Sometimes what the naked eye sees is not necessarily the truth, right and wrong, different perspectives.
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I am a hotel manager, my husband is Lin Jie, 37 years old.
I met my husband when I was 24 years old. QQ was very popular at the time. We met on the Internet, and it happened that we were in the same city.
We talked for 2 months. One day, he asked me where to work. I said Xiyangyang convenience store. He said he was a regular customer there and he wanted to see me.
There are 3 shifts in the convenience store. He doesn't know which cashier I am. When I go to work, send a message to him: I am in the store.
He who lives not far away came here on foot, and I realized that he is indeed a regular customer. He saw my first sentence: "It turned out to be you."
"It's me, have you disappointed?" "Why, I've already..." He didn't say anything, his face was a little red.
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He often asked me to play later. We went to the West Lake to play and went to the gourmet street delicacy. One day, he confessed to me with a bunch of flowers .
He said shyly: "I actually liked you very early. I have fallen in love with you during the past few months. Would you like to be my girlfriend?"
We are all shy, even if we like it. Not dare to say anything, I took the flower and nodded. He was so happy that he almost jumped up.
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During the relationship, I learned thatThere is an older brother in his family, he is married, and his father is not in good health. His mother died very early.
When his father saw that I liked it very much, he told Lin Jie to visit my house. Later Lin Jie bought a lot of cigarettes and alcohol to go to my house. My mother said that you are 7 years younger than you and your communication is not very good.
When in love, a woman's IQ is zero. I just wanted to marry him and live a small life. My mother saw that I was so firm and agreed to my marriage with Lin Jie.
I learned from the Internet that we were married for about one and a half years, when I was 26 years old. On the night of the wedding, we were both the first time for each other. After that time, Lin Jie treated me very well, but I always felt that something was wrong.
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Maybe I loved him very much at the time, so I quickly dispelled my doubts. In this way, the two people live on the same floor as the old man, but it has been more than a year and I am not pregnant yet. At first, his family thought it was my problem.
Three aunts and six poems said something terrible. I often cried secretly, but I didn't expect it to be like this after marriage. Lin Jie accompanied me to the examination, but it turned out that I just had some inflammation, and the doctor said it did not affect fertility.
Later, I asked Lin Jie to check and found out that it was his cause. The doctor asked him to go for a test, and the result was: azoospermia . (Only surgery)
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Our hearts were very heavy that day. I always consider others more. I comfort him not to get discouraged. First adjust his body, and then go to Guangzhou University Hospital for examination.
Just like this, I accompany him to Guangzhou for 3 months. The professor directly said that if we want to have our own children, we can only pass the test tube, saying that my husband has been in this situation for many years.
I was so angry at the time, I asked him: "What are you hiding from me." He couldn't keep the paper wrapped up. "When I was a child, I had an operation soon after I was born. I was young and I didn't know my situation." I was so angry that I could hardly say: "How can you be like this.
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During that time, I went back to my natal house. My mother knew the situation and persuaded me to divorce, but I really love him. I cry every day. Lin Jie calls me every day and asks me to forgive me. I ran to my family’s knees. To tell the truth, I hate my softheartedness and promise to forgive him. I hate myself making test tubes for him even more. Jing waited for a series of test tube operations, I was pregnant, God may pity me, let me succeed in one go, but these countless days and nights, I traveled between two places, because of him, my heart and physiology are under a lot of pressure.
pregnant At that time, I really saw through what kind of person he was and went to the hospital for an examination. He could always play with his mobile phone. I was hungry in the middle of the night and asked him to cook me noodles. I crossed the street and he could walk by himself.
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I gave birth to a daughter, but I thought I wouldn’t be told that I was infertile anymore. As a result, I was confined and they always said that I was not a boy. Really?
Throughout the month, my mother took care of me. During the day, my mother boiled me maple leaf water to expel the wind, killed me chickens, boiled chicken wine, and bathed the baby. At that time, Lin Jie asked for leave. Go to school.
Mother is going home at night because she has to be busy at home. I took my daughter to bed, and one day my daughter cried very badly. I couldn’t hold it anymore. The weather was very cold, so I asked the father to hold the child. After two minutes, the next day he said how tired he was, 's lumbar disc was protruding. It really made me mad.
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I took my daughter with a tear and a nose. When I was 3 years old, let her go to kindergarten. I had three meals a day for the elderly and made a little hand-made subsidy for the family. Lin Jie used most of the money for the car.
I have never lived with Lin Jie and my wife. harmonious,He was because of the operation when he was a child. I was afraid that he would feel inferior. I never mentioned that after having a daughter, I put more emphasis on the child.
Until my daughter was in the first grade, I found a job as a floor manager in a nearby hotel. At first, the hotel said that I had no experience. The trial period was 3 months. I had to train every day for the first month. I want to have my own independent economy, so no matter how tired I am, I have to go.
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The executive trainer is the hotel manager Zhao Cheng. On the first day, he was very strict with me and scolded me in front of the staff. After I went home after the training, I complained to my husband. Lin Jie listened a little bit later. I don't care: "Where work is not work, you should suffer a little bit."
I am so angry that I never talk to him about work anymore. I have always had a tougher personality. The more people say I am incompetent, the more I have to work hard.
Zhao Cheng told me again during the training. I corrected my mistakes in time. After half a month, suddenly there was a training session. Zhao Cheng praised me for the first time: "Luo Ping came here for only half a month. I was praised by the guests yesterday. Look at yourself, how long I have been here, I have to learn Luo Ping, everyone can see, I used to criticize her."
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The manager asked me to say a few words, I want to save face "Thanks to Manager Zhao's bloody criticism of me every day, I can thrive." The employees below covered their mouths and laughed.
Manager Zhao was a little embarrassed. After the training, he said that he would invite me to dinner. I still have to give the face. After all, I come to ask for money instead of asking for gas.
I called and went home: "Husband, I won't go back to dinner tonight." Lin Jie hung up the phone with a loud cry.
Zhao Cheng and I went to a western restaurant to eat western food. Zhao Cheng said to me: "I treat you strictly for your own good, Ms. Luo Ping, please don't mind. In the future, we will work together to make the hotel business better and better. "He took coffee instead of wine and clinked glasses with me.
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I said, "I don’t remember the villain,work together. "Maybe because I speak unscrupulously, and I don’t look like other women, Zhao Cheng has always looked at me appreciatively.
After getting married, I basically only contacted Lin Jie, a man. My father-in-law is not a family member, and no one else has worked together. For a while, I was a bit at a loss.
Zhao Cheng suddenly whispered to me: "I'll take you to a place later. "In this way, Zhao Cheng took me to the hotel. At that time, I just thought: Lin Jie has always treated me badly, and because of him, he and I have never looked like a real husband and wife.
I had a relationship with Zhao Cheng that day. Afterwards, I went home. I watched Lin Jie playing on the phone, but I still didn’t care. Ping had her own difficulties and went out of track, but I want to say that for the sake of a long-term marriage, such an approach is not advisable.
Not to mention that after being discovered, the child may be ruined and the child will be affected. After all, the child is innocent.
If you get divorced, you can do whatever you want. When you start a family, you must restrain your behavior. The choice is yours. Think twice before acting. You have to do everything within your control.
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