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"Amplification of Xianwen": " 17strong is the meaning of span11 _span1 _span1 _span strong. , Why bother to fight for a high and low to be a human being, once you lose your life, you will have nothing. The reason is very simple. Although people should have something to pursue while alive, if they are competing for comparison, if they are eager to win, they will be better than everyone, and they will laugh. If they are not as good as others, they will be sad. not long.
Even if you live a full life, you don’t have many years. Why don’t you know how to cherish good times and do meaningful things? What if you win others, what if you don’t let others live well, you are destined to be unable to beat everyone, if you spend your entire life chasing such results, sooner or later you will be exhausted on the road.
It is understandable to chase fame and fortune when you are young, but after a certain age, it is a bit unwise to not know how to be content. Especially after some people have the status of the elders, when your life has to depend on the younger ones in some aspects, you will only ruin your own life by competing for superiority in ways that are detrimental to the lives of the younger ones. .
For example, the following woman talked about the life of her neighbor’s house, which is the problem of her mother-in-law asking for hardship.Let’s take a look at what’s going on:
"My neighbor’s life really confirms the sentence "Every family has a hard-to-read sutra", if not her mother-in-law mixed her Life, everything will be very peaceful, it's a pity that there is no such thing as if, her mother-in-law is considered an objective existence. If she doesn't handle her mother-in-law's problems properly, their family will not think about living well.
The problem seems simple. Her mother-in-law is too greedy. She thinks that her son and daughter are married. She should be raised by her children and should be better off than others. In fact, this wish of her mother-in-law is unrealistic in itself, because the conditions of her children are limited, and it is very good to be able to provide her for the elderly together. She definitely cannot achieve her wish if she asks more excessively .
But her mother-in-law is smart, she said bad things about her daughter-in-law in front of her daughter, and she said bad things about her daughter-in-law in front of her. It didn't work, and put herself in a situation that no one wanted to control.
Although my neighbor and her sister-in-law did not ventilate with each other, her mother-in-law's two-way complaints have also been told to other people. It spread, and it spread to my neighbor's ears first, and she let her mother-in-law in anger. He went to live in my sister-in-law's house, but it was passed to her sister-in-law's ears again. Her sister-in-law asked her mother-in-law to go back to her daughter-in-law's house to live in. In the end, her mother-in-law could only live by herself.
If her mother-in-law is not so greedy and contented, she can live with her son and daughter in turn. Compared with others? How are you doing better than other mother-in-laws? What if no one else is doing well? As long as your life is not too bad, isn't it all right ?
someone like her mother-in-law,It can only be said that she is clever, asks for hardships, is not greedy, can't see, can't figure it out, and ruined her old life by herself. 』
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The human heart is not enough to swallow the elephant. Once a person is dominated by inner greed, he will assume a state similar to "profit-seeking". Moreover, once a person is not greedy, he is often eager to win, wants to cut corners, wants to take shortcuts, and thus he wants to calculate others. But the problem is that others are not stupid, how can you let you calculate? In the end, you miscalculated, or you are punished because of greed, let alone get a better life, you may even lose the life you already have.
Especially when people are in their old age, they should pay more attention to this kind of problem. The last thing you should do is to count your children, otherwise you will not be treated well by them. When you are old, you can only rely on yourself. . Taking a step back, what if you succeed in your calculations? Can you take it away when you die? It's better to look a little bit more open, to be content a little, and to be less greedy can you be more free.
In addition to greed in the conventional sense, there is another greed that is easily overlooked and should be taken seriously. That is: Don’t care too much about others’ opinions, especially bad reviews. And blame, otherwise it will form a psychological burden. "Careful too much" is also a kind of greed, but when you are dominated by this greed, you are always thinking about how others will evaluate you, and you will be upset, eating poorly, and sleeping poorly. Of course, such a state of life would be very bad .
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Yang Jiang In " we three " there is a description of the marriage lifeIt covers the true meaning of "satisfaction and happiness": "During this period, Zhong Shu lived alone, and visited the maternity hospital every day. He often said bitterly, "I have done bad things." He overturned the ink bottle and took the landlord home. My tablecloth was dyed. I said, “It’s okay, I can wash it.” Ink!” Ink can also wash.’ He went back without worry, because he believed what I said, “It’s okay.” He was in the maternity ward. After I returned to the apartment, I really fixed all the'bad things' I did."
This is a very peaceful picture of life. It comes from the fact that the husband and wife respect each other, treat each other kindly and understand each other on the basis of contentment. trust each other. As long as one of them is not satisfied, it will not be so peaceful.
This should be the life that every family should have, but it is not so common, because now many people are too impetuous, busy pursuing material desires, busy being dominated by greed, and gradually turning away from everything. Satisfied, there is no time to even sit down and eat and chat with my family.
People always say that being busy is for life, and the pursuit of material desire is also for life, but do you really live the life you want because of it? You may say that the time has not passed because the time has not arrived. It will be fine if you are busy for ten or eight years, but how can you be sure that you will be satisfied after ten or eight years? What if you are more greedy? Why can't we set aside a fixed time for contentment and enjoyment? Everyone can ask themselves, we always talk about life, but do we really remember what life is ?
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