and some relatives still live in the village. In the photos, it can be seen that the children of colleagues of
look different from those of relatives. Among the children of the same age as
, the colleague’s child is obviously whiter and more foreign, I don’t know if it is an illusion.
When I said this to another colleague of the company, he affirmatively replied:
"It is not an illusion. The
family of three has already jumped out of the poor, and it must be fundamentally different from the original family.
What you have found is [not the same] ], it’s actually the difference in temperament. The children of
were born in the city and grew up in a different environment. Can they have the same temperament?” Looking at the surroundings, many of our 80s and 90s generations came from unfavorable backgrounds. Get a university education, come to the city to study, and then find a way to gain a foothold in the city and start a family.
Many people may think that this is nothing, isn't it just a job in the city with a monthly salary of about 10,000 yuan, isn't it just buying a house and a car.
Now people who meet the standard of "a monthly salary of over 10,000, with a house and a car" are all over the street. What is rare about this? The editor of
wants to say:
meets this standard, there are many people;
but to judge whether a person is successful, do not compare with others, compare with your own past, compare with your own way.
If a person comes from a poor family and can find a job in the city through his own efforts, buy a house, buy a car, get married and have a baby, then he has completed the class transition, and it is even called a "life counterattack".
Because for the poor family, his biggest counterattack is to make the child start higher than himself.
Starting point 1: The original family environment
beyond the ancestors. Research shows:
a person's personality will be basically completed before the age of 6, which means that a person's character development before the age of 6 will affect his future life development.
observes the poor families around, these families have some problems more or less, such as:
material poverty, parents always quarrel over trivial matters and emotional breakdown;
parents adopt arbitrary education methods for the convenience of their children. Children will become conscientious;
parents are not well-educated, unable to effectively guide their children in learning, and may even have language injuries and violence injuries.
How strong is a child who grows up in such an environment to not be negatively affected? almost impossible.
And most of the above problems can be solved by money.
Many times, with money, 90% of your worries will disappear automatically.
Those "bad guys" who have escaped the muddy door through their own efforts have better material conditions from his generation.
Therefore, their offspring do not need to endure the material scarcity of childhood like their parents.
at least, children are born with:
a house with clear windows and a free private car;
has a colorful living environment in the city;
has many choices for shopping, playing, and reading. Compared with the past,
is not a counterattack?
Starting point 2: Correct three views, so that children can avoid detours
People in poor and backward areas, their three views are sometimes difficult to understand.
For example, patriarchy, no emphasis on education, feudal superstition and so on.
may not be the case for all people in poor areas, but this situation does exist, and it deeply affects their next generation. The editor of
has a colleague from a very poor place. According to him, people over there do not pay much attention to education, even to the point of being anti-intellectual. Z7z always uses "Who and whose children are not in high school, go out early I’m a big boss now" to comfort myself by saying:
In addition to the increase in the number of college students and graduate students in recent years, it is true that ordinary college students find it difficult to find a satisfactory job, which intensifies those who do not pay attention to it. The stereotypes of educated people even put "reading"Books" are placed on the opposite of "success". It seems that the only way to make money is to work early.
But after receiving a certain education, anyone will realize the importance of education:
undergraduates are "worthless" and graduated from undergraduates. A certificate is also a stepping stone to a company’s interview. Without this stepping stone, you don’t even know where the door opens.
This is an endless loop: the more
despise education, the less aware of the importance of education, and it will continue for generations. Unless there is a child who takes the initiative to break this cycle.
This is also the most precious point of the poor:
himself first broke through the barriers of anti-intellectual thinking, and he realized the huge impact of education on his own destiny, then he will definitely let himself Children receive a better education...
has embarked on a virtuous circle since his generation.
Starting point 3: Let children have the ability to look up at the stars
Poor people often have one thing in common, that is: very impatient, If you dare not invest in the future, you will be cautious even in the present, let alone "dreaming." The dream of
is an unattainable luxury for the poor.
and this is also well understood:
is in poverty People who are in a difficult situation, they must consider the benefits at this moment to let themselves and their children live.
If you say to him, "Now there is a chance to make money, but you need to invest time, energy and money first. ", then you will probably be rejected, because poor people cannot afford to take risks. What does
poor mean? Z1z
poor means not only material poverty, but also stifles a child’s freedom to "dream" from the beginning Z1z
And those unfamiliar children who, through their own efforts, achieved a class transition, their children can live more calmly and have more dreams:
children, you don’t have to give up your studies early and go out to work and earn money, you can go to love literature, Art, you can love music and dance, you can also study academics, and look up at the stars-as long as you want.
Actually looking at a person's life, you will find a phenomenon, that is, people with dreams seem to be more tenacious and more tenacious. Toughness.
This is also the deepest love of "pre-bad parents" for their children:
has a dream, you can chase it, mom and dad are your most loyal and reliable protection.
What is:
’s lack of education, narrow horizons, and limited cognition.
and those who were born in mud, but tried their best to get rid of the muddy, struggling to land, you may be ordinary, but compared to the past, you are already in control of your own destiny. Heroes.
Your children should be proud of you.
