When talking about marriage issues, most people put their eyes on women.
Because many people think that women are more likely to appear on the topic of marriage. For example, women will select future husbands, and they will also pay attention to each other's family conditions or family atmosphere.
But in fact, when it comes to marriage, not only women pay attention to a man’s family and conditions. Men are actually very concerned about the family conditions of women's natal families.
The only difference is that women may treat this problem more straightforwardly and speak out more directly. And men may be inconvenience to express it directly because of face, but will analyze it by themselves.
In fact, for men, the family conditions of a woman's natal family are also an important condition for marriage. After all, women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, and men are also afraid of marrying the wrong wife.
In summary, there are three main reasons why men care about women's family conditions.
One: I don’t want too much pressure after marriage
In this world, if there are choices, I think most people will choose a more relaxed way. Although it sounds less humane, it is a fact.
Whether it is a man or a woman, most of them want to have a relatively economically good marriage environment. This not only considers the lives of two people, but also considers the environment in which the children grow up after having children.
Especially nowadays, many people need to spend a lot of money when they get married. The gift money for buying a car and buying a house is not a small amount. Many families have emptied their homes basically just to prepare for this, unless the family’s financial conditions are good, that’s another matter.
In this situation, many people are under great pressure. After all, because the marriage spent such a sum of money, it means that there will be a lot of financial pressure after marriage.
So, if the woman’s natal family is in good family conditions, we can also look forward to some dowry things that the woman’s parents will give to each other. Although these things are brought by the woman, at least they can relieve a certain amount of economic pressure.
If the wife’s natal family is in bad family conditions,He will feel that after marriage, the two can only rely on themselves to absorb the financial pressure.
2: Worrying about the burden of the other's family
The marriage of two people not only means that a man married a wife in the door, but also means that he has an extra pair of parents. Relatives of a family.
Since he called the other's parents to say parents, then to some extent, he also has a certain responsibility to treat his wife's parents.
Therefore, before marriage, many men will go to the wife’s house to find out about the other’s family. On the one hand, they want to see what kind of person the other’s parents are, and on the other hand, they want to see what the three views of the other’s family are like. .
If the woman’s family conditions are average, but she has a pair of sensible parents who have a very upright attitude, then the man will also think that the other’s family is very high-quality. At least from the perspective of the family atmosphere, this can be considered a wealth.
But if the woman’s parents’ three views are not right, such as patriarchal patriarchal or extreme thinking about some things, he will consider whether to give up the relationship.
After all, if men become their son-in-law in the future, they are also obligated to take on some responsibilities. If they encounter in-laws who have problems with the three views, there may also be many problems in future life.
is like Qiao Yicheng in ": Sons and Daughters of Qiao's Family ". He married Ye Xiaolang, who grew up in a patriarchal family, and took on some unreasonable demands of her natal family. Helping her brother buy a house and helping her parents solve the problem is really a cost and effort.
3: I think that if conditions are good, marriage will be more stable
Many people agree with one sentence: Poor and lowly couples are sad. They feel that 99% of the problems in marriage are caused by money.
Many people are relatively emotional when they are in love.I feel that as long as there is love in my heart, then all problems are not problems. No matter what happens, as long as two people love each other, they can be solved.
But in fact, in real life, marriage is not the ideal state, but the grounded chai, rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea. When you are in love, you don't have too much money involved, so you don't have a big problem when you fall in love.
But once two people enter a marriage, they need to face many real problems. For example, daily expenses, childbirth expenses, childcare expenses and so on. You will find that many things in life require financial ability to solve.
Although many people may not have entered into marriage, the marital status of some friends around them, or the marriage experience of parents at home makes them have a certain understanding and understanding of the problems in marriage, so they will start to think about it before getting married. Some problems in life after marriage.
They may feel that if economic conditions are good, relatively speaking, life after marriage can reduce many unnecessary problems, it can be easier, and it will be relatively stable.
As long as the problem of money is not the main factor, then the life of the two people after marriage only needs to run in and adapt to each other.
Marriage is a big event. After all, it takes a lifetime. Many things must be considered comprehensively before marriage.
When you are in love, what you value more is affection and getting along. As long as two people like each other and get along, there is no problem.
But marriage is different. Marriage requires a down-to-earth life. What you need to face after marriage is more of the trivialities in life. If you just rely on love to persist, then when your love begins to be dull, marriage will also There is only a chicken feather left.
Therefore, before marriage, whether it is a man or a woman, you need to think about some of the problems you will face after marriage. If you don't have the courage to face it, put off the time to enter marriage for a while.
If you are determined to manage your marriage, it is not that difficult, you only need to do three things.
- understand each other.Each of us will have some troubles and problems in our lives. At this time, we may be emotionally low and may say something unpleasant. At this time, the other half's understanding will be very important. Because if the other party does not understand us, it is very likely that we are deliberately arguing with us. Therefore, in marriage, mutual understanding is very important.
- Accept each other's badness. The so-called no one is perfect, in this world, no one is absolutely perfect. Don't always think that the next one will be better. In fact, the next one will have its shortcomings. Rather than always thinking about meeting the next one, it is better to cherish the present lover and let him be the one that suits you.
- support each other. We want to enter into marriage, in fact, we want to find a safe haven in the marriage, so that when we are tired, we can rest freely. In life, each of us encounters difficulties and problems. At this stage, all we can do is to comfort and support each other, and then get through this difficulty together.
Only in this way can we get healing and warmth from this marriage, and we will be able to go on more firmly.
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