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The American writer Gillian Flynn once said in his work "The Lost Lovers":
"The grievances that can be spoken are not regarded as grievances. Those that can be snatched away If you love someone, you are not a lover. I will never try to force anyone. Whatever is mine will always be mine. Even if it is not mine, it is not what I want. Let the flow take its course! Leave me if you want to go. The farther the better, it’s better to disappear!"
In the marriage relationship, what happened to the couple who chose to forgive in the face of betrayal?
Someone once said that once a man has an extramarital affair, there will be countless times; as for a man, why should a man betray his wife and fall in love with the "third party", in addition to the newness of the third party, there is also, if If you are not loyal to marriage, your emotional sustenance can be replaced by others.
As Zhang Ailing said, feelings can withstand wind and rain, but cannot withstand the ordinary. Therefore, if you don't want to be "green" in your marriage, it is very important to choose a good personality. After all, some marriages are not cherished by others, and the most retention will only make yourself more and more painful.
01. The 30-year-old chef husband fell in love with the 19-year-old waitress
Some people say that marriage cannot withstand the "seven-year itch". At first she didn't believe it until she learned that her husband had an extramarital affair. , This woman felt like the sky had collapsed, and for a while, she was a little lost.
The woman's name is Zeng Susu (pseudonym), 30 years old this year, and her husband Gong Pengcheng (pseudonym), has been married for 7 years, and the children are 4 years old;
Husband is a cook, and Zeng Susu is 30 years old in the same year. Zeng Susu stayed in his hometown and became a full-time housewife in order to take care of his son and mother-in-law. was a full-time housewife for the first three years.Zeng Susu and her husband Gong Pengcheng are still in a stable relationship, but since the birth of the child, her husband Gong Pengcheng has rarely returned home.
Regarding the change of her husband Gong Pengcheng, Zeng Susu’s sixth sense told herself that her husband might have other women outside. Therefore, when her husband came home again, Zeng Susu secretly looked at her husband Gong Pengcheng’s mobile phone. Under investigation, it was accidentally discovered that the husband did indeed have a woman outside, and the "third party" was also a 19-year-old waitress in the restaurant where the husband worked.
When there was a betrayal in the marriage, the couple had a big quarrel. In the end, Gong Pengcheng admitted his mistake and chose to return to the family to draw a line with the "third party". However, a few months passed Now, her husband, Gong Pengcheng, is still in close contact with the "third party" as always.
Once a man has an extramarital affair, there will be countless times. After several quarrels, her husband Gong Pengcheng made up his mind to divorce Zeng Susu. This is why, the first time saw Zeng Susu herself, she was like a "tearman".
In the past 7 years, Zeng Susu quit her job for her husband and took care of the children full-time at home. The husband didn’t feel sorry for herself, but now she wants to divorce her for the sake of a "third party." Ruthless, how cruel to a woman.
Afterwards, Zeng Susu told us that the "third party" was named Li Xiaona (a pseudonym), she was only 19 years old, and she was a waitress who worked in the same restaurant with her husband Gong Pengcheng. She really couldn't figure it out. With an age difference of 11 years, the husband is worthy of Li Xiaona, so she is willing to be a "little third."
She hopes that we can help mediate and let the "third party" take the initiative to withdraw,After all, her husband Gong Pengcheng has children and a family. For Li Xiaona, it is not a good match, but it will delay her youth.
02. The wife chooses to forgive. Husband: I will get a divorce when I die.
After some communication, Zeng Susu, Gong Pengcheng, and Li Xiaona reached a consensus and met in the park to deal with this complicated relationship.
When Li Xiaona appeared, Zeng Susu did not act excessively. He just grabbed Li Xiaona tightly and began to ask how she and her husband Gong Pengcheng met, and how long the relationship lasted between them?
Li Xiaona looked very unhappy when she heard Zeng Susu's inquiry, and she began to complain about Gong Pengcheng who was standing aside, expressing why Gong Pengcheng had not divorced her wife until now, and explained the extramarital affairs. Clearly, instead of throwing the mess to her to deal with.
Listen, Gong Pengcheng caught between the two women and began to reconcile the contradictions between the two women. While persuading his wife Zeng Susu not to make unreasonable troubles, while seeking Li Xiaona's forgiveness, he never admitted that he had betrayed the marriage.
After the three people pulled each other for a while, Gong Pengcheng shouted at his wife in front of Li Xiaona:
"I will get a divorce when I die!"
is determined to her husband Gong Pengcheng Zeng Susu did not believe her attitude, she told everyone on the spot. Her husband Gong Pengcheng had one set in person and another set behind her. After she first learned of her husband's extramarital affairs, her husband had repeatedly admitted her mistakes and said that she would return to the family and would not continue to be with Li Xiaona.
In short, the husband Gong Pengcheng treats two women as imaginary snakes, wandering between the two women for a long time.
In order to prove that what he said was true, Zeng Susu took out the chat record with her husband Gong Pengcheng. This is indeed the case. Gong Pengcheng has promised his wife Zeng Susu many times that he will not abandon his wife and children, and will not talk to Li Xiaona. Go on:
"Because I really believe him time and time again,As a result, I was deceived again and again by him."
said, Zeng Susu cried again and became a "tearman".
However, when the lie was exposed, Gong Pengcheng ignored it. The wife cried on the sidelines, but ran to comfort Li Xiaona, hoping that the other party would forgive her. In the words, she also promised that the person she loved was Li Xiaona. She had no feelings for her current wife Zeng Susu.
Not long after, Li Xiaona stood up, Explains the history of her relationship with Gong Pengcheng:
It turned out that after Li Xiaona dropped out of high school at the age of 16, she came to the restaurant to work and met Gong Pengcheng; it happened that Gong Pengcheng and Zeng Susu were separated, and the relationship between husband and wife When it faded, the two became in love for a long time and developed an underground relationship. After 3 years of love, Li Xiaona aborted Gong Pengcheng once.
Li Xiaona felt that she could make sacrifices for Gong Pengcheng, and she was his true love, even for the sake of Gong Pengcheng, she is willing to be a "third party", no matter how the mediator persuades Li Xiaona, don't violate morals, don't get involved in other people's families, Li Xiaona never listens, but angrily talks to her to persuade the mediator:
" Don't put on a pair, tell me with a reasonable attitude, I don't like this one.
As a wife, Zeng Susu is willing to forgive her husband Gong Pengcheng and always hopes that her husband will return to the family; as a "third party" Li Xiaona will continue to stick to this unblessed "extramarital affairs", then Gong Pengcheng How would you choose?
In the end, Gong Pengcheng chose Li Xiaona and ruthlessly abandoned his wife Zeng Susu.
03. The author's emotional summary
In the "" program, span14 Fu Seoul once said: "Loyalty is a kind of self-discipline,You are not in charge of marriage! "
deeply believes that after marriage, many married couples, wives will impose certain restrictions on the freedom of their husbands, so that husbands and friends of the opposite sex, even female colleagues and girlfriends, require a certain distance to prevent it from happening.
But I don’t know that the stricter you control a man’s heart, the easier it will be for him to feel oppressed. Marriage is a bondage and a tomb.
Unswervingly until death; Facing the temptation of foreign women, he will actively learn to refuse, this is true love; At the same time, the standard of a good husband and a good father must be a good character, a strong sense of responsibility, and There is a sense of belonging at home, and only in this way can a man manage his lower body well.
Stay loyal to marriage. Regarding a person’s self-cultivation, if his character is not good, no matter how he manages it, the cat can’t change the fishy. Habits; therefore, for men who have extramarital affairs, women need to keep a little bit of self and know how to stop losses in time.
