Yesterday, Hanggao Education Group Xiayan Middle School held a parent meeting for the first and second grades of high school. The few roll-ups in the lobby on the first floor attracted many parents who passed by. Some parents whispered while watching. I always say...".
A shy dad took advantage of not many people passing by and squatted to take pictures of the words on the roll-up banner.
took a closer look. The roll-up label says what the child wants to hear most from his parents and what he wants to hear from his parents. These words are the real thoughts collected by the school psychological counseling station from more than 800 students in the school. The teacher of
psychological station specially compiled the most representative words for exhibition before the parent meeting. Under the "don't want to listen" list, there are these words, please see if you have been "shot":
and the following words are what children want to hear:
and the words that teachers and students most want to hear and what they don't want ：Z1z
School Psychology Teacher Xue Sainan said: “Before the mid-term exam, I took a psychology class to relieve test anxiety in each of the first and second grades of high school. During the class, I talked to them about factors that can cause test anxiety. Yes. Many students have mentioned that what they are actually afraid of is not the exam, but the parent meeting after the exam. They are afraid that their parents will be dissatisfied with them and say those things that will hurt them."
I can always hear a lot of complaints about my parents. For example, a child from a single-parent family came to me and said that because of his poor performance, my mother said to him, "I would let you and dad if I knew it." During the epidemic, some parents yelled at their children holding their mobile phones all day during the epidemic, but the children were only taking lessons online. I understand that parents often have headaches, and they don’t understand why their children grow up, but they yell at them. The family closed the door and did not want to communicate with themselves. So we hope to do such a thing, tell parents how to better communicate and understand each other."
On November 12, the school psychology station launched "a sentence In the "Light, One Sentence Injury" activity, through the psychological committees of each class, the students in the class want to hear the most and least want to hear from the parent-child, teacher-student, and classmates. At the same time, the school also distributed electronic questionnaires to students, teachers, and parents through the official account, inviting more people to participate.
Among the students, the deepest feeling is the part between parent and child. The returned questionnaire also recorded many "lights" that inspired the students and the "injuries" that affected them.
Teacher Xue said that among the words that parents and children don’t want to hear, the most frequent mention is being compared with other children.
"From the feedback from the students, it is true that everyone does not like parents mentioning other people's children. This can be regarded as a "minefield" in the heart of a child."
Secondly, mobile phones are also prone to "storms". Many controversies about declining performance and myopia started with mobile phones.
Teacher Xue explained that the proportion of students living in the school is very large, and the children are usually at school, and parents are not able to grasp the situation of their children. Sometimes when I go home on weekends and see my children playing on mobile phones, I will suddenly get angry, and I will even use this to suspect that the children are in school. Children will also feel wronged and feel that they are not trusted.
However, there are many warm words in the words that I want to hear most. For example, "I'm tired, my mother made your favorite food...", "I will pick you up on Friday!" Teacher Xue said: "Many children live far away from home, and they have to sit down after school on Friday. Two-hour bus. So they are very happy to hear parents say that they will pick you up on Friday. Although they are already in high school, the joy of having parents to pick you up is still very pure. On the way out of school, it is also very good. An opportunity for family communication.”
For example, the father of Wu Shuang in the first (third) class of the school often comes to pick up his children from school. On the way from school, he always asks his son: What is there to share with his father, and the child is also happy to talk to him.
After school last week, Wu Shuang went directly to the hospital to extract his teeth, and his father picked him up from the hospital. Even if his mouth was so swollen that he couldn't speak, Wu Shuang had to take his father's mobile phone to type, and then use the voice to play it out. He couldn't wait to share with his father new things that happened at school this week.
Xue LaoThe teacher said: "Children are growing up slowly, and their self-awareness is getting stronger and stronger. If we want to walk into the heart of the child and become a parent trusted by the child, we need to be patient, learn slowly, and let the light shine into the heart of the child. more, less scars "
correspondent Chou Yingting
. (author: reporter Zhang Yulu editor: Wu Jingjing)
