Dreamer, female, 45 years old, single mother
1. Dreamland
I don’t know who it is. In a room, the furnishings in the house are very vague. I only remember that there is a big bed with him and a woman lying on the bed. I know she is his wife, even though I have never seen her. He looked at what I wanted to say, but didn't actually say anything. In fact, maybe it's just that I think he wants to say something to me, and he doesn't mean it. I don't have any emotions, but seeing this picture, I can't remember anything else.
2. General situation
The lady was divorced when her son was two years old. Her husband told her that she was divorced. After separation, they should reflect on each other, which is conducive to the growth of both parties and the construction of marriage. She felt he was right and agreed to the divorce. After waiting for several months, she went back to her natal home and talked about it. Her parents called her stupid, but she still felt that what her ex-husband said made sense. When she talked about it, she really didn't seem to be so painful. She said that for so many years, she had devoted herself to the child, and felt that she had lived a fulfilling life without feeling painful.
She came to me for psychological counseling because her son has gone to college this year, and she always has a lot of emotional fluctuations when she lives alone. For this reason, she went to various spiritual growth classes and felt improved, but still felt that good.
She has a boyfriend who has been dating for three or four years. Recently, it has been because of him that her emotions have become more upset. She thinks he loves her very much, and she also depends on him very much. She believed what he said, being with his wife is entirely for the children, without feelings, and he never touched his wife. She said she also repeatedly asked him not to touch his wife at home. They used to travel with each other often, but they rarely went out in the past two years due to the epidemic. She said if it was because of this, she felt a little aggrieved and always wanted to be angry, but as soon as he came to accompany her, she would be fine. She's not good as soon as he leaves.
Another thing is that she recently found out that she had thyroid cancer during a physical examination. She said it was a very, very small lump that did not cause much harm to the body. We all know that the human endocrine system is closely related to emotions, and what a malignant tumor in the endocrine system means can be imagined.
To be honest, I was very angry when I heard her story.
I asked her, what is the life of a couple and a family of three? What is the function of a family, a couple? What are the respective rights and duties of the husband and wife? If one party fails to perform its duties and obligations for a long time,How will the other party react?
She basically couldn't answer. However, after working with her five times, she said that she was always thinking about what I said and felt that what I said was more helpful to her.
This dream was made during this period of time, and it recurs many times.
3. Interpretation of dreams
She does not have a home in the general sense. What is the appearance of a home maintained by a husband and wife together? She is already very vague, so when she describes her dream, she said that she didn’t know. Whose is it? The man he loves is lying in bed with his wife. It is very common for the couple to lie in their own bed, but it is unusual for her, because, in her impression, the man only has sex with her. He exists only for the children at home, he and his wife There is no intersection. She said that there is no emotion. One explanation is that in front of a couple, as a third party, even if there is emotion, they will be suppressed. Another explanation is that I, who had been hiding my ears and stealing bells, finally saw the truth, feeling relieved. I think it is precisely this kind of depressed emotion that cannot be expressed reasonably, but is expressed through cancer.
She recognized my understanding of dreams, but she would still ask, what he said to me and his affection for me are all fake? I said, I don't know, only you know. She asked, who do you think he loves? I said I don't know, but I want to say that he loves himself the most.
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