"Married for 3 years, derailed 8 times", I realized that this is the core factor that leads to a woman's derailment

Text: Flowers blooming

Thinking of you is like a blooming flower, I miss you like a tide

The ups and downs in marriage are a normal thing, get through it, and slowly feel the plain sweetness and happiness in it, so that you can will last forever.

Some people are born with the ability to tell right from wrong, while others have been on the wrong path, drifting further away.

A few days ago, a distant cousin of mine told me about her three-year marriage. After listening to it, it gave me a great shock. I really can't imagine that, three The marriage in 2008 has been derailed eight times, and the root cause of all this is actually this.

My cousin and her husband were classmates in college. At that time, the love between the two of them caused a sensation in the whole school. It was a scene of trouble. At first, everyone envied my cousin and envied her for having a boyfriend who loved him so much. After graduation, the two People get married very quickly.

I went to their wedding at that time. My cousin-in-law was really handsome when he grew up, while my cousin was young and beautiful. Standing together, they were a good couple.

It stands to reason that the two should be more loving after marriage, but in the third month after marriage, the cousin had an extramarital affair.

According to my cousin's description: In fact, before I had an extramarital affair, I experienced a long period of "depression period" , and the reason for all this, in the final analysis, was because of the families of both parties. The

cousin also said: I know that my parents did not do well in some areas when I got married. It is also necessary for my husband to get angry, but if we encounter problems, we should solve them, right? Why do you have to keep holding on to it, every time you quarrel, you have to struggle with that point. After a careful understanding of

, I understand the ins and outs of things.

It turns out that before my cousin got married, her mother, also my cousin, did some frivolous things and kept all the dowry gifts from the husband's house in her own home, because my cousin also had a relative. My brother needs to go to school.

And the husband's family, because of the expenses during the marriage, caused huge pressure to the family, and after marriage, because the small family did not have start-up funds, the married life of the cousin and the cousin-in-law was in a dilemma, Therefore, it was only because Quarrel over trivial matters.

After every quarrel, my cousin's husband would talk about things before marriage, and every time he finished speaking, my cousin was full of grievances. After all, she didn't want it either.

Until the end, her husband repeatedly used this excuse to quarrel with her, and her cousin could no longer endure such a marriage. She rushed out the door and walked alone on the street in a depressed mood.

But that time, my cousin had an extramarital affair, and it was only three months before she got married.

Since then, every time her husband argues with her, she has the idea of ​​cheating, until three years of marriage, she cheated eight times.

After listening to my cousin's elaboration, my mood is a little mixed. The original happy marriage was just like this, influenced by the original family, and it became a mess.

In fact, the reason for my cousin's derailment is not only caused by one aspect, but because of the financial constraints of life, coupled with the husband's incomprehension, this incident happened. However, when we search for the root cause and explore, we will find that , In fact, there is only one reason for my cousin's derailment, that is, the influence of the original family.

is by my side, and there are many examples. There are many newly married couples who quarrel every day. However, the conflicts between them are not due to trivial matters in the marriage. After all, just married, the state of the couple is still the same A loving little couple.

In the final analysis, it is because one party's original family failed to fulfill their responsibilities for some reason when they got married, so that they were disliked after marriage, which aroused the contradiction between husband and wife.

In order for a new family to be able to steadily and quickly get on the right track, many people should change their minds. The concept of a new family requires the joint support of the two original families to go further. For some reasons, help cannot be given, so not possessing or exploiting is already the greatest help.

Therefore, do not ignore the influence of the original family on the new family. In many cases, it is also the fundamental source of conflict between husband and wife, and even under certain circumstances, women will have extramarital affairs because of this.

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