Don’t train your children to have this kind of character.
They will have no future when they grow up. If you have children at home, you must read
The editor has a good sister who she has grown up with since childhood. Since she grew up in the same neighborhood, she has a good relationship. When she grew up, she chose the same neighborhood in life when she got married. It just so happened that the children of the two families grew up together, went to the same school, and often went in and out together.
Recently, my good sisters and I made an appointment to take our children out to play together. The two children wanted to try something they had never done before - rock climbing , so they specially lined up to wait in line for the children to play.
While waiting below, I saw two children climbing on the rock. Originally, the two children were still in the same position. But I saw that the two children were also secretly competing. The older child, who was faster, took the lead and left the other younger child behind. After a while, the child with the leading speed quickly climbed to the highest point.
Originally rock climbing was for fun and to challenge myself. But I didn't expect this backward child to cry alone in mid-air when he saw that he lost. He also said that he didn't want to play anymore and wanted to come down directly. He always thought this game was not fun.
The coach on the side immediately arranged for the child to come down, and the parents quickly stepped forward to comfort the child. The child's mother did not encourage the child to persist, and just wanted to quickly comfort the child to stop crying.
Of course, the mother was very sensible and told the child that this was just a game, and it didn’t matter if he lost. If it were anyone else, he would win and win, but he didn’t expect that the child not only refused to listen to his mother’s comfort, but instead lost his temper and ran away.
In fact, those who have played this game should know that everyone has their own path and chooses a different path. So as long as you can reach the end in the end, it is already great. Every win or loss is not important. What is important is to constantly challenge yourself in the process.
But in daily life, some children have very low psychological defenses, and one failure makes them unbearable. Like the child I saw just now, he only cries when he loses. After experiencing failure, he doesn't listen to his mother's comfort. He only wants to escape and will not choose to continue working hard. In fact, this child's behavior is what is commonly known as a "glass heart." If this child does not change himself in the future, whether in study or work, he will have many problems.
In daily life, such children are not a minority. We often encounter many children who will only cry and lose their temper as long as they encounter something unsatisfactory. Thinking that you can get compromise and comfort from your parents by crying. Whether it is playing games or poor academic performance, or even facing criticism from teachers and elders, it will only end in crying.
Let’s analyze why these children like to cry? That's because these children have too many family members to accommodate them, experience very few setbacks, and have always lived according to their own wishes in life. Therefore, as long as the child encounters something unsatisfactory outside, he will feel a great blow and may even become depressed.
Moreover, these children also do not manage their emotions well. They only know how to cry and do not think of ways to solve problems. In some serious cases, they will give up on themselves, or vent their emotions by hurting themselves or others. In fact, parents should not only look at their children's grades all the time. Children's physical and mental health is an important education that parents should pay more attention to.
If parents consciously guide and educate their children correctly when they are very young, instead of blindly accommodating their children, they can help their children overcome difficulties, help their children correctly face their inner fragility, and let their children become a strong child. If children are always allowed to vent at will or tolerate it based on their own emotions, the children will easily become cowardly in the future and will only run away from difficulties.
Parents should know that emotional intelligence is very important for a child. If you guide your child well and take good care of your child's emotional intelligence since childhood, it will be helpful when you grow up. Otherwise, it will be difficult for children without emotional intelligence to be successful in the future, and personality defects will cause children to do some wrong things.
Especially when children face collective life at school, whether in study or daily life, there will be a lot of competitive pressure, not to mention that when they enter social work in the future, they will encounter more difficulties. One day, children will leave the arms of their parents and face the challenges of society alone. But if a child does not have the courage to take challenges since he was a child, he will be knocked down when he goes out into society one day in the future.
Although as a parent, I hope that my children will grow up under their care forever, but one day, the children will leave the arms of their parents. In order for their children to face challenges alone in the future, parents must learn to cultivate their children's abilities, find ways to improve their children's emotional intelligence, and constantly train their children's ability to suffer frustration.
Parents must know how to guide their children to manage their own emotions, so that their children can win the respect of others. It is recommended that parents buy a copy of " World Children's Growth Story Picture Book. Collector's Edition ".
This set of books is designed for underage children. It is suitable for 2-12 years old. It can effectively help children, shape a good character, help children develop social skills, manage and improve their own emotional management. There are 40 books in this set, and the theme of each book is to help children improve their emotional intelligence and help children understand more about how to behave in the world.
is a set of books that, through many stories, allow children to empathize and understand many truths. Moreover, the content in the book is not exaggerated, reliable, real and interesting.
The wonderful colors and paintings of this book can effectively attract children's interest in reading. Instead of telling their children a lot of big principles, parents should let their children know more stories from the book themselves, and then guide them on the principles and practices behind it.
Only a few seconds of chatting can effectively make children understand.
"Picture Book of Children's Growth Stories from Around the World. Collector's Edition" This set of books can not only easily help children solve some life problems, but also teach children how to solve problems independently. When children are accustomed to setbacks since childhood and face them bravely, accept and solve them, their emotional intelligence will also become higher and higher.
Parents should know that instead of nagging their children all the time, they can cleverly use this set of books "Picture Book of World Children's Growth Stories. Collector's Edition" to let their children experience and understand the truth on their own. Of course, if parents have time to accompany and guide them, the effect will be better.
Moreover, it can effectively accompany reading and promote the parent-child relationship. Only by effective communication can children listen to their parents in the future. Come and buy a set of such books for your family.
