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My name is Liu Ergen, I am from Hefei, Anhui, and I live in a rural area. I am 63 years old this year and I am an authentic farmer.
's wife is Jiang Fenghua, three years older than me, a typical rural woman.
As the saying goes: "Female juniors, hold gold bricks", there is indeed such a saying among the folks.
The two of us have been married for forty years. We have been married in love and harmony. We also have four children. Although we live very poorly, we are happy and happy.
But, "Unpredictable weather", one night last summer, my wife suddenly said that she had a headache, and I didn’t care about it, because it didn’t look serious. I wanted to sleep for a while, but the next morning Only when I woke up, my wife had quietly left us in the middle of the night, and died peacefully.
went to the hospital for an autopsy, but the doctor couldn't find out what was the cause, so I had to do it, maybe this is the death of my wife! Fortunately, when she died, she didn't suffer the slightest pain. This can be regarded as a kind of good for her!
02
For many days after my wife died, I couldn’t get out of the huge sadness that I didn’t want to watch. I wanted to hear the sound inside, and I often couldn't sleep in the middle of the night, so I got up and smoked a few pipes of dry tobacco. Every time I took a puff, I felt that the pain in my heart would be lessened.
The four children look at me like this,I was afraid of mental problems in the long-term, so I discussed it. I stayed in each house for three months and fulfilled their maintenance obligations, which is more fair and reasonable.
I know that the children are kind, but I don’t agree, because my daughter’s son-in-law’s house is okay. If I live in my son’s and daughter-in-law’s house, I feel very uncomfortable and awkward. I have heard of many mother-in-laws before. There are cases of conflict, but the father-in-law and the daughter-in-law have been under the same roof for a long time, and they certainly can't get along.
Taking various considerations into consideration, I rejected the invitation of the children and plan to live alone for a long time.
03
One more thing.
For decades, my husband and I have been farming land in the village for a living. Our husband and I have a total of 40 acres of land under the name of our husband and Plan the cost of children's schooling, marriage, and house purchase. Therefore, this 40-acre land is our family's support and source of livelihood.
However, the country requisitioned the land in a unified way to build buildings in a collective manner the year before, it expropriated these lands, and promised to give 100,000 yuan per mu of land, so forty mu of land, I can get 400 in one go. ten thousand.
originally wanted to wait for the money to be in place, give points to each of the four children, and then take his wife to travel the world for a few days, but I did not expect that she would be separated from me so soon. .
04
The demolition payment has finally come down. After paying the tax, there is still 3.8 million yuan left in the card.I allocated 500,000 to my four children, one family, and 1.8 million for myself to prepare for the elderly.
originally planned to be like this for the next life, living alone and lonely, and then like my wife, one day unknowingly leaving the world, this is also a good life wish!
However, fate comes inadvertently.
The other day, Lao Li next door introduced me to a woman who was his distant cousin. Her husband had been killed in a car accident for several years. Therefore, she has been living alone with a child over the years. Once I accidentally chatted with Lao Li and felt that it was too difficult to live alone and wanted to find a man.
Lao Li didn't think of me at the beginning, because he thought it was impossible. After all, the age difference was too big. But, thinking about it, this kind of situation abounds in today's society, so he wanted to give it a try. Tell me, I listened, didn't think too much, said that it's okay to meet and make friends.
05
After a few days, Lao Li arranged for us to meet.
His cousin's nickname is Xiaomei. She is 39 years old and has a 6-year-old son. She has just entered the first grade of elementary school. Xiaomei opened a small stationery shop next to her son’s school, which can take care of the children’s life. , And can earn some money by self-reliance.
At first glance, I discovered that although this woman is not very old, she is smart and capable and looks good, but she doesn't pay much attention to dressing, and she wears more earthy clothes.
Somehow, there was a wave of admiration and compassion in my heart,There is an urge to protect her in the future.
I found that she does not reject me, her eyes are full of tenderness when she looks at me, and she likes to chat with me.
06
So, we added WeChat to each other to have a better understanding.
Before going to bed every night, I would lie in bed and flip through her circle of friends. The basics in her circle of friends are the daily routines of her and her son. Although it is trivial, it is full of positive energy.
It can be seen that she should be a relatively independent and strong willpower woman, but she seems to be a little bit lucky, so she became a widow at such a young age, and she lives with her children alone every day.
In this way, our WeChat chats seem to have gradually increased. From occasional chats to greetings every morning and evening, she is also very concerned about my diet, daily life, physical condition, and often forwards me some health preservation and the like Public article.
07
As the days passed, the contact between us became more and more frequent, and I also discovered more and more that I seemed to fall in love with this one twenty younger than me A multi-year-old woman, and since she was dating me, she has become better at dressing herself up, and she has become more and more beautiful. She has restored the youth and vitality of young people. I think this may be the nourishment of love!
One day, Lao Li talked to me and said that if you don’t have any comments, you can get the certificate! For weddings, simple operations are enough.Because they were both second marriages and the age difference was so big, I made a big announcement that it was not good, and I nodded again and again.
Then, Lao Li talked to me again about the woman's thoughts, saying that Xiaomei also thinks I am a good person and wants to marry me, but she needs 800,000 gift money, otherwise she will not marry.
The second marriage still needs such a colorful gift? I have never heard of it. What a lion! She must have eaten it and I will marry her, and I can spend so much money to open this mouth.
08
Thinking of this, I feel a little bit painful. I feel that this relationship is not pure at all and it has too many factors. But think about it carefully: After all, they are so young, and they have to entrust the rest of their lives to me. At the very least, they have to have some financial security!
If love is not built on a certain material basis, it definitely does not exist. Moreover, both of us have experienced the experience of life, and we will no longer treat this purely like young people in their twenties. Problem.
So I understand and accept Xiaomei's approach.
"You map my money, I map your appearance", we take what we need, and happiness is good!
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