For most mother-in-law , the daughter-in-law you bring home is just an outsider who helps you reproduce and cook. This sentence expresses the bitterness of women who are daughters-in-law.
Many mothers-in-law treat their daughters-in-law as outsiders and adopt the attitude of double standard to treat their children and daughters-in-law. Taking a break, he asked his daughter-in-law to take care of the housework, on the grounds that his son had worked hard to make money, but he did not take his daughter-in-law's hard work seriously; the daughter-in-law also made money, and buying things for herself would mean "you spend my son's money and lose the family".
Aunt Shen has a double-standard mother-in-law, which makes her feel very upset: "My sister-in-law and I have both retired , why should my mother-in-law let me serve her and let her daughter enjoy?"
01. My mother-in-law is sick and hospitalized and needs someone to take care of it;
Some time ago, Aunt Shen's mother-in-law, who is 79 years old this year, was admitted to the hospital. At this time, Aunt Shen's husband has not yet retired and needs to go to work. The company's business is entering the peak season, and he can't ask for leave at all, and he often has to work overtime. Therefore, the husband asks Aunt Shen, who has retired, to take care of his mother-in-law.
However, Aunt Shen was not happy for three reasons.
is the first, has to bring grandchildren, it is really too busy. "A year ago, my daughter-in-law gave birth to a grandson for me. After taking maternity leave , I went to work. Young people, they need to pay their mortgages and give their children good living conditions, so how can they resign and bring their children at home? I have experienced the pain of no one taking care of the baby. I don't want my daughter-in-law to suffer again. Otherwise, if she gets angry, my son's marriage will be over."
The grandson is too young and needs to be looked after at all times, and the mother-in-law lives in the hospital, so she can't bring the child to the hospital by herself! "People prefer patriarchal , but my mother-in-law prefers her own daughter and is extremely partial to her sister-in-law. She would rather help my sister-in-law take care of the child than help me take care of the child, so why should I take care of her? I promised my husband to let her live nearby and take care of her. I have already given face very much. "
Third, 's mother-in-law's attitude made her unhappy. "If she has reflected on her previous behavior and sincerely apologized to me, maybe I will see it for the sake of the decades that have passed. Calculate again. But she is good, let me take care of her, and her attitude is natural. "
" Daughter-in-law, you are retired and just take care of me, this is your obligation . "
After listening to her mother-in-law's words, Aunt Shen was very angry and directly replied: "You should tell your daughter this. "
02. I quarreled with my husband and sister-in-law about who would take care of her mother-in-law;
Aunt Shen called her sister-in-law and asked her to take care of her mother-in-law, but she was rejected by her sister-in-law. Besides, I am a married daughter, and I need to take care of my in-laws. My mother is your mother-in-law, and you should take care of me. "
" Is the daughter-in-law obliged to serve the in-laws? According to the law, we are obliged to serve our own parents , not in-laws.Your mother gave birth to you, not me, why should I take care of you? "
My sister-in-law refuses to come back, and Aunt Shen refuses to go to the hospital. My husband is anxious, but thinks that my sister is justified: "Since ancient times, it has been the water splashed by the married daughter and let the married daughter take care of her parents. People will think you are like this. The daughter-in-law is not virtuous. Otherwise, you can ask your daughter-in-law to find her mother, take the child temporarily, and take care of my mother. Wouldn't it be good if my mother was discharged from the hospital? "
After listening to her husband's idea, Aunt Shen became even more angry, and asked her husband, "The water splashed by the married daughter? Then when your mother brought a baby to your sister-in-law and gave her a house , why didn't you say anything? "
03. As a daughter, my sister-in-law is more obliged to take care of my mother-in-law than I am;
htmlAunt Shen's father-in-law passed away 27 years ago. After the father-in-law passed away, the mother-in-law brought her husband, Aunt Shen and sister-in-law together to treat the old couple. The property has been distributed.
"My in-laws have two houses and a deposit of 300,000 yuan. My mother-in-law made a decision to give one house to my husband and me, and the other to my sister-in-law, and she kept the savings for her retirement. After the sister-in-law was assigned the house, she sold the house and married her son to a daughter-in-law. When the property was divided, my mother-in-law was probably afraid that I would be unhappy. She told me that the palms and backs of the hands were full of meat. She wanted a bowl of water that was level and that she would not prioritize sons over daughters. My sister-in-law also promised that she would honor her mother. "
The real estate is owned by the parents-in-law. Aunt Shen has no right to interfere with how they want to divide it. However, what makes Aunt Shen dissatisfied is that the sister-in-law, as a daughter, has obtained the property of her parents and enjoys the same rights as her son, and she should fulfill it. duty to provide for parents.Why is she a daughter when she divides property, and an outsider when she needs her care?
Aunt Shen could not accept the request of taking care of her mother-in-law by herself, and she was determined not to compromise. The husband felt very angry and had no choice but to pay for the care worker for his mother, and the couple also had a conflict.
04. If you want your daughter-in-law to treat you well, you must first plant good fruits.
If there is a cause, there must be an effect, and if there is an effect, there must be a cause. As a mother-in-law, whether you can be treated well by your daughter-in-law when you are old depends on two points. One is whether you treated your daughter-in-law well when you were young, and the other is to see Is your son a good husband?
Hu Shi said:
"We want to reap the good fruits in the future, and we must work hard to plant the new causes of the present. Every seed will have a full house and a full house." Son, let him treat his wife well, don't do anything that disappoints his wife, support his daughter-in-law, and plant good causes. After you are old, as long as your daughter-in-law's character is not too bad, you will not be left alone, and you will not be left alone. Good fruits can be harvested.
As Tu Lei said, the best relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, between mother-in-law and son-in-law, two sentences must be fulfilled.
regards it as one's own care, that is, your son is a son, and other people's daughters are also pregnant with in October, why do you say that my son is the big one with and , although they are two big ones Yes, that's also the flesh that fell from the body. You have to hurt both of them equally, and even hurt your daughter-in-law a little bit more. In my heart, I want to be treated like a relative, but I still have to do it as a guest.
It is really reasonable to see my mother-in-law for ten years and my daughter-in-law for ten years.If you want to be happy in your later years, please treat your daughter-in-law better.
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