Letters from netizens:
, I have recently encountered an upset and almost divorced my husband, but I still restrained my emotions and felt that I could not see anything in my future Hope, every day when I open my eyes, I will be the debt and the debt, I am tired and have a headache, and even thought of committing suicide.
According to your rules, let me introduce myself first. I am from Jieyang, Guangdong. I am 28 years old. I work as a cashier in a bookstore. I get an average of more than 3,000 yuan per month. At the end of the year, it will be slightly more, but It will not exceed five thousand yuan.
I have been working in this bookstore for almost five years, and I feel that everything has changed, and I feel that everything has not changed. Every year is this kind of production-line life, which has already made me numb.
The previous life made me feel dull. I thought that when I found a husband, my life would become a little easier and I would become a little happier, but the reality is not what I imagined. I didn’t find a good husband. A prodigal man was found.
In May 2019, my husband and I got married. We are in free love. He is my high school classmate. We are the same age, but he is two years older than me.
At first, when we were together, my parents strongly opposed it because his family conditions were not good, and he had no skills and money, so he could only make a living by working.
Later, despite the opposition of my parents, I secretly went to get a marriage certificate with him, and finally I reluctantly agreed. To put it bluntly, I was married out of the past, because the house we live in is paid by my parents. The down payment is 20 years in installments, and the loan repayment method is equal to the principal. However, the mortgage is paid by our husband and wife together. We have to pay more than 3,000 yuan a month, which is equivalent to my monthly salary without food or drink.
My husband’s salary is not high. Even if he is now a supervisor, it costs more than 5,000 yuan a month. We still have to eat, drink, and be a favor member. It’s very difficult, even if we want to. All children feel stressed.
What I didn’t expect was that my husband secretly concealed from me the other day and bought a car worth more than 180,000 yuan. He paid 20,000 yuan for the first time, and he had to pay back more than 3,000 yuan every month. Car loan.
that is,Our husband and wife would pay more than 7,000 yuan to pay off the mortgage and car loan in a month. Thinking of this, I was so confused at the time that I almost got into a fight with him.
But now the problem is that the money has been paid and the loan has been processed. The car is definitely not refundable. I feel breathing hard now, and I don't know how to live this day.
Heart knot master:
Hello, please control your emotions, and don’t lose hope in life because of these debt problems. Motivation will make life more and more enjoyable.
It is undeniable that private cars have already entered thousands of households, and most of the homes now have cars. It is one thing for your husband to buy a car for convenience, but the most important thing is the issue of face, that is, the issue of vanity. And you also mentioned that the supervisor in his current restaurant is not the former waiter. He needs to have dignity in front of his colleagues. This must be the biggest reason for him to buy a car.
The problem you are facing now cannot be solved by complaining about it. You can only face it bravely. While working hard to make money and repay the loan, you must constantly learn how to improve yourself and make yourself more powerful. This way you The value of will be improved, and the benefits you will get will also be higher.
In short, the difficulties are only temporary. As long as you have a light in your heart, you will not be afraid of the darkness. Come on.
If you have an emotional problem, please contact the master directly. After receiving the letter, you will reply as soon as possible. Thank you for your attention and support.
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