Sister Sa produced
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Before May 1st, I had the job at hand, took a leave of absence, and went home to see my mother.
During the Spring Festival, I couldn't go back because of the epidemic. It's been more than half a year since I went home last time. I really miss my mother.
Eating the hand-rolled noodles made by my mother, watching her busy figure around, listening to her ramble, suddenly felt at ease, I felt that I was still the happy child behind my mother.
Mother's love is always ubiquitous and irreplaceable.
It's just that too many times, we ignore this love and feel that everything our mother has done for us is "just right", we hope that they are strong, tough and perfect, but in fact, they are just ordinary, first A one-time mother whose children study hard.
Mother's Day is coming, what gift will you give your mother? A bouquet of flowers? a meal? a dress? A group photo?
None of this matters to mom.
Once, I was touched by a sentence: Mother's day, how mother spends it depends on what we do as children in the other 364 days except Mother's Day.
As children, please open three doors for our beloved mother every day of the year.
02
The Door of Emotion
Some people say that Chinese mothers are the mothers who are most critical of themselves and most guilty of their children.
This is indeed the case. When they get angry with the child, the child cried, and the mother also cried. They kept saying in their hearts: I am really not a good mother, I should not be angry with the child.
Many people think that a good mother should first be a calm mother who can control her emotions.
However, each of us has emotions, both positive and negative. Good emotions, we keep, bad emotions, we need to vent out in time.
Learning to lose your temper is a kind of ability, just as the famous American psychiatrist Parker said:
In this complex and changeable world, if we want to live a smooth life, we must learn to be angry. We need to learn to use different ways to properly express our anger. Sometimes we need to be euphemistic, sometimes we need to be direct, sometimes we need to be calm, and sometimes we might as well be angry.
Give mothers more understanding and tolerance. Even if they are angry, it does not mean that they do not love us. Many times, it is just because they are too tired.
A friend said with guilt that day:
In the morning, seeing that her son was too slow to go to school, and she had to rush to work again, she couldn't help yelling at her son. The son cried aggrieved. At that moment, she regretted it. She squatted down and hugged her son and kept saying: I'm sorry, it's my mother's fault.
She said that during this time, she has been rushing to a project, working overtime for days, and was exhausted. During the day, I was in a hurry with my colleagues and I didn't even have time to drink water.
After get off work, I have to rush home to cook and do housework and check homework for my children. After finally waiting for the child to fall asleep, she had to yawn, take out the computer, and continue to work overtime.
She is really tired.
Work, family, children, and the elderly have worn away their resilience. As a netizen said: finally defeated them, not a small thing, but one small thing day after day.
When children cry, there will be mothers to hug and comfort her, but when mothers cry, who will comfort them and share their worries?
Please give that tired mother a good hug, it's not that they don't love you, they're just too tired.
03
The Door to Perfection
Venus once said:
German women only work, Japanese women only have children, and in China, women are superhuman.
You have to work, do laundry, cook, take care of children, clean up the house, take care of your in-laws, and serve your husband. You must have a harmonious social relationship externally, and a harmonious family relationship internally.
For a long time, people have created the perfect persona of a "good mother" for mothers. Therefore, in the mouths of everyone, mothers must be omnipotent, flawless, and perfect.
But in fact, our mothers are just ordinary people. They also have shortcomings. When they want to be lazy and get angry, there will be many things that they can't do and can't do well.
Please give mothers some understanding and tolerance. Even if they are not perfect, it does not prevent them from loving us. They care for us with their not generous arms and create a small warm space for us.
Emmy Award-winning American TV host Lisa Quinn once spoke in an interview about her changes since becoming a mother.
She used to be a perfect mother, she could not tolerate any flaws, she tried to make everything the best, and she was very confident that under her teaching, the children would also become excellent.
So, when she was having a party at home, she had to take care of the guests, prepare drinks, clean up the room, and clean a small stain on the top of the bathroom mirror, and in the end, she was in a hurry and broke down and cried.
Later, she changed her practice. She no longer pursued perfection. She was busy with work during the day and was very tired when she got home, so she simply did not clean up.
In the morning, when I don't have time to make breakfast for my son, let him eat frozen waffles and jam.
She said: I admit that I can't do everything, there is no perfect mother in this world.
After ditching the "perfect mom" mask, she relaxes, finds joy in life, and has a better relationship with her children.
She said with emotion:
I don't want my children to grow up in a perfect room that is spotless, I want them to remember the fun and love in their lives, and leave good memories.
As mothers, we should pull the plug on perfectionism and embrace the truth in life, and the things that are truly cherished.
Love moms, although they are not perfect, they are still the people in the world who love us the most.
04
The Door of Words
Since I had a child, this voice has been echoing in the house all day:
It is windy today, remember to bring an extra coat; Remember to drink plenty of water;
stop playing first, I have told you how many times, hurry up and finish your homework;
is still not sleeping, hurry up, or you will not be able to get up tomorrow.
Children are always mad at me: stop talking.
Sometimes my husband also said: I'm bored by your babbling, let alone children.
I smiled wryly: After becoming a mother, I no longer even have the right to nagging.
For mothers, people always hope that they are very rational people who can make sense of what they say. As for those nutritious "nonsense", it is better not to say it.
But in fact, mother's word-for-word nagging, tea and meal orders, shoes and socks are the purest form of mother's love, the nourishment of children's life, and all that mother can give to children.
Give my mother some understanding and tolerance, and see the deep love behind their nagging.
Perhaps, at some point in the future, these nagging will become the warmest memories in our lives. There is a hot topic on
Zhihu: After became a mother, at that moment, did you suddenly understand your mother?
Among them, a netizen's answer made many people's eyes wet.
She said that when she was a child, she always wanted to escape from her family and didn't want to hear her mother's non-stop nagging like a perpetual motion machine. However, it was only after I became a mother that I understood the meaning of the nagging.
From the early stage of pregnancy to the growth of children, I worry all the time, worrying that they will fall, get sick, and feel sad.
Mother's love is really heavy and far-reaching, everywhere.
How much I didn't understand my mother before, how much I regret it now.
Another netizen said that her mother had left her for several years, and she missed the days when her mother kept nagging in her ear. For her, that was the greatest happiness.
Don't be tired of mother's nagging, those words soaked in thick fireworks are the deepest emotions that mother gives us.
05
Writer Aunt Corn said:
I want my children to shout at 50, 60, or even 70: Mom! I can still answer softly: I am here!
Think about it, when we are middle-aged, we open the door every day with exhaustion all over our body, and we can still see the white-haired old mother waiting for us to go home under the lamp, what a happy picture it must be. picture scroll.
For children, where there is a mother is home, and a child with a mother is a treasure.
Even if our mothers are full of hair and wrinkled, even if they are angry and nagging, even if they are not up to date, even if they are not perfect, so what?
They are still the best mothers in our hearts, the mothers who always hold us in our hands and hearts, and the mothers who shelter us from the wind and rain and have no regrets.
Love Mom, on Mother's Day, and every day.
