The writer Ai Xiaoyang once wrote this passage: "Don't talk about the three views and argue about right and wrong in intimate relationships, but learn introspection and gratitude. Know that intimacy is more important than correctness, and tolerance is more important than reformation.
When young people are in love, they often use the reason for refusal: the three views are not in harmony. There are also some young people who say that all the conditions are unconditional when they meet someone who feels right.
When you really meet a person who is beloved, others seem to be "worked", but you feel cute; others dislike him (her) for being sloppy, but you praise: You are a true temperament person!
As long as you love him (her), you will always be able to tolerate and understand what the other person is doing. A little effort from him (her) can make you happy for a long time.
However, time goes by bit by bit. After the freshness in his (her) body, the exposed problems and shortcomings will always make you at a loss.
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The cold war can’t solve the problem
_ , it’s not that a man who loves a woman is the most hurt by Zhang Xiaoxian. She was disappointed when she had expectations. ”
The cold war closed the couple’s language communication bridge and prevented the problem from being resolved in a timely and reasonable manner.
At the beginning of the Cold War,The person in love does not want the other person to admit their mistakes, but wants the other person to speak first, give themselves a step down, and make themselves happy.
However, many people have been autistic and defensive for a long time, and their lovers will be particularly disappointed.
As a result, he (she) began to become indifferent, and began to adapt to life without you, causing emotional breakdown.
Rather than suffering, it is better to leave or cheat as soon as possible. No matter how good the relationship is, the cold war cannot be resisted.
"1988, I want to talk to the world" says:
"I can't tell them, what is love in life?
I am also sinking into it. Autism and defense have never been The answer to the problem."
Having been with the person in love for a long time, it is inevitable that all kinds of problems will arise. The way to solve the problem is very important, and it directly affects whether we can continue to accompany each other.
Since the cold war can't solve the problem, we will change our communication method and live our life with joy.
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In an intimate relationship, understanding is more important than love
Premier Zhou Enlai and his wife Deng Yingchao are a model couple. Premier Zhou always handed over the money to his wife.
One day, Premier Zhou wanted to invite the CEO of Chen Yi to dinner. Deng Yingchao prepared a lot of money and handed it to him.
Premier Zhou said with a look of surprise: "This is too much."
Deng Yingchao smiled, "The children are growing up, meat must be bought, 3 roast ducks. There is also a bottle of wine. Otherwise, it will be difficult for Mr. Chen to have a good time."
Deng Yingchao did not go to dinner because of the meeting. Premier Zhou returned home and brought back the rest of the money, as well as the roast duck.
Premier Zhou’s money is always not enough to spend,His daughter-in-law always puts her own money on to support her husband.
In life, if the husband and wife blame each other, it will be black or white, and life will only get worse.
On the contrary, if two people tolerate, understand and support each other, and manage their own small days, their lives will flourish.
As the saying goes: home and everything are prosperous.
Knowing the joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness of your lover, and being grateful for your partner’s sincere devotion, you can get the most sincere emotions and the happiest life.
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In an intimate relationship, the cold war cannot solve the problem. It will only leave one party disappointed and leave.
Those who really want to be together must learn to break the deadlock of the Cold War. Think about how long it has been since I have spoken well.
More understanding, more understanding, and think about the happiness and beauty of being together. Don't leave easily.
Some people are destined to not be muted. It is better to leave as soon as possible than to make a self-moving contribution.
When we are together, we are kind and righteous; when we are apart, we are chic and unrestrained.
I wish each of us can find someone who understands ourselves.
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