People at different ages have different missions. Regarding emotional issues, we can refer to the opinions of parents or others, but the decision must be in our own hands. If you want to pursue a pure relationship, you should establish a correct concept of love. If you have been addicted to routines and greed, you will surely pass by with happiness.
Zhang Wei is a very filial boy. Since childhood, he has hardly contradicted his parents, and at every fork in his life, he will listen to his parents’ opinions. Major, but he still followed his parents’ opinions and went to universities and majors he didn’t like. After graduating from college, he followed his parents’ decision and was admitted to the public institution. Although he was sometimes annoyed, he faced his parents’ decisions time and time again. At that time, he compromised again.
Love always comes inadvertently. Zhang Wei met Xiaohui at a sorority meeting. The two fell in love at first sight, and the relationship was quickly determined. Because Xiaohui's family is relatively wealthy and her parents are both businessmen, Xiaohui has the full authority to cover the daily expenses of the two. Zhang Wei is not wrong about this. The two have been in love for more than a year, and Xiaohui has the idea of getting married, because she will be 30 years old in two years, which is undoubtedly very fatal for a woman.
With Zhang Wei and Xiaohui's matchmaking, both parents sat down to discuss marriage together. Although Xiaohui’s family is well-off, his parents’ thoughts regarding marriage matters are still relatively conservative. The man must follow the traditional process, and he must also give 150,000 gifts, even though Xiaohui’s parents said on the spot, "How much do you give? At that time, how much do we return to dowry.” Zhang Wei’s parents disagreed life and death, because if they took the 150,000 gift, they would definitely be laughed at by neighbors in the neighborhood.
After a long time of arguing, the marriage still has not reached a consensus. The two families have no choice but to leave, and the marriage has been temporarily put on hold. After the marriage was shelved, her parents persuaded Xiaohui to break up as soon as possible, and she was worried about no one to marry on her terms. In fact, Xiaohui was also a little dissatisfied with the performance of Zhang Wei’s parents. Her parents had made it very clear that they were not greedy for the betrothal gift.However, Zhang Wei's parents still refused to agree, which made Xiaohui retreat.
Since the marriage was temporarily shelved, the relationship between Xiaohui and Zhang Wei has become more delicate. During this time, Xiaohui was also persuaded by her parents to loosen up. Fortunately, she agreed with her parents to arrange a blind date. Objectively speaking, Xiaohui’s This blind date is better than Zhang Wei, regardless of personal conditions or family background, but Xiaohui just refused, because she did not let go after all. Just when Xiaohui's heart was extremely tangled, Zhang Wei appeared. Seeing each other a few days later, the two seemed to have a bit of enthusiasm. Fortunately, Zhang Wei had been actively looking for topics so that the scene was not embarrassing.
After this meeting, Xiaohui obviously felt that Zhang Wei's attitude towards her had changed a lot, because Zhang Wei was more considerate and pampered with her, which made Xiaohui very uncomfortable. Until Xiaohui accidentally saw the WeChat chat history between Zhang Wei and his mother, she looked at the dialog box, "Son, let her leave her alone for two years, she wouldn't dare to ask for a gift, after all, she is a 30-year-old girl." The words were particularly dazzling and made Xiaohui completely dead. She immediately broke up with Zhang Wei and declared that she was engaged.
After the two broke up, Zhang Wei went home in despair, and Zhang's mother happily said: "Son, how is this trick that mom gave you? Isn't she more dependent on you? Wait two years She is getting older, she can only marry you, and she still dare not ask for a penny as a gift." Seeing her mother’s vigorous look, Zhang Wei smiled bitterly: "Mom, she is already engaged, and she and I are no longer married. Maybe." After saying this, Zhang Wei lowered his head and went back to the room, leaving Mother Zhang standing there alone in astonishment.
After reading this story, I remembered a passage of Shakespeare said: "If love is mixed with calculations that have nothing to do with it, it is not true love." Of course, marriage is the same! Just like Zhang Wei's family in the story, they are too greedy and calculating, and in the end they have to suffer the consequences.
Written at the end, I have stated more than once about the wedding gift. The gift must be unavoidable, but the amount of the gift can be negotiated, depending on the economic conditions of both parties.
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