After seeing the beginning of "Little Willingness", people are a little puzzled and regretful. What is the problem with Lao Nan? How can he divorce his wife at this age and also marry an ordinary nanny?
said, couples when they were young, and old companions. Along the way, we have experienced wind and rain together, and the people around us who raise children are friends, confidants, and moreover, they should be the companions of each other in their old age. It can be said that this relationship is the most trustworthy and cherished in life.
For the experienced Lao Nan, he naturally understands such obvious truths. From divorce to remarriage is not so simple on the surface, but has far-reaching considerations.
The trade-off from an objective perspective: Comparing the ex-wife and the nanny, the style is different, and the habits and attitudes of life are also different.
The ex-wife is a princess, and needs others' pampering and tolerance. She is accustomed to getting accustomed, but she has no sense of giving. Such a woman is like a golden bird in a cage, and also like a child who is not growing up. Although she is a little careful, she is relatively simple to consider issues. They are more personal-centered, focusing on how others treat themselves rather than How do you treat others.
On the other hand, Aunt Cai, the nanny, is very different. She is relatively mature and sophisticated, good at observing, and able to appreciate the feelings of others. Such a woman is like a grass in the wilderness, having experienced wind and rain, knowing that life is not easy, and cherish it. Although their contributions are often very purposeful, they are very useful and uncomfortable among others.
Young people pursue romance. What they want is feeling. They believe that true love is what they are willing to give. With age, passion fades, and subconsciously, there is a trade-off and comparison between giving and reward.
Everyone's living environment and experience are different, so the way of looking at problems and the style of doing things are not the same, and this difference has often become a habit, and it is generally difficult to change.
Facing the unchangeable reality, Lao Nan can only find his inner balance by changing his own choices.
Subjective feeling: the same effort,There are differences in the rewards from the ex-wife and the nanny.
The previous serious illness made Lao Nan understand many things and also realized where to go for the rest of his life. He loved his ex-wife and spoiled her as a princess as a treasure in his palm, but at a critical juncture, Aunt Cai, the nanny, was pulled step by step from the desperate mud.
People have reached an age and are no longer as strong as before, and what they want is different. The feeling of being taken care of and being cared by others warms the heart, and even knows that Aunt Cai has a purpose and has I still choose this way. The reason is very simple, that is, I think my efforts are worthwhile.
In fact, everyone has a steelyard in their hearts, one side is oneself and the other side is others. When you know what you want and work willingly, the steelyard is balanced.
On the surface, it is regrettable and regrettable to be separated from his ex-wife, but in fact, Lao Nan used this choice to change the trajectory of his life and pursue another kind of happiness.
Selfishness is human nature. Many people may not agree with this sentence, but you might as well recall that when we were very young, we didn’t know right, wrong, likes or dislikes. If we had something delicious in our hands, others would tease to eat. What is his instinctive reaction?
Lao Nan's approach is selfish in my opinion, but who can be 100% selfless? After all, between selflessness and selfishness, personal selfishness is the weight. The position it goes to determines whether it is fair or not, and it also reflects the quality of a person.
In life, we pursue beauty and desire fairness. When we take advantage, we are complacent, and we suffer from grievances. What do you think fairness is like at these times?
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Author: A silk of draped,An emotional narrator with a cheerful personality and jokes, willing to accompany teachers and friends to taste life and talk about life with jokes.
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