There is an excellent female doctor who has a house and a car to marry, but no man responds to her.
Finding a partner is too difficult, and finding a marriage partner is even more difficult. You say that ordinary girls can’t find a boyfriend, but it’s understandable. Female doctors have cars and houses, but they are all the same. difficulty? As soon as the news came out, I thought that many people were vying to find her for a blind date. As a result, no man responded to her. Let's analyze together, what is the reason that girls with excellent conditions are generally single? Why is the country so anxious to give birth to three children?
A few days ago, my aunt sent a message to the family group, the owner group, and the group of friends, saying that she was helping the daughter of a good friend to find someone.
The basic conditions of the girl are: 1985, from Hubei, an associate professor in an undergraduate college in Guangzhou, pretty awkward, PhD degree, have a house and a car, have a very good personality, a medium-looking appearance, a height of 165, and a pretty stature good. Because I have been busy with my studies and career for many years, I did not consider my feelings and delayed the marriage. Now I am interested in looking for single men in the age group of "6 years younger than myself to 10 years older than myself", requiring the man to be financially independent. , Personality independence is good.
But as soon as the news of the marriage proposal came out, the group said there was nothing suitable. Some people even ridicule that they are so big, where to find a suitable one. Some people say that as long as the men around the company are married, the girls in their company are quite single. Several girls born in the 90s are single, saying that they can't find a suitable one, and it's even harder to find the girls born in the 80s. The auntie was also very depressed when she saw such comments. She wondered why no one wanted a girl with such a good condition?
Let me analyze the following reasons. If you have any ideas, please leave a message in the comment area.
The first point: the city.
According to our seventh national census, the male population of our country accounts for 51.24%; 48.76%. Although the proportion of men in China is larger than that of women, there are 34.9 million more Chinese men than women. This means that in the marriage and childbirth population, an average of 5 men will not find a spouse.However, if we take a closer look, we will find that in the urban population, most men are less than women, while there are many bachelor men in rural areas. Most of the boys in our family have achieved academic success and will return to their hometowns to develop, but many girls do not have it. Most of the people who did not go to the big cities did not want to go home when they did not go to college. They just want to stay in the big city and find a boy from the big city to marry them. Obviously: there are more males than females, but the distribution is uneven, resulting in fewer males than females in big cities. Outstanding males in cities will be favored by many females. Men’s love is basically backward compatible, so it is relatively acceptable. , But women are different, women are more picky. Women look upwards when looking for objects, and hope that the man can surpass himself in economic and work ability. This is when you go to a big city, you will find out, you will find that the average-looking boys around you, as long as you can work well, even if you look down on them, they have an object, and they are not much worse than yours. It may be pretty.
Under normal circumstances, the marriage and love match is that A man finds A woman, and B man finds B woman. But because of the patriarchal consciousness, men want to find a class lower than themselves, thinking that such a woman is better Controlling, so, male A seeks female B, male B seeks female C...
In the end, it is likely that A female and C male are left. Although this situation is not 100%, it is generally the case.
In the city, you will think that there are more women left; but when you go to the countryside, there are many single villages.
The second point: a sense of security
The requirement of the post-85 girl is that the man must be financially independent and independent in personality. "Financial independence" refers to the fact that the man can support himself, and does not require others to have a house or car; "personality independence" may mean that a man is required to "not mommy, you can decide your own affairs".
The request seemed simple, but no one responded to her. Some people said: Why do women have to stay until 30 or so before planning to get married? Why don't you get a blind date earlier? Every woman likes to have a man who loves and loves herself and becomes her own safe haven, but now love is too easy. In modern society, love often comes and goes fast. What girls fear most is that after they get married, Cai Mi Youyan revolves around the family. After the child is born, he is not competitive in the workplace. He can only rely on a man to give him a sense of security, and finally the man leaves himself.So many girls work harder, hoping to gain a sense of security through their own efforts.
In recent years, the number of divorce pairs and the divorce rate have continued to rise for a long time. From 1987 to 2020, the number of divorce registrations in my country rose from 580,000 to 3.73 million. Marriage used to be a safe haven for women, and marriage is more important to people than anything else, but now there is no connection between marriage and safe haven. Just being married does not mean that a man will protect you forever. Therefore, it is really important for women to be independent and to give themselves a sense of security. The current education is telling women to rely on themselves, so a woman is almost 25 years old after graduating from college, and after achieving economic independence and career stability, she can also stay in the workplace for 4-5 years. After graduating from university and then getting a Ph.D., it is normal for a woman to have a career in her 30s. For women, marriage and career go on at the same time, which consumes a lot of energy.
The country is now so anxious to open the three-child policy, because there are too many people who are late in marriage, late childbirth and even unmarried and infertile. In 1990, the main childbearing age was 20-27 years old, and the number of children born was one child. Accounted for 86.6%. By 2015, the primary childbearing age was postponed to 22-29 years, and the proportion of one child dropped to 66.7%; the main childbearing age was postponed to 23-30 years old, and the proportion of children born to 59.1%. Moreover, from 1990 to 2015, the proportion of births per child of women over 30 years of age increased from 4.2% to nearly 19.2%, proving that it is obvious that women’s late marriage and late childbirth.
The problems of late marriage and late childbirth and non-marriage have increased the burden of China’s pensions, seriously dragging down the national finances and restricting economic vitality. China will gradually become one of the countries with the heaviest pension burden in the world, so China has opened the three-child policy.
The new generation of young people pursue independence, freedom and high-quality life, and are open to marriage. Especially the realization of women's self-independence and the awakening of self-awareness. Economic development and higher education levels have provided women with more employment opportunities and their social status has risen. Women no longer only serve as "housewives", but enter the workplace to realize their value in life.
So the last phenomenon of late marriage and late childbearing,How to deal with non-marriage and infertility? This will be a headache.
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