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What is the cost of extramarital affairs?
When I was watching " My First Half of Life ", I always felt that the price of Chen Junsheng's derailment was not high enough and the ending was not enjoyable enough. First of all, after Chen Junsheng married Ling Ling , he did not experience much misfortune. Besides seeing Ling Ling's true face, he felt regretful, the extramarital affairs did not cause any substantial harm to Chen Junsheng.
However, not all extramarital affairs are so lucky. I forgot what emotional writer said such a sentence, "I always think that extramarital affairs, what causes you plant, will get what results. This is especially true for emotional matters. Maybe he won’t come to the door for a while, but one day, you will taste the evil results." There will not be any discomfort due to divorce. On the contrary, you will feel that you are out of the predicament because of the temporary freshness of the extramarital affairs. But later, after the extramarital affair has been fully cultivated, there will always be a day that makes you feel regretful. That's how Wu Hui is.
Wu Hui and his ex-wife have been divorced for more than five years. When he yelled to divorce his ex-wife, his son was only five years old. He was still in the kindergarten, and the reason for their divorce was Wu Hui. By mistake, he had other women outside, and he had an affair.
Wu Hui and his ex-wife originally met on a blind date,The relationship between the two people is not very deep. In the following six years of getting along, Wu Hui and his ex-wife always had an indescribable feeling. He feels that the two people are not like husband and wife but like partners who have an agreement. They have lived together for more than six years, and their days have been smoothly. Until later, the appearance of Xiaoli made Wu Hui make a mistake .
When I first met Xiaoli, she was still a female employee in Wu Hui's company. Wu Hui didn't notice her at first, nor did she have much to do with her. Later, their team signed a big order, and the boss invited guests to dinner. At that time, it was very late after drinking. Wu Hui was so uncomfortable that he stayed in the bathroom for a long time before coming out. When he entered the box again, there were not many people inside. .
Later, most of the colleagues finished walking one after another, so he started to use his mobile phone to take a taxi, but Xiaoli happened to drive by. Seeing that he was drunk on the road, she took the initiative to stop. Send him. Xiaoli stepped forward to strike up a conversation and started their story. Xiaoli said that the two of them would drop in. After giving him a ride, Wu Hui didn't think much about it and got into the car.
With the first meeting, the two people slowly had a second chat. The two people who had never spoken in the company suddenly had an intersection. Xiaoli is also very active. Even though she knows that Wu Hui has a family, she still greets him with warmth and often sends him supper when he is working overtime. The ambiguous relationship between the two is self-evident.
Everyone likes beautiful things, and Wu Hui is the same. At the beginning, he didn't notice Xiaoli who took the initiative to show him his favor, because after all, he was a person with a family. Xiaoli's initiative and enthusiasm finally made him unable to restrain the desire in his heart, and the two people slowly evolved from the company's superiors and subordinates into an unknown lover relationship.
Probably even Wu Hui himself didn't think of it. After getting along with Xiaoli slowly, he developed a good relationship with Xiaoli, and he felt more and more that his marriage with his ex-wife could not be maintained.Later, the relationship between him and Xiaoli did not hide for too long, and the rumors in the company reached the ears of his ex-wife. As a result, their relationship was exposed. Before his ex-wife made a choice, Wu Hui resolutely chose Xiaoli. , Because Xiaoli is also pregnant.
After the two divorced, the ex-wife was reluctant to give him the custody of the child. At that time, Wu Hui, who was so focused on Xiaoli, did not take into account the feelings of the child at all, nor did he fight for custody with his ex-wife. Just leave the child to his ex-wife. Since then, Wu Hui will pay the children's living expenses and support expenses every month. Although his ex-wife has never collected this money, he has kept it in a card.
In this way, more than five years have passed. Wu Hui and Xiaoli’s daughters have grown up, and their son has changed from a five-year-old naughty bag to a ten-year-old boy. . Since his divorce, Wu Hui has cared less about his son, and since Xiaoli gave birth, he has been very strict with Wu Hui. If he goes to see his ex-wife and son, he will definitely make Xiaoli angry, Xiaohong He doesn't charge his support, and his son is completely strange to him.
This year, it caught up with the son’s 10th birthday. This is the first integer in the son’s life. Now that the ex-wife has the conditions, she organized a birthday party for her son and invited a lot of his son’s classmates. . Wu Hui knew what he owed to his children over the years, so he took the time to go, and gave his son a big red envelope.
At the banquet, when he happily handed the red envelope to his son, the son refused, saying "I don't want your money. I don't care about your money. You should leave it to that woman." , Since you’ve never fulfilled your duty to be a father since you were a child, don’t be pretending to be here today."
Wu Hui can’t think of what the 10-year-old son said from his mouth, since he was divorced. , And even for many days after, he never regretted it, but now he sees that the distance between his son and himself is really far away.He couldn't warm his son's heart anymore, and Wu Hui regretted what he did.
Ruger Zhaojia wrote in the book "Fatherhood": "The absence of the father is the misfortune of the family, the sorrow of the wife, the sorrow of the children, and the depression of the society."
The role of father plays an extremely important role in the growth of a child. In our impression, my father is a stern person, he may be unsmiling, but he has enough heavy love for us, and he is an indispensable role for this family.
In an ordinary family, if the father is busy with work and rarely accompanies the child, it will have an impact on the child's heart, let alone extramarital affairs?
For children living in single-parent families, if this part of the love from their father has been missing since childhood, then there will be a psychological shadow in the heart of the future child, especially his father. Taking on some kind of bad role, after they understand the ethical right and wrong, they will certainly have a lot of complaints against their father.
You think that extramarital affairs just make you lose your wife. In fact, what you lose in extramarital affairs is a complete home, the wife's goodwill and the child's heart.
There is a passage in "The Kite Chaser": The one who once was willing to pick up kites for me thousands of times has passed away. If you miss it in your life, you won't get it again. Maybe we will repent and redeem, but these seem to be too late. Whenever we fly a kite, we should ask ourselves whether we really cherish it,Everything we have.
This also reminds the man in the marriage that when you are facing the temptation outside of marriage, you should be more sober and think more about your lover's contribution, calm down, restrain yourself, and stop. When, silly. Even if there is a problem in your marriage with your lover at this time, and you can't remember how good your love is, then you have to think about your child, think about what the child will do in the future, think about his embarrassment, and think about his situation.
Don’t lose the opportunity to love your children after losing your lover, otherwise it will be a regret for your life.
Today's discussion: If it were you, think about it in another way, would you forgive your father?
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