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Everyone has an independent thought. When two people live together, there will be various disputes, including cultural differences. Including how to bring children?
Sa Bening and his wife Li Bai also encountered this problem when they were raising children. As we all know, Sa Bening is a very popular host, but he has a foreign wife who is Canadian.
The two people have different nationalities and have different cultural influences, so the parenting concepts they produce are naturally different. So, how big is the difference in parenting concepts between China and foreign countries? Just look at Sabeining and his wife.
When the two got married, it was quite a sensation. Countless people gave their blessings and their married life was happier. When Sa Bening talked about his family on the program, the words were also very sweet.
The two people also gave birth to a pair of twins, which is considered a great joy, in the eyes of others, they seem to be "model couples".
However, the two people who are most affectionate will have conflicts when they encounter the problem of raising children. Even the talented people will not escape the quarrel over trivial matters in life.
Earlier on the show, Sa Bening revealed that he often conflicts with his wife because of disagreements. Because his wife is a foreigner, she has always been a free-range parenting style.
However, he could not agree with his wife's parenting behavior. He also cited an example. When he went home once, he saw his two children gnawing on slippers, but his wife did not care.
He quickly stopped when he saw it and asked his wife why he didn’t stop. His wife said something, which impressed him. She said: "This is the slippers at home." The meaning of
is that this is something at home. It's not dirty, and the child gnaws on it, there is no big problem.
When Sa Benin described this incident, his volume was high and his eyes widened. It was obvious that he was surprised at what he said to his wife, which was probably beyond the scope of his understanding, and made people feel ridiculous.
also complained to other hosts: "Can I eat slippers at home?"
It can be seen that the two people have very different parenting concepts. The wife tends to grow up savagely, but Sa Beining is more detailed, so for The wife's idea is difficult to accept.
So the wife dislikes her husband and cares too much about the details of the children, and the husband dislikes his wife and pays too little attention to details. It seems that every family has a difficult time to recite!
Although the two people quarrel, the relationship is still very good, and there is also a cultural difference.
Because English is an inverted sentence, when Li Bai speaks Chinese, he habitually inverted, trying to say "I'll kill you", but accidentally said "I'll kill you."
So, during the quarrel, you can also make a big joke, and this fight will naturally not go on. Besides, the two people are also very good at coordinating relations and resolving conflicts, so the problem is not big.
Actually, conflicts in parenting concepts, regardless of nationality, will exist in any pair of families. Maybe it is a conflict in concepts between husband and wife, or a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but often quarreling is actually bad for the growth of children.
So, how to deal with the conflict of parenting concepts
Don’t quarrel in front of children
Everyone has their own personality, and it’s normal to think differently. As a member of the family, it is necessary to understand that others have different ideas, but quarreling is always bad. , Especially in front of children.
So, don't quarrel in front of your children, avoid leaving a bad impression on your children, and solve anything privately.
Starting from improving the relationship
In fact, many people understand that the worse the relationship, the easier it is to conflict, and the more they want to refute the other's views. Therefore, in family relationships, handling the relationship is the first and the second is how to take care of the children.
Take the relationship between husband and wife as an example. If the relationship is not good and the quarrel is at the end, it is not arguing about right or wrong, but trying to get the other person to agree with their own views. If the husband and wife have a good relationship, they can communicate more calmly and understand each other.
Therefore, how the relationship is handled is the most important step to avoid conflicts in parenting concepts. If the relationship between the husband and the wife is good, and the children's education conflicts, they can actually be resolved through discussions and mutual understanding.
If the relationship is not good and you are always led by emotions, you cannot handle contradictions and conflicts.
xuan dad has something to say that no one at
is "absolutely correct". As parents, conflicts will inevitably arise in the parenting process.
But we must also learn to resolve, instead of getting angry in front of children, this is very detrimental to the growth of children, children are growing, and parents should accompany them to make progress.
Then again, can you accept free-range parenting? Will you have parenting conflicts with your family?
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