Tolerance is not to care about, let it go when things are over; tolerance is not to force, and different ideas can be discussed; tolerance is not impulsive, tolerate one sentence, calm down, take a step back... your tolerance may become The light beam that illuminates the child's world.
November 16
World Tolerance Day
Liu Changming
Parents must be able to "knead into the sand"
Author | Liu Changming, Chairman of the Senior High School Education Committee of the Chinese Society of Education, and the principal of Beijing Fourth Central Plains
I once read a story online: It is about a child in Finland who did something for his family when he was ten years old. He may feel that he needs to have some rewards, so he wrote: "Get back 20 pfennigs for daily necessities and send the letter to the post office for 10 pfennigs. Ni, work for adults in the garden for 20 pfennigs..."
If your child suddenly gave you a note like this one day, how would you react? Some parents may also be furious. The mother saw the bill and didn't say anything, and put the money there.
When the child got the money, he saw another bill from his mother: "Peter owes his mother the following amounts: 0 pfennig for his 10 years of happy life at home, 0 pfennig for 10 years of food and drink, for His nursing care when he was sick was 0 Fanny, because he always had a loving mother, 0 Fanny..." Z2z
I think this is an art. I think that most of the parents nowadays lack such an educational art.
We often say: "Teacher, I handed over the child to you. You can beat him or scold him."
This reflects the mentality of parents, shirking their role.
In many cases, parents make a fuss. When a son receives a call from a girl, the mother may pick up the phone and listen in the side room, or a girl receives a call from a boy. Many parents immediately report to the teacher and take some "Necessary" measures restrict the child's freedom of telephone and communication, etc.
is actually too sensitive.
Our school teacher once said a word to me, I regard this as a very important educational principle. He said: "Principal, I understand now. Sometimes when doing education, you have to rub the sand with your eyes."
I think this is a kind of tolerance of education. We have to believe that children can understand this matter and learn from this matter. Realize some truth.
I once read a very vivid story written by a Taiwanese writer: When he was a teacher, he took children to the beach to play. The children wanted to go into the water. Considering the safety, he began to disagree, but watch When the child made the request so urgently, he agreed. However, he asked the teachers to set up a line of defense in the distance so that the children could not exceed this line of defense. The children had a lot of fun and got wet after coming up. The children were talking and laughing, and a little girl took off her clothes. Obviously, her clothes were taken off too much, and the teacher was particularly surprised, wondering if she wanted to stop it, but he restrained it. Later, he saw that the little girl twisted her clothes and put them on. There was nothing unusual about the boy and girl next to her.
is not here because of the excitement of the children, but if we adults shout, this child may be ruined in a lifetime. So, this is the sand to be rubbed in our eyes.
Yang Dongping
Tolerance is the first indicator of family education
Author | Yang Dongping, Chairman of the 21st Century Education Research Institute and member of the National Education Advisory Committee
Parents must first be tolerant and kind to the concept of child education. Protecting their normal lives and protecting their physical and mental health is the most important kind of education. In other words, treat children as children. Children are not circus puppies. They must learn eighteen martial arts, walk tightrope, and go through fire circles.
The second is to wait. There is a book in South Korea called "Good Mother Take Your Time". Parents are too anxious now to allow their children to grow up naturally. They find all kinds of quick ways to apply chemical fertilizers. Can they get any good fruits? Early education is not early education. Things you can’t do at 3 years old are doing well at 5 years old, things you don’t know how to memorize at 5 years old are not a problem at 6 years old, and questions you can’t do in third grade are easy to do in fourth grade. Why worry? ? What is the satisfaction of all kinds of quick-made things, in fact, it is the vanity of the parents!
The third is liberation. Tao Xingzhi proposed to liberate children’s minds, children’s eyes, and children’sEars, liberate children's mouth, liberate children's time, liberate children's space. It cannot be overstepped, arranged to replace it, control cannot be excessively restricted, and it is not advisable to target prematurely. Towering trees cannot grow in the flowerpot. The current practice is to apply pressure at various levels, pull out seedlings to encourage growth, and apply a large amount of "chemical fertilizers and pesticides" to occupy all the children's time and space. That would make people foolish and it is impossible to cultivate real talents.
fourth is discovery. In family education, the most important function of a parent is to help the child discover his self and his personality. To be more specific, first, physical and mental health is more important than attending a prestigious school. For children, physical and mental health is undoubtedly the most important. "Health first" is not an empty phrase, it is reflected in the cultivation of children's sports interest, sports ability and sports habits, and love for outdoor activities.
Parents should pay attention to the child’s emotional quotient, rather than one-sided emphasis on IQ, so that he can become an atmospheric, tolerant and caring person. The so-called "3 years old look young, 7 years old look old", not to read a few Tang poems, but to observe the rules of the game, be grateful, helpful, tolerant, upright, learn to respect, and be willing to share , Be kind to people, etc. It is cheerfulness, grandeur, affinity, cooperation, and rules. These determine the future development of a child and determine whether he can become a "big weapon." A child who is careful, uncomfortable, and sick is definitely not far away.
As a parent, do you know the important mission you shoulder? Unfortunately, many parents now only know the scores and rankings. In fact, the future competition will not be "striving for the first", but "finding the only one"-to find a unique advantage that is different from others and truly belongs to you. Because the essence of education is to let children be their best self. Without personality, there will be no real growth.
Parents should not just stare at the test scores, but observe and discover the children's unique talents, potentials, hobbies, ignite the flames in the children's hearts, and find the direction of their growth. This may take a long time. Therefore, there is such a sentence: "It is the ultimate mission of parents to show the talents of every child!" Buffett said that the only thing parents should do for their children is to find the enthusiasm of their children and encourage them to go all out to pursue them. , And played it to the fullest. Finding enthusiasm is a laborious and mysterious process that requires a lot of free space. If parents exert pressure, it will only be counterproductive. Parents only need to tell their children not to consider status, return or income when making choices, and ask for sincerity and resonance in their hearts.
Bai Yansong
tolerance is the best gift for children
Author | Bai Yansong, host.
became a father, I shouldn’t greet him with empty hands, but the child’s immature hands can’t hold anything called a gift, so let me treat my wishes as a gift, throw it into my life’s mailbox, and send me a slow post. . When he grows up, open it curiously.
If all the virtues can be chosen by one's own accord, child, you can pick out tolerance first. Z2z
may be expensive for peace and quiet, but with tolerance, you can consume them in luxury. Tolerance can relax others and comfort yourself. It will make you put love first and use the weapon of hate as a last resort; tolerance will make you easy-going, allowing you to take things that people value very seriously; tolerance still It will prevent you from insomnia, no matter how unpleasant, no matter how great conflict, you will not spend the night in a tolerant mind. So, every morning, you will wake up in hope.
Once you have the virtue of tolerance, you will have a smile in your life.
source: network
editor: current teacher
