopes and prays for.

Yes, regarding the description of happiness, there may be a thousand answers for a thousand people. It is really difficult to find a standard answer.

However, among the many answers, some people can divide them into two categories, that is, one is happiness caused by the satisfaction of desires, and the other is happiness caused by the vitality and fulfillment of life itself. . How to distinguish between the two types of

?

For example, I like something and eventually get it, but the method is different.

One way is that I tell everyone around me that I want this thing, and some people will get my favorite item because they like me; the other way is that I want this thing, so I give it to Listed as one of my goals to strive for, I continued to get promotions and salary increases, and finally got what I wanted. In the process, I not only had my own gifts, but also gained self-improvement. This is the first The second way is the happiness generated by the vitality and fulfillment of life itself.

The bigger reason for the first method depends on external factors. The desire to obtain this kind of thing is pinned on an external force to obtain it. At this time, if it is obtained easily by being cute or acting coquettishly, then This thing is so easy to obtain, and the happiness is weakened.

once saw a small experiment. Several children were divided into two groups. One group was given toys that the children liked directly, and the other group was different. They needed to complete the designated tasks first, and when the tasks were completed, they would receive My favorite toys.

At the end of the experiment, the children in the group who were given the toys directly were much less focused on the toys than the children who were given the toys after completing the designated tasks. The children in the former group would like other toys in less than an hour at the earliest. , and often children who have put in a certain amount of effort to get it will always treasure this gift and relish the effort it took to get it every time they share it with others.

In fact, this is not only true for children, but also for adults.

So, we can see that, as Owen said, if a person wants to be happy, he must develop all his talents, strengths and interests according to his own nature, and develop them accordingly throughout his life. Stages are adapted to the application.

The second method depends more on your own strength to obtain it.

So, having said all this, if a person's happiness power is obtained only from the outside, it is easy to worry about gains and losses and it is difficult to last long. However, if you cultivate yourself, you can intensify your happiness.

How to improve happiness power? Next, we will continue to share.

2. The power of happiness lies not in enjoying it all the time, but in striving for everything

The famous CCTV host Bai Yansong once said that in a person's life, happiness and pain only account for 5%, and the rest is an ordinary life.

Being able to grasp the ordinary and real happiness in front of him is probably where Bai Yansong's happiness lies. Before he became a celebrity on CCTV, he was no different from us. He found someone he liked, fell in love and got married.

When he started working at the China Central Radio Station, he fell in love with his colleague Zhu Hongjun. However, during the period of love, Bai Yansong did not have a decent place to stay, only the single dormitory assigned by his work unit.

In order to make the place where he lives clean and tidy and full of life style, Bai Yansong will use his spare time to buy some practical and beautiful furniture and decorations at the nearby flea market. Under his decoration, the room becomes full of life and full of life. The breath of life.

Because of his careful preparation, he gained the favor of his fiancée's parents, who thought he was a good man who knew how to live.

After getting married, they moved several times within a year, but every time, Bai Yansong would bring different "babies" to decorate his home. Even his lover was surprised that he could find something economical every time. Something that is both practical and tasteful.

At this time, Bai Yansong would proudly tell his wife that you only know where the good things are when you are shopping; you only know where the good opportunities are when you are always thinking.

After becoming famous, he did not feel arrogant because of his certain popularity. Instead, he still worked hard to manage his marriage and his own life. When others imagined happiness as something unattainable, he proved it with facts. , create surprises in the ordinary, and work hard in reality, you will definitely gain your own happy life.

Andreev told us that happiness does not lie in enjoying happiness, but in striving for happiness and pursuing happiness. Therefore, happiness is never given, but built up bit by bit in one's own life.

3. Use the right method to cultivate the power of happiness.

Bing Xin said that there is no absolute happiness or absolute pain in life. Happiness and pain are always connected together.

No life will be smooth sailing without going through ups and downs. To learn to manage life in the ordinary and learn to grow in your marriage, there are a few things you must keep in mind.

. If you want happiness, don’t get angry easily.

Emerson told us a rule: for every minute you get angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.

When facing a problem, don’t look sad, but face it calmly and think about ways to solve the problem. Instead of worrying and worrying every day, it is better to face it optimistically. When you can solve the problem yourself, then your happiness will follow. After all, happiness is the most important rule.

Zhang Fei, who lost his life in a moment of anger, do you still remember?

As we all know, anger will make you lose your mind, and this is vividly reflected in Zhang Fei. In the first year of the chapter of Wu , Zhang Fei was guarding Langzhong . Suddenly he heard that Guan Yu had been killed. He was very sad. He drank to relieve his worries and became even more angry.

At that time, in Zhang Fei's army, if the generals and soldiers made the slightest mistake, they would be whipped , and some would even die. On the first day, the army ordered that within three days, white flags and white armor would be set up, and the three armies would be required to pay filial piety. In order to conquer Wu, however, the subordinates Fan Jiang and Zhang Da in the army asked for grace time. This angered Zhang Fei and pulled them out and whipped them. The two men were ordered to arrange the items properly on time, otherwise they would be punished by military law.

The two of them were tortured and felt sad and angry. They devoted themselves to serving the country, but not only were they whipped, but they also faced the risk of beheading. They simply waited for Zhang Fei to kill them, so it was better to kill him first. So the two beheaded Zhang Fei overnight and fled to Soochow.

It can be seen that such anger not only does not solve the problem, but also harms others and ourselves.

2. The power of happiness comes from struggle.

Just like Dong Mingzhu said, happiness is not about lying there and enjoying, happiness is about struggle.

Do you remember a TV series called "Struggle"? The role played by Tong Dawei and Lu Tao has a valuable fighting spirit. In the play, he said a sentence, the more dreams that are ridiculed, the more valuable they are to be realized.

Not long ago, a name suddenly became popular on various platforms across the country. When wearing women's clothing, he is charming and charming, and when wearing men's clothing, he is domineering. He is Lu Xianren who has stepped from the stage of the countryside to the international stage.

His stage gradually moved from the countryside to the Roman Avenue ; from being dressed in plastic to being constantly invited by first-line brands, during this period, he experienced doubts and abuse, but he continued to struggle and work hard. With. When you laugh at him, he is practicing, when you scold him, he is also practicing, and those ridicules and abuses become the motivation for his success and realize all his values.

Just like Xu Jie said, don't envy others, don't show off yourself, appreciate everything you appreciate, and leave everything you don't like. Isn't this simplicity the highest state of happiness?

It can be seen that if you don’t struggle, how can you achieve self-realization and how can you have happiness?

3. The power of happiness requires finding the right target.

As the saying goes, if you go in the wrong direction, your efforts will be in vain.

In fact, life is sometimes like "Angry Birds". Angle is very important. If you want to aim at the target, you don't have to go all out to draw the bowstring . On the contrary, the more relaxed you are, the better results you may get.

Therefore, the power of happiness must be achieved by accurate goals. If the goals are not clear enough, it will be like seeing flowers in the fog, confused and confused.

There is a story about a student who wrote an emotional essay. The text was fluent and the narrative was complete, but he was given a zero mark by the teacher. The parents found the school and could not understand the matter, thinking that the teacher was deliberately targeting them. child.

After reading it, the principal told the parents that the composition was about characters, such as "My Mother" or "My Father", but the child wrote "An Unforgettable Thing". There was a problem with the direction of the composition, and in the end he could only Not a cent.

In fact, life is just like writing an essay. If you don’t aim at your own topic and can’t find the direction of your essay, no matter how hard you try, it will just drift in the wind like weeds in the wilderness.

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