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One's subjective consciousness cannot influence the existence factors of the objective environment, so in many cases we cannot decide our own life from a subjective point of view, and can only passively accept what is not in life. Therefore, what can really determine the state and result of life lies in the wisdom that exists after accepting the unavoidable situation of life.
puts it in a more popular way, that is, the objective laws are not shifted by people’s subjective consciousness, so you will encounter many things that you can’t decide. When facing these problems, if you blindly confront and demand, you will not only fail to do it properly. Solving the problem steadily will make the life that is not smooth because of self-resistance.
If you can retreat on this basis, accept the situation that you cannot change, reflect on your mentality and behavior, find the root of the problem, and solve the problem based on this way, you will find at this time Those who could not be solved can find the answer at this moment.
Mencius once said: "If you love someone, you will be benevolent; if you want to treat others, you will be wise; if you are courteous, you will not answer, but you will be respectful. Right and the world returns. "Poetry" says:'Always say worthy of life, ask for more blessings'."
The meaning of this sentence Mencius said is: love others, but others do not get close to yourself, then the other way around Review whether you are caring enough; if you manage others but don’t manage well, then you will review yourself whether you are wise enough; if you are polite to others but don’t respond, then you will review yourself whether you are respectful enough. If the behavior fails to achieve the expected results, he will find the reason in his own body and correct himself, and the people of the world will naturally submit to him. " Book of Songs " says: ‘Always cooperate with the heaven’s order and ask for more blessings’.
Many people mentioned Mencius’s saying that “you cannot go against yourself”,I always think that this sentence is too subjective and one-sided, and that one person's introspection can't solve all problems.
For life, when a person encounters a problem, he only produces negative emotions on the basis of ignoring objective conditions, pessimistically reflecting on himself, and expecting to find the answer to the problem in this way, then this will not only solve the problem , On the contrary, it will aggravate the negative impact of the problem on us.
What we should do is to adjust our own state, look at the problem sensibly, take reflection as the basis, see the gap between the subjective consciousness and the objective environment on this basis, find the specific conditions for the existence of the objective environment, and plan with the conditions Things, and finally meet their expectations.
The difference between the two is that one is only an emotional response, while the other is a clear and correct cognition. If we can enter a rational state from the perceptual level, we can be considered the most relevant to this sentence. Thorough understanding.
is like for your own life. If the state you expect does not appear, that is, you are facing a situation of "doing nothing", there are two reasons:
First, you expect more than your own ability Achievable.
It is as if you are an ordinary person without any ability and objective advantages, but always have a lofty goal. Then this kind of expectation that deviates from the objective conditions is inherently unreasonable. How can unreasonable things have a good result? Woolen cloth?
Second, I always use a wrong way to pursue my goals, and I don't know myself correctly.
The biggest problem in life is that it’s difficult to understand one’s own problems objectively. Therefore, even if many people have wrong consciousness and habits, they still can’t detect it. When a person cannot pursue life in the right way, the result he expects is Impossible to appear.
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So in life, no matter what kind of reason appears,In this situation, you only need to take a step back and be able to truly reflect on yourself and see if your expectations are wrong or your own methods are wrong. Only then will you adjust your state on this basis and get what you want. result.
Therefore, at the end of this passage, Mencius will add the sentence in the "Book of Songs": Always cooperate with the order of the sky and ask for more blessings.
What is the order of the sky? That is "natural".
No matter what position a person is in, what kind of environment and life they face, they should know what the objective environment they have, the conditions they can obtain, and the direction they can pursue. You should have a clear understanding of it, instead of always being driven by desire and pursuing things that don't belong to you in the wrong way.
Furthermore, with a good personality cultivation, seek blessings for your life.
This is also the wrong view that many people often make about "self-reflection". This wrong view is also caused by subjective ignorance. Some people think that good personality training is blindly weak. In fact, the so-called good personality training is not only It is blind submission and kindness, and sometimes it lies more in its own strength and wisdom.
What makes life bad is because of lack of virtue and lack of wisdom. If someone is truly courageous and strategic, they can solve many problems invisibly. This is also an important point for correcting one's own personality.
This is the way to do what you want, to seek the truth from others, to understand yourself soberly, to look at yourself objectively, and to adjust yourself correctly in order to find the answer you want.
.Author|Guoxue Shushe
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