Because there are children at home, many of the friends in the circle are parents of children. Parents always like to share their children's daily life. Some parents often show off that their 4-year-old children can write and write a lot; some show that their 3-year-old children can recite ancient poems and even record videos specifically for them; some parents also show off their children's arithmetic skills, having learned math addition and subtraction at just 5 years old.
These behaviors of parents are ruining your children
Some parents are extremely anxious after seeing the results of other people’s children. They force their children to learn to write, count numbers, learn arithmetic, and recite ancient poems... which makes their children very unhappy. Aren't kids this age supposed to just play and have fun? Why force a child to do something inappropriate for his age? Some parents are proud to believe that this is advanced education, allowing children to learn knowledge early and become more confident when they go to school.
I think you are right. It is true that if children learn a little knowledge in advance, they will be ahead of other children and accept it better when they get to school. But have you ever thought about how your children actually feel? If a child really starts learning numbers, ancient poetry, arithmetic, etc. when he is 3 years old and completes everything he should learn in primary school, will he definitely become a great person in the future?
The more I think about it, the more it sounds like the fable we learned when we were young: "pulling seedlings to encourage them to grow", which violates the rules of children's growth and forces children to grow up. In the end, it can only be counterproductive. Not only will children quickly forget the dry knowledge they are forced to learn, but they will also develop aversion to learning and lose curiosity and interest in learning.
Don’t go against the rules of your child’s growth by being eager for quick success.
Anyway, when my wife forced her child to learn, I totally disapproved of it. I repeatedly emphasized that children at this time should play and let them play to their heart’s content and reach their realm through play. This is what a child is. Instead of forcing him to do things he doesn't want to do, it will leave a shadow on his childhood and create a fear of learning knowledge.
Imagine from the perspective of a child, how would a child feel if his parents forced him to write, memorize, and do math every day as a child and do things he didn't like? The result of this is that he has felt that learning is a kind of pressure since he was a child, and learning is no fun, making him hate learning in his heart, and even avoid learning. Not only that, but the talent of the child is often sacrificed. When children play freely and do what they like to do, they can have a lot of shining points and stimulate their imagination and talents. However, these are ruthlessly broken by parents and they force their children to learn. This is an extremely wrong approach.
Respect children's interests and give them full freedom
Instead of forcing children to learn dry knowledge that is not appropriate for their age, it is better to let children have more exposure to the unknown world. Think about what kind of knowledge your children learn, how much of those boring things can be remembered, and how long they can be remembered. They may be forgotten in three to five days. Is it worth it?
And you take him to the underwater world once, play with Lego blocks once, go to the science museum once, and listen to a few fairy tales. How wonderful this is in his inner world. Some children can even keep these memories as happy memories for a lifetime. Therefore, as parents, we do not need to interfere too much in the growth of our children. We should respect and guide them more, give them enough freedom in the world, and get along with them on an equal footing.
If you want your children to grow better, it is more important to cultivate their curiosity and interest.
What to do at any age? This is the advice left by our ancestors. If you really want your child to learn better and have stronger skills in the future, it is actually more useful to cultivate your child's curiosity and interest in learning than to learn knowledge. You have to believe that your child's curiosity and interest are infinite, which can stimulate his continuous learning motivation and wisdom. As long as it is something that the child is interested in and curious about, the child will always find ways to take the initiative to learn and master it, instead of waiting for you to force him to do it.
So how to cultivate children's interest and curiosity? It is recommended that parents do more things that are consistent with their children's age, reduce interference with their children, take their children out to play more, and expose them to some new things, so that their children's hearts will be richer and more curious.
