Education is the art of slowness, and all success comes naturally.
——The inscription
"Slowly wind, neither warm nor cold" means that the spring breeze blows slowly, neither warm nor cold, and very pleasant. Zhu Xi of the Song Dynasty recorded in "Yiluoyuanyuanlu": "Zhu Gongxi saw Mingdao in Ruzhou and returned over a month. The speaker said:'Guangting sat in the spring breeze for a month.'" It means that Zhu Guangting listened to Ruzhou. Cheng Hao gave a lecture and went home after listening for more than a month. Feng Renbian (praising the teacher's education) said: "Kuang Ting sat in the spring breeze for a month." This should be the best state of education-like being blown by the spring breeze, its essence lies in the word "slow".
I want to talk about my understanding of "slow" education from three aspects-think more, talk less, do less.
More thinking means more reflection and "slow" action. In the process of growing up, children will make various mistakes. When a child has a problem, parents should not rush to a conclusion and let the bullet fly for a while to prevent "fast" and arbitrary decisions. Rousseau once said: “People who rashly judge children often make wrong judgments! Such people are even more naive than children.” It’s better to “slow down” to reflect, empathize and think, so that you can feel confident. Discuss with the child about the plan and how to correct the mistake. If we arbitrarily make conclusions due to lack of consideration and hurt the child’s mind, then our status in the child’s mind will decline. As the saying goes, "covering water is hard to harvest", and children no longer trust us. When he interacts with other children, his parents will not be the backer and source of his confidence, he will become timid, afraid of making mistakes, and thus afraid of contacting new things.
Therefore, we should not be an arbitrary parent, but a friend-like parent. "Peng" means "the body is next to the body", so that children feel that they are equal to us. Only by solving problems in an atmosphere of mutual reflection will children have the courage to reflect and the pride of correcting mistakes, and they have a strong sense of their parents. A sense of trust. This is a prerequisite for a good education. Z2z
said less, it means less long-winded and "slow" expectation. Every child has a certain process for growth. What kind of problems he should understand at a certain age are actually fixed, and we can't force it. If parents keep complaining, it will only ruin him, and we should learn to shut up. Many parents like to chatter as soon as they see their children's problems. This is actually a kind of negative emotion transmission to the children-I can't! Too many complaints can make children feel inferior or rebellious (rebellious). The shortcomings of the child will become more and more obvious, but the effect will be counterproductive.
We must "slowly" look forward, not be impatient, and calmly look at the growth of children. As the saying goes: "A good word is three warm words in winter, and bad words are opposite to cold in June." The child is boasting. It is necessary to strengthen the child positively, praise his strengths more, and slowly look forward to it, and you will suddenly find that the shortcomings of the child are reduced.
Doing less means less agent and "slow" company. The parents’ eagerness for quick success and quick benefits, the agent arranged to solve the problem in a short time. In fact, it only solved the parents’ problem, but did not really improve the children’s abilities. In learning, let children develop the habit of independent learning and complete homework independently. When checking the homework, if the wrong question is found, it is not simply done on an agent, and directly corrected. It is not a direct explanation. Instead, let the children read the textbooks and notes by themselves, and then digest the examples taught by the teacher to comprehend them independently. However, we can do it wisely, such as sorting out the wrong question sets, instead of having children copy the questions tediously, parents can take pictures of the wrong questions, then "cut" the picture, "paste" it in the document, and finally print it out and bind it. Wrong question set.
Sometimes, concern is not asking; sometimes, nothing is better than nothing. We can guide, encourage, and accompany slowly.
Long Yingtai, a Taiwanese female writer, said in "Children, Take Your Time": "I am willing to wait a lifetime for him to tie the bow in a calm manner." Education should be a matter of course, definitely not done overnight. . We will always believe that children will feel extremely happy when they grow up in the warm "slow" spring breeze, and happiness is more important than excellence!
The protagonist of this issue
Parents: Ding Xiaochun
Student: City Experimental Middle School (21) Class Ding Anqi
Final review: Zhao Xiaoshi Reviewer: Chen Meilin Editor: Meizi
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