Raising a child has never been an easy task. From the moment the child reaches the ground, he is placed on the tip of his heart and held in the palm of his hand. When he is older, in addition to letting him eat and dress warm, he must also prevent him from being mischievous and delaying. After finishing his studies, afterwards, he has to worry about starting a family, marrying a wife and having children. is full of hope and responsibility, working hard and happy.
However, it’s not the end to bring up children. In many cases, old people want money for their children out of distress, and they have to work hard. Whether it’s car loans, mortgages, or grandchildren’s education funds, they do everything they can to help. , Just to lighten the burden for the children.
However, some children only know to accept the favor, but don’t know how to feed back. Netizen Aunt Guo deeply regrets this, and bluntly said that his son "married his wife and forgot his mother". It's a good thing to stay down, but it's better to see her story as the in-laws who don't pay for it.
I am 59 years old, and my wife is two years older than me. My hair is much whiter and a little hunched. Before retiring, I was busy outside all day long, and I rarely sat down and rested. I only care about eating, drinking and dressing at home, and the courtesy of relatives and friends. has a clear division of labor and complements each other.
Years are not forgiving. I spent most of my life in order to make a living. I thought that if my son got married and started a business, my wife and I would be able to enjoy the old age, but I didn’t want to plan without changing fast. The pressure of the couple also increased, so naturally my wife and I couldn't just sit idly by.
Before going through the house, the daughter-in-law was spoiled by her relatives, and she was spoiled by her son after she married. It can be said that the ten fingers do not touch the sun and spring water. The two seldom cook at home and go out without ordering takeout.
Because of concerns about nutrition and hygiene,I wake up and go to the market to buy fresh ingredients almost every day, and then take two buses. rushes from the north to the south to cook and clean up for my son and daughter-in-law. When I’m done, it’s almost the afternoon. Thing.
The daughter-in-law has a bright mind, knowing that we can’t let go of our children, and often talk about the children in our stomachs, uses the opportunity to improve the quality of life and the family’s expenses are not enough to make ends meet, so I and my wife can help them pay for the mortgage. .
When my son got married a few years ago, it is said that my wife and I could buy a wedding house for my son with full money, but my daughter-in-law was eyeing the expensive downtown school district house, so suggested to us, The house is mortgaged, the loan is repaid by them, and then they buy a trolley, which is equivalent to buying two large pieces with the same money.
Consider this son of us, no matter how many families we have, it will be his sooner or later, , so the son has no objection, and it is his parents' responsibility. My wife and I add up to a monthly pension of over 8,000, and repay the couple with a mortgage of more than 4,000. The remaining money is enough to live. When the legs and feet are unsuccessful, the daughter-in-law can know how to feed back.
However, what happened next made my heart cold. The better you treat your daughter-in-law, the less serious she will be. started to call for a variety of fruits and vegetables. If you don’t have money, don’t mention it. The key is that you don’t even have a polite word. Utilities can be paid on your mobile phone, but it’s not. Ask me to pay for it.
In this way, the little money in my hand can’t be used up, and my wife also has some opinions on my daughter-in-law, but I was forced to find a tally job, With an extra income, life can go on.
How much money do we have,My daughter-in-law knows that she finally saved three thousand dollars and put it in the TV cabinet in the living room. She planned to save some more and go out with her wife. did not expect to be turned over by her daughter-in-law, citing that the grandson lacked a baby stroller. , Took away two thousand.
The son looked at him, but he didn't stand up to be fair. Instead, he helped his daughter-in-law beat the drums, saying that we should only have a single seedling for him, and shouldn't keep his private money behind his back. They sang and got in touch with each other, and the wife was so angry. Heaven has no appetite.
I'm not afraid of everyone's jokes, my daughter-in-law has been around for almost five years, and the number of times we spend money can be counted with one slap. Every New Year’s and holidays, other people’s children are bought at home in big bags, my daughter-in-law always takes out, occasionally talks with neighbors, unavoidably mentioning what the son gave, how the daughter is filial, and I My wife can only act on the fly, pretending to be filial, , but to be honest, she feels very uncomfortable.
Until the eve of the Mid-Autumn Festival, something happened that made me make up my mind to stop paying for my daughter-in-law. Don’t think my mother-in-law is two years younger than me, but the two are incomparable. She draws eyebrows and eyes when she goes out. She is very particular about dressing, but I look like a spinning top with my son in my head. With my grandson, I was so busy every day that I didn't have time and thought to mess with myself.
When my in-laws came to my house that day, my daughter-in-law asked me to cook a few more dishes, and also pay attention to the combination of meat and vegetables. It is said that the autumn sunshine is just right, but it seems to me very difficult. and their mothers are sitting in the living room drinking tea and sipping sunflower seeds. I was sweating in the kitchen by myself.
When the food was on the table, the son and daughter-in-law only tried to please her in-laws, and kept putting vegetables in her bowl, leaving my wife and me aside, as if we were superfluous. The meal was boring, even a little bit embarrassment.
After drinking and eating, the work of washing and washing has fallen to my wife and I.The son takes the child out for a walk, and the daughter-in-law accompanies in-laws back to the room to rest. Suddenly the mobile phone rang at the dinner table, and I saw my daughter-in-law's mobile phone at a glance, so I kindly sent it in. happened to see my daughter-in-law holding two stacks of money to her in-laws, which should be 20,000 yuan.
I made my face calm, without saying a word, put down my phone and quit. Less than ten minutes before and after, my son came back in a hurry. complained that I shouldn't inquire about my daughter-in-law's personal affairs. He also said that my mother-in-law's birthday is coming soon. The 20,000 yuan is for her birthday, so I don't have to worry about it.
In-law’s birthday, my son remembers clearly, and it’s not without grandeur, my wife and I’s birthday, let alone express it, I owe even a word of blessings, thinking of such a gap, plus the son’s words, It makes me totally chilled.
are both parents. I ask myself, I am more dedicated than my in-laws, why is the treatment not as good as my in-laws? I thought for a long time, and felt that I was too catching up and too easy to talk, so I was pinched by my daughter-in-law. From the birth of my grandson to the present, I have spent two years, but I ended up with an unpleasant end. I really feel aggrieved.
The next morning, I packed up my things and left without saying goodbye, and sent my thoughts to the small group of four of us. told them that from now on, my wife and I will no longer contribute money and work, the mortgage will be repaid by ourselves, and the children will be raised by themselves, don't think about us, and they won't need them in the future. Rather than doing anything to please me, it is better to take advantage of the time and enjoy a few years of comfort with my wife. Do you think I am doing this right?
Peacock's Heart:
Too many parents can enjoy their twilight life, but for their children to live a more refined life, they will not hesitate to drag themselves down, but also have to do everything. Although it is a kind heart, it is not always a good return.
I always want to share the burden for my children, which not only makes them easy to become shopkeepers,If they are absent from the role of parents, they will develop into a comfortable "grabbing old people" and neglect their responsibilities as children.
For the elderly, the real old age is to let go of their worries about their children and let them take control of their lives. We can support appropriately, but we can't do it too much. Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and they will last for only a few decades. Don't just think about turning yourself into a tool man, but also leave a way out for your old age, don't you think?
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