" is very good" begins with the death of Su's mother. Su's father is messed up. He doesn't even know the most basic ambulance to call first, but finds someone to carry Su's mother to the side of the road and take a taxi. Go to the hospital, and even delay the treatment.
What caused Su's incompetence? Why is it so helpless in the face of such a common sense? What a mess?
01 Su's mother's strength made Su Daqiang lost the right to speak
Su's mother is the head nurse in the unit, and all kinds of awards can be worn like her in the unit, you can imagine A man of the wind.
Generally, people who are accustomed to the work will also form a center at home. All people should listen to me. Psychologically, this is called inertial translation.
At the same time, Su's mother is also a one-and-one person at home. She is in charge of everything in the family. Su's father cannot have any objections.
And Su's arrogance made Su's father no sense of presence at home, and the children in the family did not have due respect to Su's father. They only discussed with their mother when they encountered problems.
Generally speaking, when the role of the father in the family becomes more and more marginalized, the mother will become more and more powerful and even indifferent.
- In this home, the mother is the Liang Zhu of Optimus. If he has anything to say and call home, it means that he is and is only discussing with his mother, and the father is a faint shadow behind his mother.
This is the boss of the Su family Su Mingzhe when he heard his mother died.
You see, when a person does not have the right to speak, he will rely more and more on this powerful person. When he is independent, he will look forward and backward, not make up his mind, and dare not make his own decisions. .
At the same time, he habitually avoids problems when he encounters problems, because he feels that I can’t or cannot control this problem, but when the person he depends on is gone, people will fall into chaos, no Know what to do.
This is why Su's father was confused when Su's mother suddenly died at the mahjong table.
02 The mediocre Father Su has become the shadow behind a capable wife
The strength of a woman is caused by her family and work, as well as her knowledge and continuous improvement in her self-confidence. Reshape.
The strength of Su Mu in "Everything is Good" is because Su Mu does well in the unit and has strong self-confidence.
- The medals of various colors can be taken out and can be worn on the whole body, just like a golden armor.
Su's father is not very good at work. He is an unknown role in the unit, and few people can remember him.
- sorted books in the middle school library until retirement, and retired quietly. After leaving the school, no one thought of him .
- So Su Daqiang lost confidence.Walk like an iron palm floating on the water, not smelling a little movement.
Because of Su’s excellent work, Su’s father who is not doing well dare not be himself. At this time Su’s father should be inferior, and this is also reflected in his timidity in doing things. At this home, he just wanted to reduce his sense of presence, even when he walked, he didn't dare to make too much movement.
It can be said that he hides behind Su's mother as a little man comfortably, dares not to violate any of Su's mother, and lives himself as a shadow behind Su's mother.
Some people say that a strong woman is easy to live as a mother and takes care of everything, while a man under a strong woman is easy to live as a child without everything.
When a marriage deprives a man of majesty and status in the home, he will lose the consciousness of being a husband and father.
He will fall into the imaginary that he is also a child, dare not do anything in front of an authoritative wife, and everything depends on the wife's will.
Su's father is such a typical example. In Su's father's world, he has no self, he lives like a shadow.
He doesn't have any right to say at home. All the things in the house are taken care of by Su's mother and everything is in charge of Su's mother. In this home, he is like a bystander, not a builder.
No one needs him, and no one cares about him. Even the children didn't need him, even if he was angry with Su's mother, they didn't expect to ask him for help, because at this time he was also a child, and would only hide away from him in danger.
This is the reason why Su's father dare not give Mingyu the master and speak for Mingyu.
03 A man who is not in charge will not be respected
When a man feels that he is not needed at home, it will weaken the value of his existence in this home, and also make He can no longer bear the responsibilities of being a husband and being a father.
So for Su Daqiang, he has no family status in this family, let alone the respect he deserves from the children.
Or when a man does not get his due status and respect at home, he will become more and more decadent, and he will live more and more like a child, every moment Children who need someone to take care of.
Su Daqiang was turned into a child by Su's mother, a selfish child without any independent opinions.
So when Su's mother died, Su Daqiang did not dare to live alone. Like a child, he needed to rely on the care of others to live.
When he transferred his dependence on Su's mother to the child, he eventually became unable to do anything well, and he seemed even more flustered and ridiculous. It can be said that Su Daqiang's selfish and pitiful character was shaped by Su's mother. In the end Su's father became a selfish and incompetent father, a father who needs child care.
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