has always believed that in parent-child education, there must be a better way to communicate with children. Regrettably, when we are helpless and unable to find a way, we can only use poor "power", which is simple and rude, but often backfires.
All parents are eager to communicate with their children in a better way, and all children want their parents to communicate with themselves with a better attitude.
All this requires both parties to deal with their emotions.
But this is the ideal state of the paper. Although we look forward to a friendly and friendly education that will bring rain and rain, we still cannot avoid the problems that we will be caught off guard in real life. In each question, we reflect, summarize, grow, and improve.
all say that parents are the first teachers of their children. How can this "teacher" be competent? According to statistics, up to two-thirds of family education today is inappropriate. In other words, two-thirds of the "first teachers" are incompetent. Either over-protection of children, or excessive interference and strictness, while family education of democracy, trust, equality, and peace is scarce.
In fact, is only effective when the relationship is harmonious.
We are always looking for a better way, but we do not realize that the most important thing is attitude.
Our attitude towards family education, our attitude towards children, our attitude towards communication and our attitude towards ourselves will affect the effect of education and the growth of our children.
All children will encounter disappointment, frustration, pain, frustration, worry, failure, injury... all kinds of problems when they happen, do they really regard home as a "warm harbor", whether Willing to talk to my parents about my concerns, can I get relief from my parents?
When a child was young, he twittered every day, willing to talk to his parents about this and that, grow up slowly, and no longer like to talk, some people say that it is puberty! Why do some children no longer want to share their ideas with their parents? Afraid of being ridiculed, afraid of being suppressed... As parents, we are afraid of children making mistakes and detours, so we often intervene excessively under the name of "for your good", and even unknowingly deprive them of the opportunity to experience life.
Some parents will realize their incompetence, so they keep learning. Some parents are not aware of it, and their children will feel their parents’ incompetence. Gradually, they will find that parents’ cognition is even below them, and parents will lose their deterrence and influence. If there is no effective Get close and communicate, then the "rebellious period" really comes. What children resist is not the parents themselves, but the way of education they do not want to receive. If the two parties "can't agree", they will naturally confront each other, pulling their necks and their faces flushed.
When parents feel powerless about parent-child education, or many reading related books can find a way out. As the saying goes, "Parents study hard and children are going up every day."
"Parental Effectiveness Training", author Thomas Gordon has spent nearly 50 years teaching parents, teachers and business leaders how to build effective interpersonal relationships, using PET training methods to help parents better Understand the purpose of children’s behavior, help parents to control their emotions, listen actively, communicate effectively, encourage in time, establish a good parent-child relationship with their children based on the principle of equality and respect, and help children bravely face challenges in life, in terms of IQ and EQ On the basis of balanced development, grow healthier and happier, and have more core competitiveness.
We are pursuing such family and parent-child relationships all the time:
1, be more intimate with children, and be close friends with children;
2, improve the child’s strong sense of value and security;
3, cultivate the child’s ability to solve problems independently , To take responsibility for their own needs;
4, to develop children's creativity and unlimited potential, to be a brave man who dares to take risks and explore;
5, to return to the child’s innocent, free, and complete nature, so that children can grow up in a healthy and harmonious body, mind, and soul;
6 , Cultivate children's self-confidence, lively and cheerful, and love to make friends;
7, parents and children can become true selves withoutWe must suppress our own needs to achieve a win-win situation for parents and children;
8, let the family be full of natural, harmonious, accepting, free, warm and loving atmosphere.
always believes in the power of internal drive, and healthy parent-child relationship is the source of internal drive. must also dare to recognize the various deficiencies in the education process, persist in learning, and constantly correct, so that children will not deviate on the road of growth. Growth also requires conscious improvement. This era of has brought too much anxiety, impetuousness and anxiety to too many parents. The more so, the more they need to read.
