Why do men think that women outside know themselves better than their wives?
A woman who is considerate of her husband and dedicated to her family. If you ask any man like a woman a good wife, you will get a definite answer. Men will say that having such a wife is a blessing and must be cherished.
However, in reality, you will find many men slapped their faces, and many women who spare no effort to care for their husbands and family, not only did not receive the love and cherishment of their husbands, but they lived in their husband’s indifference and might even be caught off guard. Betrayal.
You have to ask these men why this is so, most of the time their answer is "because the wife doesn't understand me".
Many original partners don't understand why they pay so much, and they are not as good as the third party's "know you". In fact, the third party only provides emotional value.
In a marriage relationship, whether a man thinks you understand him well is related to whether you can provide him with effective emotional value.
Let me give you a simple example to help you understand this concept. For example, a man said to his wife, "I drank a lot of boring wine by myself last night..."
At that time, the husband will be interrupted. The wife may be anxious, distressed and angry, and then said to her husband in an accusing tone, "Didn’t I tell you not to drink too much? I found your liver function during the last physical examination. It’s not so good anymore, can’t you just think about it yourself?!”
At this time, what the man listened to was not his wife’s concern, but his wife’s "nagging". He wanted to talk about his troubles. The state disappeared immediately. At this time, his feeling was, "Forget it, it's useless to say it, she doesn't understand me."
And how would a woman who knows how to provide effective emotional value respond to this man's sentence? ? She will look at the man with a concerned look, and even hold the man’s hand in her palm, and gently ask, “Is it in a bad mood? Can you tell me what’s going on?”
When you need to confide, whether it’s purely bitter or really in trouble, as long as you listen to it patiently,Don't interrupt him, don't preach, even if you don't understand what he said, a man will think you understand him! Because you gave him the response he needed on an emotional level.
After listening to this example, I believe everyone understands more why the wife cares and pays so much to her husband, but the husband always feels that his wife does not understand herself, because in the family, the wife's care and dedication to her husband are often too "real" , Ignoring the real needs of her husband on the emotional level.
In marriages that are in crisis of betrayal, few third parties impress men by paying more than their wife in the house. They often speak to the man’s heart at the right time. , Do things at the needs of men.
If you always feel that your contribution is not proportional to your husband’s love in your marriage; if your husband doesn’t want to be in love with you, you always say you don’t understand him; or your marriage is experiencing a third-party crisis, you can do it Tell me your details, and I will help you find a solution that suits you according to your situation.
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