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Should I mind if my husband invites a female colleague to dinner?
Teacher, my husband and I had a flash marriage. It only took more than 20 days from meeting to getting the certificate.
I really liked him at the time, and I could feel that he liked me very much. He often came to see me, and he was very good to me, so he got married in spite of himself.
But shortly after receiving the certificate, I learned from his father that he broke up with his ex-girlfriend who had been talking for a few months in the previous month. The reason for the breakup was that the wife asked for too many gifts.
During this period, I also turned to many sad poems he wrote after breaking up.
I feel deceived. He didn't tell me about it before marriage. At the same time, I also feel that he doesn't love me that much. It's really sad.
I questioned him. It was a long time and he explained it to me before it came to an end, but there was always a shadow in my heart.
Soon after we got married, we feasted a colleague from his unit. A woman was drunk and said that their unit had matched them before, and then I had to ask my husband to send her home. Displeased, but did not show it, and sent her home with her husband.
Because I don’t work with my husband, we can only see each other on weekends.
After a while, I called him several times in the afternoon but did not answer.At night, I called me back. After repeated questioning, I said that the woman was invited to dinner. The environment was too noisy. He didn't hear the phone ringing, so he didn't answer it.
For this reason, we had a long quarrel on the phone. He also apologized to me and said that he would keep a distance from the woman in the future.
During this period of confinement, I accidentally checked his mobile phone and saw that he wanted to invite the woman to dinner. Although the chat content was normal, I was very unhappy.
Because of this, I had a big fight. My husband was so bold and wanted to reason with me, saying that they are normal colleagues. He wanted her, so he said he wanted to ask.
Because of this incident, their family members think that I am stingy and I have no measure. I don’t know what to do. Am I really stingy? People say that the deeper the love in the relationship, the easier it is to get hurt, right?
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Because he didn't come, there is a huge chance that he won't see it, so we won't say more.
Because you are here, we will talk about some things that you can improve. In case you want to improve, there are also directions.
You finally asked a question: "People say that the deeper the love in the relationship, the more likely to be hurt.Yeah?
First of all, do you love deeply? Sister Luyu said: I don’t think so.
In the movie "Su Qier", Su Qier saw a bowl of dog rice and rushed over. Is it good to eat dog food? Does he love dog food? Don’t you think this behavior is a bit like you?
Secondly, it is easy to get hurt if you love deeply Sister Luyu said: I don’t think either.
Don’t put gold on your face, you are too impulsive and unable to keep up.
Not only in the emotional world, in many The domains are: people who don’t have diamonds like to work on porcelain. Many novices like to take shortcuts and want to reach the sky in one step. , Take it slow, faster.
If you want, there are a few points that can be improved:
1. The average person should not flash marriage
, When you feel that you are not an ordinary person, and your situation is different from others, usually you are an ordinary person.
Flash marriage is like du, and it’s not a du with a probability of 50%, it is that kind of jade without any knowledge of jade. I went to the jade market on the border between China and Myanmar to buy a piece of rough stone.Cut open to see if there is jade, du stone-like du, it is almost useless.
Flash marriage is played by masters, and most people still come step by step.
2. Don’t always say that you are deceived. You did not ask some things
"You said you felt deceived. He didn't tell me about it before marriage", but I feel You didn't ask, but he told you that if you feel bad, it is impossible to flash marriage with him.
Could you ask, did he lie to you? It shouldn't be. If so, you won't say "feeling deceived", you will justly say that he deceived you.
Eat a bite, gain wisdom, a large amount of experience gathered, can help you complete the pre-screening.
3. When the crack starts, stop it.
Your husband violated the social agreement secretly eating with colleagues, it is his fault.
Looking back on the whole incident, if there is another time, and in the future, if the matter can be repeated, when the female colleague asked your husband to send her home, you were unhappy, you should Express it consistently.
You should also know that you are a jealous jar, and you should also know that your husband’s social boundaries are not very clear, so take precautions before they happen. It is better to remedy things before they happen, or not to remedy them.
You are not stingy, but you can do better.
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Does he love me or be lustful?
Hello teacher,It's been more than a year since I saw your Q&A. I really like your answering objectively and fairly, and I admire you very much.
My problem is that my boyfriend and I are both divorced and single, and both have a boy. The children are raised by each other and we pay for the support.
I am 39 years old, 1.7 meters, 120 kilograms. I start my own company. I have an annual salary of 600,000+. I have a house and a car. I have a 6-point appearance.
boyfriend 32 years old, 1.8 meters, 135 kilograms, working in a foreign company, very dedicated, with an annual salary of 300,000, a house and a car mortgage, looks worth 5 points.
We are all in second-tier cities. We got together for three and a half years. In the second year, he cheated on a colleague. They were together for about a month.
I feel that my boyfriend was trying to deceive. After I found out, he cried and knelt, knelt down and chased me back. After that, the mobile phone became public, the emotional concentration was high, and his affection for me was delicate.
I spend a lot of time getting along with each other, and I almost pay for it. He invests a lot in his ex-wife and son, and his salary is basically spent on the child except for the mortgage. He is very attentive to his son. Video every day.
I can feel that he likes little girls, and likes to comment on the appearance of little girls.
I asked why I chose me since I like little girls so much. He said that I have a good temperament, a difference, a kind person, and harmony with my sex life.
A few days ago, I discovered that he followed more than two hundred sexy anchor beauties. I once again doubted his character.
My question is:
Do you want to get along with him? Is he sincere to me? Does Huaxin have many times once?
Hunter has something to say
"Slag man" is a word with a high resonance rate among girls.Many people can arouse empathy, but if you want to have a better life, you should choose a higher resolution.
It is true that "men don't have a good thing" and "men who can breathe are all scumbags". These words are inflammatory.
If you decide not to marry or fall in love with a man for the rest of your life, that's great. If you still want to get married in the end, then this kind of rhetoric of killing all men with one shot will make you at a loss.
At this resolution, you will feel that whoever chooses is a scum, and you will be in a panic all day long. How can you live a good life?
A higher resolution statement is: "Derailment only has 0 and N+1 times", and "derailment" is replaced by "domestic violence" and "flower heart", which also applies.
This is the resolution you have now. Under this resolution, he is still denied, but you still want to be with him, so I'll ask if there is a higher resolution .
The higher resolution is:
There are usually two factors for whether a person will do something good: one is caused by environmental pressure, for example, passion Sha people; one kind of nature is like this, for example, sha is addictive.
Then you first ask yourself: Have you implemented a "high-pressure policy" against him?
For example:
1. Taizuo,I often have to coax
2. Too clingy, too strong sense of demand
3. Excessive demand for economic value and emotional value _p3 br 4 p0 p0 I don’t agree with each other, and I often quarrel, but only you say it, don’t tell him
……
If the above is not available, then he can "defeat his colleague" and "do something". Kneeling and licking", "Follow hundreds of beautiful anchors" and so on, these are all signs of a scumbag, and it is not the kind of scum that is secretly poked, it is the scum of the dregs written on the face.
These signs are gathered together, rather than a single sign to judge. I feel that you can gather 7 dragon balls and summon the dragon, which can make him a complete scum man puzzle.
All the clues point to: his scum is like this by nature.
If heart refers to loving a person, he can almost be said to be heartless, how can he be sincere? Now all dimensions are not optimistic that he can change it, you can figure it out.
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