Ms. Guo, who came to the gold medal mediation today, expressed to us her inner feelings for many years, and she feels that she has been very depressed. The source of this feeling is her husband, Mr. Ma. Ms. Guo said frankly that she felt fear when she saw him, and her heart has been unbearable for so many years. But Ms. Guo’s Mr. Ma, who frightened her and even made her mentally on the verge of collapse, behaved like a model husband. His wife had any requirements of him. He was obedient, and his wife pointed out his When he made a mistake, he immediately admitted his mistake and seriously regretted it. In the face of such an excellent Mr. Ma with honesty and sincere attitude, where did the fear in Ms. Guo's heart come from, and enter today's mediation together.
The attitude of Mr. Ma at the beginning of the mediation session seemed to be very sincere. He took the initiative to admit his mistakes on the spot, repented, and even said that he wanted to change his life. But such a statement did not make Ms. Guo happy. What kind of contradiction occurred between them? And where does the fear of her husband in Ms. Guo's mouth come from?
Ms. Guo told us that in the first few years after her marriage, she and her husband had a peaceful and peaceful life although they were not sweet. But slowly, Ms. Guo discovered that her husband had used some violent language and behaviors when dealing with herself, which made her feel unbearable, and even made their marriage a red light for a while.
From the time the child was four or five years old, Ms. Guo discovered that Mr. Ma was lazy and unwilling to take on the family. The two people quarreled frequently, and Mr. Ma even showed violence to Ms. Guo. hand. At that time, Ms. Guo sued the court for divorce out of fear, and finally failed through the mediation of the court and Mr. Ma's promise.
In this way, Mr. Ma relied on his unconcerned promise to let his wife get rid of the idea of divorce and deceived his wife back home. Ms. Guo, who was still in the dark at that time, thought that her husband was as sincere as the court promised, that there should be some changes in her future life, and the couple should be able to live their lives well. But one day after four years,Ms. Guo discovered a shocking thing, and it was the emergence of this incident that brought a nearly devastating blow to their couple and even the entire family.
Ms. Guo said that at that time she was still raising children at home, and suddenly someone came to ask for debts. Only then did she know that Mr. Ma owed 360,000 outside, and the family's monthly income was only four to five thousand. about. At that time, Ms. Guo was confused, but considering that the child was still young, she was reluctant to bear the child, so she chose to stay and repay the loan with her husband. It took five or six years to repay all the loan. Regarding this, Mr. Ma said that he was cheated by a friend this time. In fact, there were 650,000 yuan. He did not dare to tell his wife, but it is almost the same now.
Even though the arrears of 360,000 yuan known to Ms. Guo only accounted for half of what Mr. Ma actually owed. But for their families at the time, it was an astronomical figure that was unbearable. Ms. Guo, who had thought of divorce, thought of her young child, and finally decided to stay, gritted her teeth with her parents-in-law and took on this huge debt. Only Ms. Guo knows how embarrassing and sad the past few years of debt repayment have been. But to this day, when the debt is about to be paid off, and the days are about to be exhausted, Ms. Guo once again filed for divorce with Mr. Ma. The reason is that she believes that her husband has repeated the same mistakes and committed violence again.
Mediation So far, we found that Ms. Guo is very sensitive to her husband’s speech and behavior. This time I want to divorce only because Mr. Ma made some loud noises while cooking. Both parties There was even no verbal or physical conflict. But the sense of fear and depression described by Ms. Guo makes people feel a bit exaggerated. Why does Ms. Guo present such a mental state? Ms. Guo, who was asked about this question, was silent for a while at the scene, as if lost in memory.
After a long time, Ms. Guo told her story of her growth. She was very irritable and her father was very irritable when she lost her temper. It is this kind of growth experience that has created her now sensitive and fragile personality.During the ten years of marriage between Mr. Ma and Ms. Guo, his neglect of his wife's condition, coupled with the actual rude expressions in language and behavior, made Ms. Guo's wounds not only failed to heal, but continued to bleed.
Mediated here to observe that the teacher picked up the microphone, he told Mr. Ma that he wanted to calm his wife's heart and practical action is indispensable, but don’t neglect to show your concern for your wife in language. Love and warm words can also provide healing power. And Ms. Guo also needs to understand that in the future there may be frictions between husband and wife, after all, it is inevitable that the couple will stumble and stumble in their lives. When encountering this kind of situation, we must learn to remind her husband with kindness to reduce the possibility of conflicts breaking out. The couple gladly accepted the teacher's suggestion and expressed that they would make changes and build a harmonious and happy family life together.
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