1. Think of a way to get the child away from misbehaving friends as soon as possible.
A senior sister’s son should go to elementary school next year. Her son was very disciplined and sensible, but he met a few boys in the neighborhood a few months ago and often stayed together. Playing, inadvertently learned a lot of swear words and bad things.
For example, if children are playing together, if something goes wrong, one of the children who takes the lead will shout "Ba Ga! Ba Ga!" The son will follow along. I also heard children say "Mom". The most overwhelming thing was that she saw the group of children and caught a stray cat in the community and beat her. Although her son did not participate, he was far behind.
She knew that children would never know these things. The reason for learning is probably because of curiosity and fear of being isolated, but she is still very nervous.
Her method is to call her son to her son to talk to him repeatedly, analyze the facts she heard and saw, and how she feels about these things.
Fortunately, the children knew that swearing and beating and scolding animals were bad, so they gradually broke off contact with those children.
Although the friendship between the children is pure and clean, the children are still young after all. The world outlook, outlook on life, and values are all in the stage of formation. In fact, they do not have a strong ability to distinguish friends. They can easily mingle with peers who are closer to them and become good playmates. This playmate of
does not necessarily have a rich family or good academic performance, but character must be something we need to pay special attention to.
We don’t need to control and interfere with the child. If we find that the child’s playmate is behaving badly, we might as well listen to the child frankly about his views on this friendship, and guide him to objectively observe and evaluate him from a different perspective. friend. Guide the child to realize that his playmate has shortcomings and deficiencies in some aspects, and it is not worth blindly learning and imitating.
2. Participate in some activities to help children deepen friendship
These things may seem a bit "utilitarian", but the influence of a good companion is really very effective for children.
In the children’s class, the neighbors around, and the friends in the cram school special class, there must be some advantages of the children, which our children can learn and absorb.
create more opportunities for children to be with these peers, and gradually they will not only gain friendship, but also gain a growth.
3. Be a child's first good friend, and cultivate a child into a person with a strong heart.
has watched a foreign video about the quality of childhood and how it affects the child's life. It lists two childhood models. The first childhood model of
is: when you are upset, someone will calm you down; when you are angry, someone will treat you calmly; when you need attention, someone will be by your side; when you don’t understand, someone will explain. ..... In short, you deserve to exist. In the world full of competition, no matter what value system there is, you will always be the center in the universe of two amiable adults. The second childhood pattern of
is: when you cry, they say you are spoiled; when you make trouble, they say you are for attention; when you make trouble, they hate you; when you stand, They threaten you...In short, you are disappointing, you should not exist, you are a burden, and in the end, it is actually a huge disappointment.
There is no doubt that the first friends of children are their parents. Parents' attitude towards their children when they become children's friends affects their children's lives for decades.
The first kind of childhood is the luckiest gift for anyone. Children have the opportunity to learn how to express intimacy, how to express themselves, to explore the world more confidently, and be more resilient; and the second kind of childhood Children can easily lose self-confidence, become anxious and depressed. He can't learn how to socialize well, nor can he feel the joy of socializing with others, and naturally there are few friends.
When a parent makes a child's first friend, and gives the child enough love and patience, so that the child becomes a rich person, he will also make more quality friends.
writer Jia Pingwa once wrote: "With what kind of person, you will have what kind of life. With hardworking people, you will not be lazy; with positive people, you will not be depressed. With the wise If you are a fellow and an expert, you will not be willing to be mediocre."
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