My husband and I had a red light in the eighth year of marriage. The divorce agreement was a few days ago, and I was ready. Waiting for him to agree now. As he came back more and more irritable, and hatred more and more in my eyes, I knew that this day was coming soon. It's ridiculous, when I married him, I waited for him to nod, and now I want to divorce him, I am also waiting for his decision. I don't know if this is another kind of "beginning and end". Figure network.
My husband and I are college classmates. We met at a campus event and fell in love at first sight. When we were in love, we had a very good relationship, probably because we did not involve the original family of both parties, it was a bit more pure, and the relationship was particularly sincere. It was precisely because he treated me well in love, so no matter how my parents dissuaded me, when he nodded to me and said that he was willing to marry me, he did not hesitate to follow him back to his hometown.
My mother-in-law, because I am a foreign girl, shattered her plan to let her son marry a wealthy daughter-in-law, and she was very unwelcome to me. All sorts of faults, sow discord, fortunately we have our own wedding room. Otherwise, if I live together, I can't bear it anymore. Not long after marriage, I knew that my mother-in-law was patriarchal, and I also knew that her mother-in-law was very stingy, let alone a daughter-in-law who I didn't like. So I want my mother-in-law to spend some money for me, it's almost impossible.
I have always known this, but I have always felt that it doesn't matter, because I never thought about relying on my mother-in-law, I never thought about letting her help, and never thought about doing something with her money. But I forgot, this person, not everything can be completely independent of others. Because there are times when you can't even rely on your own.
After I became pregnant, I always took care of myself. The child in my stomach was very obedient, so I didn't suffer much during my pregnancy. But when I was 7 months pregnant, I accidentally fell in the living room at home and got fetal gas. Although my husband took me to the hospital as soon as possible, the baby was still born prematurely. On the way to the hospital, I called my parents, but it took time for them to come over. When my parents arrived at the hospital, the baby was already born.
I knew before that I was pregnant with twins. After the birth, the doctor told me that I was born with twins. I was so happy. But because of twins and premature birth, the child’s development is not very good.Need to enter the incubator. When the doctor asked me for my opinion, I said at the time that I don’t care about money, as long as I treat my child well, I will listen to the doctor. I had severe bleeding at the time, and I had been in the observation room. When I came out, it was 4 hours after the birth of the child.
Back to the ward, I immediately asked my husband to take me to see the child, even if it is through the glass, I also want to see the child. But my husband kept prevaricating me, his eyes dodge. I was faintly disturbed in my heart, ignoring his persuasion and insisting on looking after the child. He couldn't hide the truth from me, and told the truth, it turns out that his daughter is very weak, and she has to spend more money than her son. The key is that she can't be guaranteed to be rescued.
So the mother-in-law felt sorry for the money and felt that there was no need to waste her money. Regardless of the doctor's persuasion, she signed the agreement and gave up the rescue. After I heard this, I kept begging my husband and my mother-in-law to let them pay to save my daughter. I said the money will definitely be returned to you. I can't save it, I admit it, but just give up like this, I really can't do it. But no matter what I said, the mother-in-law was not moved, I even knelt down for her.
But she still asked my husband to hold me, not letting me go to the doctor. I didn't see the baby until my parents arrived at the hospital, but at this time, my daughter was no longer breathing. I was crying for a divorce, and my mother also cried, but when my son was full moon, my parents persuaded me to bear it. The mother said: "This husband, you want to marry yourself, we can see that he is also very guilty of this matter, and he has quarreled with his mother several times. If he can treat you mother and child because of this matter, Better, I believe that child will also be relieved."
I looked at the little child in my arms, could it really make him lose a complete family? In the end, I gave up the divorce and went on. My husband really treats me better than before, and loves my son. And mother-in-law, we have not been in contact for more than half a year. Later, my husband couldn't hold on anymore, and started to visit her mother-in-law secretly, paying back some money from time to time. He thought I didn't know, but I knew it a long time ago.
But I didn't pierce this layer of window paper, I thought to myself, the mother-in-law is his mother after all. He is filial to himself, so let him go, as long as I don't force me to be close to my mother-in-law, I will keep one eye open. I thought I could live like this, but after 6 years, my mother-in-law became ill.During the hospitalization, my husband wanted me to take care of it. He is busy with work and is indeed powerless. But I didn't comment, so I refused.
Husband is very opinionated about this. He thinks it has been 6 years and I should let it go. Besides, my mother-in-law is already sick. But I said that I told you before that I will never reconcile with my mother-in-law in this life. I didn't stop you from being filial, and I didn't stop you from taking your son to see her. It's the end of my benevolence and righteousness. Just treat me as cold-blooded. . If we just stay at this level, maybe we will not go to divorce.
But two weeks later, her mother-in-law's condition got worse and she had to undergo surgery. Because of the complexity of the operation and a series of subsequent treatments, the cost is quite high. The family didn't have so much money at all, so she cried and cried to her mother-in-law, asking her son to save her. My husband thought about it and thought of selling the house. This house is our wedding house. Although my parents did not agree, they still paid for me to buy a house because they felt sorry for me.
Of course, my husband's family also paid for it, but my family has more. My parents insisted that we signed the agreement and my family accounted for two-thirds. I definitely don’t agree to sell the house, but my husband kept persuading me that it’s been 6 years since you said it, and you should let it go. My mom knows it’s wrong, so don’t hold on to it. Things like that. I smiled and said, "It's okay to sell the house. Let's divorce first. You take one-third of the money to treat your mother. I will take the child and two-thirds of the money."
"The doctor said. , My mother will not have many days without surgery, the success rate of the surgery is very high, you see how pitiful my mother is now, she really wants to live." My husband said to me every word, but I sneered in my heart and said:" Everyone has to take responsibility for their words and deeds. The mother-in-law wants to live very much. Doesn’t our daughter want to live before? Isn’t she pitiful? Just because she is a daughter, she has to spend more money, so she tries to persevere I was born, but my father and grandma gave up. Why didn’t you feel that your daughter was pitiful at the time, why didn’t you convince your mother?"
"It's been 6 years, why are you still talking about it , Can't you let it go?" My husband was very angry, and couldn't understand why I was still worried about it.Yes, it has been 6 years, and the pain in my heart has never subsided, but my husband may have forgotten his daughter. Now, facing my mother-in-law’s crying, I might still regret that because of me, I didn’t have better filial piety over the past few years.
I really don't want to fight with him, telling him: "I want me to agree to sell the house to her for treatment, unless she returns her daughter to me." After that, I went back to the bedroom and ignored him. I know that some people may say that I am cold-blooded and that I am careful, but no matter what, I will not compromise. My daughter, because her mother-in-law is reluctant to spend money and prefers sons over daughters, just left me. How can I not care, how can I forgive?
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