Many people are not unfamiliar with the AA system. Baidu Encyclopedia has a cloud: AA system is an inevitable product after the development of the market economy. It refers to the participants in activities such as dinner parties, entertainment, and tourism. A social method in which each person shares or pays for a fee, usually used for events such as food gatherings, dinners, or travel. In a nutshell, each pays its own money.
Many families in modern society still retain the ideas of the old times, and they all hope to find an in-law who is well-known for and . They feel that only two people with equal family social status and economic status are suitable for marriage. This kind of thinking makes no sense, but Are only men and women of the right match qualified to come together? Can two people who are not in the right household get married really not be happy?
In my opinion, being a good match is just an excuse for and my mother-in-law . is called "a good match", but my mother-in-law is afraid that something she has worked hard for her whole life will be taken away by an outsider. No matter what, she doesn't even care about a rich girl, let alone a poor girl.
Modern men and women have abandoned the old ideas of the past, and they will not be bound by rules and regulations. Therefore, there are also many families with "inappropriate households" born in the society.
Although the parents-in-law agree on the surface, they have already figured out a way in secret, how to prevent the daughter-in-law from taking advantage of their own family. "Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law AA system" was born.
Although the AA system has clarified the interest relationship between the two, we all know that once the relationship is mixed with interest, it will become sour. Although AA can solve many interests, it also destroys the relationship between two people.
Lin Zi experienced a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law AA system, which wiped out the relationship between her and her mother-in-law, and also wiped out her expectations for marriage .
Lin Zi and her husband Yu An have been married for three years. She lives with her mother-in-law, and her married life is not happy. Her mother-in-law dislikes Lin Zi's poor family and is not worthy of her own son, so she always finds trouble with Lin Zi.
Every time Lin Zi bought something, her mother-in-law would yell and say to Lin Zi in a very exaggerated tone : "Why do you spend so much money? My son's monthly salary is so low, our family But I can’t stand you such a prodigal, don’t just buy some useless things and put them at home,”
Every time at this time, Lin Zi will patiently explain to her mother-in-law: “Mom, I spend It is my own salary, I have never spent a penny on Yu An, these things are daily necessities at home, shower gels and so on, and will be used for later."
Lin Zi thought that as long as he had more Be patient and be more tolerant, and the mother-in-law will understand herself. But I didn't expect that one day my mother-in-law found her and said to her: "Daughter-in-law, isn't there a AA system now? I think our family also has an AA system. You spend your money, I spend my money, who are we? I don’t owe anyone anything, what do you think?”
After listening to her mother-in-law’s words, what Lin Zi didn’t understand was that her mother-in-law thought she spent money and was afraid that she would take advantage of her, so she did such a thing AA produced. Lin Zi felt very cold. She devoted herself to this family, but her mother-in-law was guarding her.
Today is my mother-in-law's 60th birthday. According to the custom of my hometown, there is a big birthday party at the age of 60. My mother-in-law has already reserved a place at restaurant , and invited dozens of neighbors, relatives and friends to attend the birthday party.
The birthday banquet was very lively. Although she had a bad relationship with her mother-in-law, as a daughter-in-law, Lin Zi still tried her best to do her part, arranging seats, wine and drinks, and who would sit at which seat, Lin Zi arranged everything.
Because it is a big event, my mother-in-law ordered a lot of hard dishes, such as abalone lobster sashimi seafood, I ordered all of them, looking at so many rich dishes on the table, a good aunt asked her mother-in-law: "These are all good dishes. Ah, it must be very expensive for you to hold such a big birthday party?" The mother-in-law waved her hand and said indifferently: "Oh, it's fine, my daughter-in-law pays for ."
happened to be heard by Lin Zi, she I sneered in my heart. Usually, my mother-in-law disliked her family background and . For fear of her taking advantage, she just wanted to keep the little money in her pocket. Now her mother-in-law spends a lot of money, she wants to take her as a scapegoat and want to be beautiful.
Lin Zi stood up, raised her voice, and said to her mother-in-law, "Mom, what are you talking about? Didn't you just set the AA system yesterday, saying that we each spend our own money, and no one owes the other, why do we have to do it today? Let me pay the bill? Today is not my birthday party."
As soon as these words came out, the people who were chatting hotly just now became quiet, and the mother-in-law was unable to come down by Lin Zi, and her face was dark. My aunt hurriedly said: "It's all a family, what's the point of dividing yours and mine, it's too outrageous, Lin Zi, you sit down first, your mother-in-law just said, how can you pay all the money, she loves you dearly What about this daughter-in-law!"
How could Lin Zi let go: "Auntie, what you said is that we are all in the same family, and the AA system is more common. Although my family is poor, I still need to be embarrassed. I spend the money myself. The hard-earned money may be because my mother-in-law didn't treat me as her family, so she felt sorry for her own money."
was choked by Lin Zi, and her aunt had nothing to say. The people at the same table looked at each other and didn't dare to make a sound. Lin Zi suddenly felt very boring, she softened her tone and said, "I'm sorry, I have something else to do. I left first, and everyone ate slowly. "After speaking, she left the hotel without looking back. Anyway, she and her mother-in-law have long had no feelings for each other. This counterattack is just to make her mother-in-law suffer.
If any relationship is mixed with interests, it is no longer a relationship. It is a transaction. How many brothers are against each other, fathers and sons are against each other because of their interests, and even relatives, not to mention mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, to manage a good marriage, you must understand some truths.
. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law want to have a good relationship, they cannot Too much pretentious
The traditional marriage now is that the daughter-in-law is married to the mother-in-law and lives with the mother-in-law. Like her mother-in-law, she proposed the AA system, but she disliked Lin Ziqiong. Every time Lin Zi spent money, she felt that Lin Zihua was paying for her son's money. People should not be too fussy. Even every cent should be calculated clearly. What is the difference between this and a businessman? A businessman will give people a small amount of money as a favor when they see an old customer. Indiscriminate, such a relationship can last a long time.
. As a mother-in-law, don’t overly interfere with the lives of sons and daughters-in-law.
The root cause of many conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is that the mother-in-law did not correct her status, and thinks she is the head of the family, interfering in the lives of sons and daughters-in-law everywhere, no matter what. She has to intervene in what her daughter-in-law does, fearing that her daughter-in-law's status is higher than her own.
Mother-in-law should understand that sons and daughters-in-law have their own lives. In their world, daughter-in-law is the one who makes decisions, mother-in-law should not interfere at will The life of a son and a daughter-in-law is theirs to live by themselves, you just need to live your own life well.
. When encountering unfair treatment, you must dare to resist
Sometimes swallows , which does not solve the problem and may make herself even more wronged. is like Lin Zi, she once wanted to swallow her voice To solve the problem, I felt that as long as I was a little patient, my mother-in-law would see her goodness, but her patience made her feel that she was being bullied and made more unreasonable demands.
Persimmons are soft, people are the same, People are bullying and fearing hard, if you are weak, others will step on your head, if you stand up and actively resist, others will look up to you, no Dare to touch you.
Therefore, when a woman suffers unfair treatment in marriage, she must resist and protect her rights.
Life is like a book, some people can't read it for the rest of their lives, Marriage is like a painting, some people's marriages are Van Gogh's sunflowers, dazzling, some people's marriages are Munch's shout , despair and dull , everyone creates a white canvas when they first get married. What kind of painting do you want your marriage to look like depends on what color you fill in the painting? Every choice, every change, is a process of painting.
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