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Zhang Ailing said in her short story "Love": "Among thousands of people, you will meet the person you want to meet. In thousands of years, in the wilderness where time is boundless, there is no one step earlier or one step later. , I can only say softly when I meet it: So, you are here too."
In this world, every soul is unique and has its own time axis. Some people meet love at the age of 18, and their life is set at a glance; some people have not been in love until the age of 28, and they improve themselves while waiting; some people get married when they graduate from college and have children early. Becoming a mother;
There are still some people who are not married until they are in their thirties. They are unwilling to do it. They can only wait and move forward. I believe that there is no one step earlier or one step later. people with the same frequency as yourself.
But sometimes, love is like picking up shells on the beach. The more you go forward, the more you think the best is to walk behind. As everyone knows, where is the "best"? The best is the one that suit for you.
has requirements for love and marriage is one thing, it is responsible for oneself. But if the requirements are too good, it will only backfire and face losses one after another.
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Xiao Tao is my hair boy, 33 years old this year. She has been an arrogant and arrogant girl since she was a child. She is beautiful, has a good temperament, and has a stable job. There are naturally many people chasing her, but she doesn't like anyone.
met her later boyfriend when she was 32 years old. At that time, Xiao Tao fell in love with him at first sight, and the two of them got along for less than a month before they established a relationship. During the time
was together, they rarely quarreled, and their relationship has always been stable.In addition to the age, the family urged the two to get married as soon as possible. Xiao Tao had already decided to marry him, but when discussing the marriage, a disagreement occurred.
Xiao Tao has always been a high-spirited girl. Before she was with this boyfriend, she had many kisses. Every time the man is scared off because of his "high demands", but Xiao Tao never thinks it's her fault, she just thinks: If I can't meet my requirements, I can only say that I don't love me enough. Is
really not enough love? Sometimes love is really love. But the way to prove true love is not necessarily money.
Besides, Xiao Tao's conditions are enough to make ordinary families stop. Because she not only asked the man to add her name when buying a house, but also asked the other party to give 100,000 betrothal gifts.
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Buying a house is not a trivial matter. Even if some families can agree, not many can give out 100,000 betrothal gifts at one time. Moreover, the marriage is very realistic. The other party hesitated immediately when he heard that Xiao Tao was 33 this year.
But Xiao Tao was not willing to give up a penny. She felt that the other party might not be able to give the 100,000 betrothal gift, but refused to take it. If there is enough sincerity, even if you borrow it, you will get it.
Actually, Xiaotao is very insecure about marriage. She always feels that only if the other party gives her good enough material conditions can true love be counted. If you can't even get the dowry, it only means that the man's family doesn't pay enough attention to him.
That's it, the families of the two sides have been at a standoff for a long time, and finally my boyfriend's patience was worn out, so he said to her: "I really love you, and I really want to set up our own family with you, but I am in my thirties. Well, can't wait, or we'll just forget about it."
Xiao Tao thought he was just joking and would only force himself to make concessions. He didn't expect that he was serious. Shortly after he proposed to break up with her, he went on a blind date with the introduction of relatives and friends. And I heard that the other party was still a 95 Afterwards, I am only 24 years old this year.
I don't know the age of the other party, but when I know that Xiao Tao's heart is completely chilled: she keeps saying that she really loves me, after all, does it mean that I am too old?
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But she is an arrogant person, She didn't want to lower her head and beg him to come back, so she blocked all his contact information in a fit of rage. Either he came to beg him, or the two of them separated completely.
Ironically, she thought she was pranking, but the other party was busy preparing for the wedding Yes, he married the post-95 generation whom he knew on a blind date, and it is said that he gave a dowry of 88,000 yuan.
You see, sometimes we are very close to happiness, but it is all because of various The reason is that she made the wrong choice and took the wrong path. From then on, it ran counter to happiness and went farther and farther.
When Xiao Tao learned that the two of them were no longer possible, she was disheartened. Because she began to doubt , Is the "love standard" that she insists so hard on right or wrong?
She doesn't want to compromise with reality, but reality will not be gentle to her because of her stubbornness. If she has been so "highly demanding", she will only I miss the person who really loves her again and again.
Because of good love and marriage, they must be balanced with each other. When you put forward conditions to the other party, first ask yourself: Do you deserve such high requirements? If you are worthy , then stick to it; if you don't deserve it, please improve your own value or lower your own standards.
