I saw this sentence two days ago: I looked forward to growing up when I was a child. I thought I could do everything when I grew up. But when I grew up I found out that life is so complicated, and things that have never been dealt with are always waiting for you. Stubble after stubble.
01 Running desperately, so as not to get further and further away from the life we want
At the beginning, we just wanted to realize a small wish in our hearts. For example, finding a job that you like, marrying someone you love, and having a house where you can belong. Only later did you discover that these are simply "super dreams" that take a lot of time and energy to get.
A friend was resigned during the epidemic. I heard that a company was hiring people. It took more than a few hours to ride the car, and it took 3 trips to arrive. Because there were too many people, it was delayed until the end of get off work. The interviewer has to travel for a week and can only interview after a week. She said that her mood was like the boiling water, and suddenly the gas ran out.
Another friend in Beijing is also not going well. Two days ago, the Mid-Autumn Festival talked about the recent progress of the blind date and sent me a bunch of smiley emoticons. She is thirty-four this year. She has been on a blind date since she was thirty, and she has no results for four years. In the early years, there was someone who wanted to love, but when it came time to shoot it was slow, and everyone was preparing for the wedding.
later used work to heal his injuries, and a few years passed. When I came out for a blind date again, it was time to consider various complicated issues such as house and children's schooling. She said that she couldn't love well when she was older, and she could only order a hammer on how to live after marriage?
someone cried in the study room a few days ago, because the recent exam failed again, the people in the study room persuaded her to fight again when she was fine, especially the full-time graduate student cheered her up, but She still cried and said, "I have tried my best, why can't it work."
There is a friend who is a freelancer,In the past two years, my income has been unstable. I managed to save money to buy a house, but because of my poor financial management, I couldn't pay the debt, so I mortgaged the house.
He spent many years of hard work trying to change a stable future. He worked hard to prop up a home and give protection to his family. He is already very motivated and excellent, but he still can't stop accidents from happening . While drinking, he held his brother's head and cried, "Why is it so difficult?"
Those unexpected and sudden things are really helpless.
Everyone has thought of it easier, but the truth is that, as ordinary people, we can only run forward desperately to avoid getting further and further away from the life we want.
02 You have to beat some things you don’t like in order to get some things you desire
You know that you can’t make money by lying in bed and playing with your phone, so No matter how tired and sleepy, I still pinch to get up and go to catch the subway in the morning rush hour.
You have to face the trivialities of life and the difficulties of work every day. Every night you return home with a tired body, only to find that there is no one to talk about.
There are some bitterness that can’t be said, and some bitterness can’t be said.
The carefree days are too far away from me, I can only look back, but I can never really go back. Even you will find that you don’t have too much time to be sad at all, because you have to hurry up and take a break, and then get up and face the new day’s work, even if it’s not so comfortable, you can still afford it.
There is a colleague who always laughs. Everyone asks her, did you buy a lottery ticket and scraped out 50, or went to the game hall to push Dragon Ball to win the jackpot? She replied: "Behind some smiles are the gritted souls."
Then her colleagues laughed at her: "It's worthy of reading, and a cold joke can come from the book. "She said, "Bitterness is also a day, and happiness is a day. If we have this project, then the difficulties will not be interrupted. I slipped away, otherwise I will let Xiao Qian fly over and hit me."
she is now The work she does is not her favorite. She prefers to draw a picture every day, read a book, tease the cat, and go shopping with her classmates. But life always has to defeat some things you don't like in order to get some things you desire, such as a stable work and life.
I often tell myself, hurry up and finish what I don’t like, so I can have more time to do what I love. Otherwise, time is wasted on suffocation. It's envious to be able to just watch others live the life you want to live.
03 There is a lot of powerlessness in life, but you still have to live a stronger version of yourself
Two days before the Mid-Autumn Festival, friends contacted more. A successful sister asked me if I had returned to my hometown. I said that the epidemic did not dare to go. She said calmly: "If the epidemic is over, go back and see more.Don't be like me. When my grandma passed away, I couldn't even return to look at her for the last time.
Desperately live a good life, but I feel that I have lost more. Hahaha, let’s not say much. When we look back, we remember to come out to eat, and don’t be bored to work in the study room. This work will never be finished. "
I read a topic on the Internet called "There is a lot of powerlessness in life, but I still want to live as an ideal self", but this ideal path is so long, so long that there is no time to spend time with my family, let alone nothing Time to spend time with the elders.
some time ago, my aunt passed away. I talked to my mother about how good my aunt was to us when I was young. My mother said, don’t think so much, life is so long, who It’s not about living a life while hurting. If you want to take good care of your own little family, you’re destined to have a lot of it. They "work", "work" and "work" mentally, and let others say that she is "tossing" or "not caring about the family." Some of them overeated and gained 30 kilograms after being broken in love, and then desperately lost weight and became fairies; Some keep writing, treating writing as a brick-and-mortar physical task, and they feel sore fingers every day.
No matter how difficult life is, they always force themselves to do what they should do . When you go to work, you should have a meal, and you should vote for your resume. Don’t give up even if you have a bad day. Because they are determined to live a better version of themselves, not simply a better version of themselves.
because only oneself is better,Only when I have spare capacity to get my own small family home, I can take a look at my big family and be more determined and powerful.
Many people praised them for their bravery and fearlessness. They dared to quit their jobs and go to the big cities. They dared to start all over again at the age of 40.
But the so-called bravery comes from not being afraid of losing. Just like the sentence said in "Kill a Mockingbird": "Being brave is that you know you will lose before you start, but you still have to do it, and do it anyway. Stick to it to the end."
Life is really difficult, but as long as you don’t admit defeat, life will not fail you.
Even if you don’t know what tomorrow will be like, you don’t even know how many tomorrows you have, but as long as you can see the meaning behind all your hard work, you can face life persistently.
There is a saying in the Douban high-score American drama "This Is Us": "You have to learn how to give your life the most sour lemon to make a cup of sweet lemon juice."
It's sad to pass, and it will pass sooner or later.
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