The mother-in-law in the countryside, like a scruffy scavenger, went to the city to help me with her baby, and then I understood her

Text: Panpan

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My thin mother-in-law is a typical woman who works in black in the highlands, and has a black head. I don't know the kind of hungry for a day, especially if I don't care about dressing up, sometimes it looks like a scavenger, very sloppy.

I remember that the day when my husband and I got married, she would clean up on the stage when she was cleaned up. She was wearing a washed and faded plaid coat, and the sweater inside the sleeves was still leaking. She was not tall and the clothes were big, so I took a look and came up.

Sitting under the stage with my parents and my maiden family, this image made me feel particularly shameless. After the wedding, I questioned my husband, why can't I buy her a new dress? The husband said that the sister-in-law had prepared the clothes for her, and also specially explained that she would wear it that day, probably forgot in a hurry. Hearing this explanation, I was really speechless.

Because my husband and I have weekends, on weekends, my husband likes to stay home for two days, and sometimes I will follow it. But I found that as long as I go back to my hometown, my mood is not very good, especially after seeing my mother-in-law, I can’t mention the smile. The better my mother-in-law treats me.The more I don't care about her.

When eating, I found that she always looked at me secretly. Regarding this, I complained to my husband more than once, and my husband said: "My mom wants to see what you like to eat. She buys whatever dishes you like".

Then once, I said to my husband, "Go to the supermarket and buy some shiitake mushrooms. I like to eat shiitake mushrooms." I didn’t care at the time, but the next few meals included shiitake mushrooms. Probably my mother-in-law heard the conversation between my husband and me. I was really speechless about her mother-in-law's behavior, so she said to her, "You don't want to make shiitake mushrooms anymore, I have enough."

Although I don't have much communication with my mother-in-law, I can't talk about the good or bad relationship. Every time I meet, I just stay cold and lukewarm. Half a year later, I found out that I was pregnant, and morning sickness was particularly serious. After discussing with my husband, I decided to go back to my hometown to raise a baby. The air in my hometown is good. In addition, it is midsummer, and the fruits and vegetables grown at home are just edible.

I heard my husband say that my mother-in-law was very excited when she heard that I was going home to raise a baby. She cleaned the sanitation inside and out at home, and the quilt was also dried, especially for me. The latrine I had always been disgusted with was also cleaned up. After listening to my husband say this, my mood really improved a lot.

After returning home,What to pay attention to when eating for mother-in-law in the old bus, don’t make too much oil and salty, don’t cook too much at one time, don’t eat leftovers, because the father-in-law passed away early, and the mother-in-law has been alone for so many years. You can eat it after the next meal is hot, or if the vegetables are deliberately fried and salty, you can eat several meals.

When I was first at home, I was very uncomfortable. I didn’t have a common language with my mother-in-law. When eating, the two of them had nothing to say. She was talking about some people and things in her life. , I don’t know or understand, and I don’t want to say anything to her, coupled with the morning sickness reaction, I feel very bad. Maybe my mother-in-law looks at me every day and pulls her face and thinks she is not doing well, so she called her husband and asked Husband asked me if I was angry?

My husband said to her: "I'm not angry, she reacts very uncomfortably. She is not the kind of person who is angry at every turn. She is of high quality. Don't think about anything to tell me." . After comforting my mother-in-law, my husband came to enlighten me again: "The people of their generation, who have come through hardships, should be considerate of anything."

When my husband said that, I began to try to accept and understand some of the things I couldn't understand about my mother-in-law. I started to pay attention to some things she did silently, washing me clothes, washing underwear and socks, and asking the young daughter-in-law who had a child in the village what to eat during pregnancy. Slowly, getting along with her mother-in-law made me a lot easier.

Pregnancy in October, once giving birth, the joy of being a new mother, but also the irritability of staying up late to breastfeed and backaches. On the nineteenth day of the confinement, the husband went back a few days because of something in the company. , My mother-in-law and I are the two who are taking care of the children, and the children always cry,I hugged for a while and my waist was sore that I couldn't straighten up my waist. I thought that my mother-in-law usually went to work in the field, and it should be okay to hold a child.

Who knows, she looked at it for a while, she hugged me, didn’t call her, as if she couldn’t hear the baby crying, especially once, after she gave the baby to me, she sat on me On the side of her bed, she rubbed her legs and thumped her back. After reading it, I felt very irritable.

I wanted to talk about her at first, but I felt that she was still sixty people who couldn’t bear the accusation on the phone, but I didn’t feel angry. To her husband: "What do you mean by your mother? Sitting on my bed is thumping legs and back. Who do you show me? I usually go to the ground for a day's work and I never see her beaten once. I'm tired after holding the baby for a while. She's gone, don't let me see her beating in front of me in the future, don't look at it if you are tired."

While my husband catered to me, he also helped me find out whether my mother-in-law was not. As for how my husband told her to my mother-in-law, I didn’t ask him, but since then, I really haven’t seen her. I yelled once in front of me to be tired.

Three months later, I want to go back to work in the city and let my mother-in-law go with the children. When I told her, the mother-in-law agreed to go, but I heard her give My husband called and didn't want to go. I was annoyed and took the child back to the city.

Then,My mother-in-law also followed. It was the first time my mother-in-law told me so much in front of me: "Ni, don't be angry. I don't want to bring a child to you. You have to weed and water the crops in the field. I’m still feeding the chickens. I’m leaving. There’s no one at home." "You sell the chickens. Once the crops are harvested, they won’t be planted. You can give them to others to grow them. It’s so good to have a blessing.” The husband made arrangements for the mother-in-law before I could speak.

Just like that, my mother-in-law went to live here with our children, and I also thought that she took a stroll here to see a lot of children.

Until one day, when I got off work in the afternoon, I saw my mother-in-law walking her daughter in the community square. I couldn’t help watching them from a distance. There were many children playing in the square. The younger ones, the older ones, everyone talked and laughed, but my mother-in-law, who was obviously very cautious, stood in the crowd, but no one talked to her, and no one knew anyone to talk to. , At that moment, I felt very uncomfortable.

At the beginning, I let her stay away from my familiar village and come to a strange city, everywhere to adapt to my life. From then on, as long as I had time, I took my mother-in-law and daughter to stroll around to get to know the neighbors in the community, especially the grandma who looked after the children. Slowly, my mother-in-law also found two elderly people who were more speculative to look after the children. Sometimes I often see my mother-in-law talking and playing with them and their children.

When my daughter was almost one year old,It was when I was learning to walk, my mother-in-law said that these few months have been the most tiring. Adults have to bend over and walk with support. For my young me, I sometimes feel tired.

Once, I found a box of muscle pain plaster on the table in my mother-in-law’s room. I asked my mother-in-law what’s wrong. The mother-in-law said she’s getting sick with her back pain. I asked her when it started. She said that it had been a long time since I was bent over for a long time and it hurts. I was worried, and took my mother-in-law to the hospital for an examination. The doctor said that the lumbar disc was herniated.

I worked a lot when I was young, but when I got older, I got a lot of problems. I asked my mother-in-law, if she really can’t bear it, she should go back to her hometown. She doesn’t want to, she said, “It’s not easy for you. One day when I come back from work, I have to take the children and clean up the housework. When the children can walk by themselves, it will be easier."

Time flies so fast, my daughter will be two years old soon, and I have been in a natural relationship with mother-in-law for more than two years. There are also more topics. Life should be like this. The relationship between us must be managed carefully.