People are born to be afraid of loneliness, especially when they are slowly getting old, and no one is with them, this life will be very tormented! In the old age, many couples will always divorce because of some relationship problems, or they will be alone because of some accidents and diseases! These are very common in old age, and sometimes unavoidable!
However, many single elderly people in their old age still look forward to finding another wife to stay together for the rest of their lives. Remarriage in old age is also popular, and many children agree, but it is not easier for the elderly to remarry to find a spouse than for the young. On the contrary, it is more complicated and difficult.
After all, they have been married and have a mature family structure. If they don’t match well, remarry impulsively in order to satisfy their desires. This will most likely lead to a breakup in the end!
A 61-year-old divorced woman from the same community, Aunt Zhong, is very strict in her treatment of remarrying and finding a wife. But after many years of being single and dating so many people, none of them succeeded in the end! Aunt Zhong cried helplessly: "When I remarry to find a wife, as long as the other party meets the four-point requirement, why is no man willing to marry me?" Next, let's see what the aunt asked!
Aunt Zhong, 61 years old
I am 61 years old this year, and I have been retiring for many years, and I have a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan. I have a daughter, but she married out of town early and gave birth to two grandchildren. One family is okay. The son-in-law is in the building materials business, and her husband's family is in the big city too!
However, compared to my life, it was a miserable life. Because I divorced my husband when I was 45 years old. In fact, my husband and I have always had a fragile marriage. We were married late. He was 32 years old and I was 30 years old. With the help of both parents and matchmakers, we got married and had children after a short time together. Therefore, there is no love marriage, and there is no emotional mingling, just to deal with the elders and inherit the lineage.
Marriage without feelings, we have also lived together for more than ten years, and we have two daughters, but because both are daughters,As a result, my in-laws didn’t wait to see me, saying that I was a money-loser, and then gave birth to a bunch of money-losing goods.
Later, my husband accidentally had a child with another woman, and he was still a boy. When my in-laws found out, they forced me to quit the house and let the woman in. In this way, I divorced my husband decisively. At that time, I didn't want any fixed assets. I only needed a deposit of more than 100,000 yuan and my 14-year-old daughter.
At that time, many people said that they were stupid, a divorced woman in her 40s who still had a daughter. Who would want to marry again in the future? Actually, I also have a reason. After all, my mother-in-law’s family is patriarchal. If I can take a daughter, I can make a daughter suffer less. As for not taking the youngest daughter together, I can’t do anything about it. Little, I can't take care of her at all.
After the divorce, my eldest daughter and I rented a house together. She started living in junior high school until the university, and I worked hard every day just to give her the best life. In a blink of an eye, now I am also retired, and my eldest daughter also has a new home and new life in the big city.
My son-in-law's family is very good, and they are very filial to me. They always take me to live in the big city every year when I come back, but I refused all the time. After all, it is the daughter's in-laws, and I am a maiden, and there will always be great inconvenience!
However, the older people are, the more likely they are to be afraid of loneliness, especially after I retired, I have nothing to do, and life day after day is very boring. I am even more sad to see couples and lovers everywhere in the park or in the community.
So, I feel that I have been liberated and can no longer live alone in a muddle-headed manner, so I want to find a wife who treats each other sincerely, and walk the rest of my life together! I also shared this idea with my son-in-law and daughter, and they also expressed their support for me.
However, thinking of past marriages, I feel that this remarriage cannot be too casual. I must find a match with myself and identify with my significant other. To this end, I also have 4 small requirements for the other half:
1. Have a good personality, be loyal to me, and have no sway
If you are looking for a wife, you must find a good personality.Otherwise, find someone who is grumpy and likes to beat his wife, that is not looking for happiness, but looking for sin! Another point is to be loyal to me, and only love me in this life!
Although it is said that no man is perfect, no man will be loyal to anyone, but I think that since he chooses to remarry in his old age, he must take good care of his wife and love each other sincerely. With a hint of crooked mind, he can't have any trouble with other opposite sex.
Because I know that people are emotional animals, and when they meet the opposite sex, there will always be a kind of attraction to each other. My ex-husband is like this. Although we have no feelings, he is just like a honest person on weekdays, but since changing jobs, When there are more people of the opposite sex, a major event will happen and our marriage will soon break up.
So, if the wife I am looking for, as long as I am with me, he can no longer get close to the opposite sex, let alone be alone with men and women!
2. Household expenses and housework must be shared, and no one can take advantage of it
In my opinion, I think whether it is newly married or remarried, as long as married, it is a family. Therefore, the daily expenses in the future must be shared, and it is best to share AA, so as not to complain about who pays more and who pays less.
And housework is also the case. It cannot be said that a man is the king of the house. He cannot go to the kitchen, broom, or wash the dishes, etc., but the husband and wife are equal. When I cook, he has to wash the dishes. Got to mop the floor!
This is not what I imagined out of thin air, but my previous marriage was like this. My ex-husband was a mom and he didn’t know anything, and he listened to the fucking things, which caused me to be busy at home and outside while working. While bringing a baby, I also had to do housework. For more than ten years, I had never experienced the joy of being a daughter-in-law, except for the endless housework and the endless heart.
In the final analysis, household expenses must be AA, and housework must be evenly distributed. No one can take advantage of others!
3. The other party must have a pension and a certain deposit,Only in this way can the quality of life be guaranteed.
It is said that women are very material, and they talk about money as soon as they get married. In fact, this requirement of women is not material, but for their own happiness! Just like me, I have a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan. This money can guarantee the rest of my life and live a stable and stable life.
So the wife I am looking for is the same. They must have a pension, and it is best to have a deposit, so that we can live together in stability and harmony.
If the other party is old and has no money, and has to rely on the children for a little support, then the life will be very passive. Once the children are not filial, they will live a miserable life, and then I will split my pension into two. Banhua, I am very reluctant, even if the other party loves me again, I will not choose. This is not because I am very material, nor is I very selfish, but this is the reality of old people's old age pension!
4. The other party must have a house and cannot live with their children for a long time
I have lived for so many years. Although I have not lived with my children, I have seen a lot of them because of their children. An example of living together and causing family discord. In my eyes, it is the same. Living with young children and elderly people, no matter how filial or sensible the children are, it will cause conflicts between right and wrong.
Also, for the special status of my later companion, it is easy to be at odds with my biological children, let alone with non-natural children. Therefore, my biggest requirement is that the other party should have his own house and ensure that only the two of us live, and our children can live there, but only for a short period of time. It will not be suitable for a long time!
However, whenever I am on a blind date, I have stated these four requirements, and many blind daters will have nothing to follow. Some more abominable men would say to me bluntly: "I'm so old and so hypocritical!" "I don't know what kind of stuff I am, and want to ask us men how to be perfect and perfect!" They even said to me: " You are not looking for a wife,Are you hiring a man? "Wait.
Hearing these words, and facing repeated rejections, I am really sad and puzzled. Why is no one willing to marry me? Are my four requirements too excessive? Isn’t this a normal way of getting along between husbands and wives? Why don’t men nowadays know how to identify with our women? I’ve gotten along, and some have refused on the spot, and some have not responded inexplicably. Although there is no one who has succeeded, I will not simplify the requirements for finding a partner because of this. I have always believed that remarriage requires happiness, and happiness is. Need to match each other and recognize each other!
Conclusion: After reading Aunt Zhong’s 4 o’clock remarriage request, do you think it is reasonable? And for the elderly remarriage, do you think it should be so material and realistic? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area to discuss and talk about your views!
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