Introduction
Many single women plan to remarry after retirement, because they feel that their life alone is too lonely and they have to do everything by themselves, so they want to find a support for themselves.
However, older women look for remarried spouses who are not much different from their own age, but there are also some women who like men younger than themselves. Even if they are often pointed and pointed, they do not hesitate to do so.
63-year-old Ms. Pan married a man 29 years younger than herself. Even if all her relatives and friends were not optimistic about the marriage, she still married without hesitation. But the life after marriage was not as good as she had imagined, and she even began to regret it.
Self-reporter: Ms. Pan
My husband passed away 15 years ago. When my husband just passed away, I also thought about finding another wife, but work was busy at that time, so this idea Was stranded. After retiring, my thoughts about finding a wife began to float again.
Living alone is boring and lonely, I don't want my old life to be wasted like this. So I started going on blind dates. During the two years of retirement, I dated a total of 18 times, but I didn't meet a suitable person. I even began to have self-doubt about myself. My requirements were not high. Why couldn't I find a suitable wife?
may be because I require the man to be more than ten years younger than me, so many men are scared away. Because I couldn't find it, I even began to want to lower my requirements.
But I did not expect Xiao Xu to appear at this time. Xiao Xu was only 34 years old at the time, 29 years younger than me. Currently working in real estate sales for a real estate company, he is 1.8 meters tall and looks very handsome. The most important thing is that he speaks sweet words very well, and I am very happy every time I am with him.
At first, I had the idea of shrinking because he was much younger than me, and her mother was two years younger than me. But Xiao Xu didn't mind at all, and asked me not to care about other people's rumors, as long as we had a good life, it was enough.
Under his persuasion,I also gradually accepted this fact. Anyway, life is our own. We can live as we want. There is no need to care about other people's opinions.
After talking for a year, I plan to marry him. Unexpectedly, it was opposed by the whole family. My parents disagreed with me marrying him, saying that Xiao Xu was with me for my money, otherwise he, a young man in his 20s, would not be able to see me. Aunt in her 60s.
And my daughter is also very opposed, she told me: "He is one year younger than me. If you really want to marry him, I will definitely not recognize you as a mother in the future."
Although no one is willing to support our marriage, I still married Xiao Xu. On the wedding day, none of my maidens attended. Although I am a bit regretful, I am still very happy. Xiao Xu gave me an unforgettable wedding, hosted a lot of friends and relatives, and promised me that I would love me forever, and that I will take care of the family affairs and treat me as a princess. pet. At that time, I was so moved that my makeup was crying.
After marriage, Xiao Xu moved to my house. My family is a house with three bedrooms and one living room. My daughter moved out after she got married. At present, I live alone. We chose Yunnan for our honeymoon. I went out to play for a month. I paid for all the expenses, but I didn’t mind. I had money anyway.
In addition to having a house, I still have 600,000 yuan in deposits, and a monthly pension of 7,000 yuan. So, I don't want to care about these little things.
During the first few months of marriage, I did have a very happy life, and Xiao Xu was obedient to me. But this kind of happy life didn't last long. Just after 100 days of our marriage, he asked me to buy him a car worth more than 100,000. The reason was that he had to squeeze the subway every day to go to work, which was very inconvenient. And every time I take me out to play, I have to take a taxi, which really wronged me.
At that time, I was moved by his thoughtfulness, so I didn't hesitate to buy him a car. But I didn’t expect this to be just the beginning. From then on, he often asked me to buy him valuable things for various reasons.At that time, I was completely blindfolded by love, so I was responsive to him.
Because of my indulgence, he even quit his job and stays at home every day to play games, otherwise he just asks me to take money and go around with some friends. Seeing him like this, I also have opinions in my heart. How could he even quit his job at his age when he was struggling?
I told him many times about this, but he promised well every time, and he didn't act afterwards. I spend 7,000 yuan in pension every month, most of which are spent on him, and I only set aside 3,000 for living expenses. Maybe it's because I always talk about him, so he doesn't even love to return home.
In the daytime, he can't see others at home. He has to play every day until one or two in the evening before returning home. Every time I go home, I’m drunk, and when I get older, I have to get up to take care of him. I even smelled a woman’s perfume on his clothes once. At that moment, I seemed to hear the sound of my heartbreak. I really don’t understand why I was so good to him and he had to say sorry to me. matter.
Although sad, but I did not say anything because I don't want to lose him. Because the money was not enough to spend, I started to find myself a part-time job again. I used to be a junior high school teacher when I was young, so in order to subsidize my family, I started to teach others. There are 120 yuan per hour, two hours a day, three days a week. In this way, there will be 720 yuan per week, and more than 2,800 yuan in a month.
is a bit hard, but our family's life is obviously much better. I thought Xiao Xu would change his mind for the hard work I put in. But I didn't expect the reality to give me a severe blow. One day I was very tired after finishing my tutoring and returning home, so I leaned on the sofa to rest.
As soon as I fell asleep, I heard the hurried doorbell. When I opened the door, I saw that it was a pregnant girl in her 20s. As soon as the woman saw me, she said, "Auntie, I'm pregnant with Brother Xu's child. Please abdicate and let Xian. You can be Brother Xu's mother at your age, and you won't be able to give birth to a child. Don't dominate. His wife’s position is not allowed. If you are acquainted,Then quickly divorce Brother Xu. Otherwise, if he mentions divorce later, you will be embarrassed and come home. "
When I heard this girl say this, I just wanted to slap him. It’s so righteous to ruin other people’s marriages. How did her parents teach her. But for the sake of her pregnancy, I don’t I don’t want to do it, and I don’t want to be a bitch.
That night, after Xiao Xu got home, I mentioned to him about divorce. At the time, he was still begging me to ask me not to divorce. But he even had children. With that, how could I still bear it? Early the next morning, I dragged him to the Civil Affairs Bureau and divorced the marriage.
At that moment, I felt that the whole person was a lot easier, and I don’t need to do it anymore. I’ve been teaching people everywhere. I feel like I was so stupid before. Why do I have to live a good life but there is a man everywhere?
written at the end
It is normal for a woman to want to remarry Yes, but you must be cautious when choosing a wife. Whether a man loves you or not is not to listen to what he says, but to see what he does. Don’t be blinded by a man’s rhetoric, and you must know enough about the other person. Only then can we consider the matter of getting married. Otherwise, I will regret it because of my impulse.
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