During this period, the virus has been coming fiercely, and the word "yang" has almost flooded the circle of friends. Every day, I see many friends telling "yang" stories: they themselves are yang, their family members and children are yang, including asking for medicine, etc. The hot topics that everyone cares about are basically: Are you having sex? What to do after you get sunburned? How to prevent...
I pay attention to these issues every day, and I know she pays attention to them too.
She was my classmate when I was studying psychotherapy. She is the mother of two children. Like our family, the eldest is in adolescence and the second has just entered elementary school.
This Friday morning, I saw her posting this message on Moments:
Our family’s research activities have officially begun. The subject of the research is a little Yang person named Sami (Sami is the eldest son of her family). After hearing that Sami said that she was Yang, my father rushed out of the room excitedly, excitedly taking pictures of hair ties, and drove the eldest son into the room.
The first child in our family also consciously went back to his room and closed the door. But after a while, a bag of garbage was thrown out, and then he asked for a pack of paper towels, a glass of 60-degree water and a garbage bag. It felt like he was enjoying this kind of isolation.
Having said that, on the day he had a fever, I gave him food and drinks, scraping, , applying essential oils, and spending time in the sun... Now I am very, very curious about whether I will have Yang and what kind of symptoms I will have if I have Yang.
I have seen hundreds of mothers sharing stories about their children, and there is always worry and anxiety in every word (I completely understand). She is the first one I have seen who is so calm.
left a message immediately: I can learn from your good attitude. Then another student in our class left a message: A good attitude will provide good immunity .
At around 11 noon, she sent another message in the circle of friends. This one was longer than the previous one:
... The night before yesterday, Sami had a fever, so I quickly took his temperature, which was 38.7. It was almost 4 o'clock then. I found that his hands were cold when I touched them, so I cooked green onion , brown sugar ginger tea , and made my own electrolyte water in the afternoon. During this period, I helped him put a heating patch on his big vertebra, scraped his elbow fossa, chatted in the sun, and fed him. The temperature hovered between 38.1-39.6. Ask for leave for him in the morning.
I haven’t been like this for a long time. I remember the scene when he was still a little kid being taken care of by me. I looked at such a big child of mine, touched his face that was not smooth, and listened to me telling the story of white blood cells fighting viruses in the picture book, combined with the h he had learned himself. tml1NLP's sub-sensory element, imagine white light entering the body, putting on armor for white blood cells, sending healing light to the stomach that wants to vomit, and being willing to accept food supplements to increase energy...
asked him: Do you still believe what your mother said?
He actually nodded. At that moment, my heart was softened, and he looked so good in my eyes.
I took his temperature before going to bed at night and it was 39.6. I was still a little worried and asked him: We have antipyretics, do you want to take them? Or are you still fighting with white blood cells and increasing your own antibodies like you did when you were a child?
He said: I will try again.
finally told him to wake me up and feed him medicine if he felt really uncomfortable.
I still felt worried, so I woke up after four o'clock, went to see him, measured 38.7, and then touched his forehead. Finally he was sweating. I breathed a sigh of relief and felt reassured. I knew that the fever would go away soon.
At that moment, I felt moved in my heart. The strong baby, his belief that he was willing to bear it even if he had a headache, dizziness and discomfort, also moved him to believe in his mother.
I came across a video yesterday. When the child is positive, the mother will not stay away from the child. When the mother is positive, she hopes that the child will stay away from her...
After watching it, I burst into tears...
Especially the whiteboard that records the body temperature, which records the temperature measured every 1-4 hours.
During these more than 20 hours, I know that the mother's heart fluctuates with the child's body temperature, and she cannot sleep. All her thoughts are on the child...
Every mother is like this.
I believe every mother will be worried and anxious when her child is sick. But what really moved me was not just this, but that although she was worried and anxious, she remained calm and calm, patiently accompanied her child, had a gentle conversation with her, and used what she learned to heal her child - and this requires a particularly strong internal strength.
Because if you are very anxious and worried, it will be difficult for you to calm down and let the power penetrate into the child's heart.
It is precisely because of this extraordinary calm power that it gives children enough trust.
It is not so much the child's trust in himself as it is the trust in the mother - because the mother's trust is the source of the child's self-confidence and strength.
She said that she was moved by the child's trust in her mother. Her trust also deeply moved me...
It is precisely because I believe that I can deal with the problem that I have the ability to solve it.
Connecting with parents is a child’s natural psychological need.
So, in daily life, do you bring positive or negative information to your children to satisfy their needs to connect with their parents?
Every one of our parents loves their children, but have we ever thought about: Is what we give our children what they need? Can our love bring strength and confidence to our children?
How do you react when your child cannot do it?
When your child fails in a competition, are you disappointed or frustrated, or do you continue to encourage and trust your child?
When faced with a child addicted to mobile phones, are you an enemy of the mobile phone or are you thinking about how to attract the child...
The biggest difference between family education and school education is that family education has no teaching materials and no classroom. Its educational power lies in the role model of parents.
Children's nature is to imitate. From the beginning of babbling, they imitate their parents' language and actions.
From now on, every word and deed of parents will be deeply imprinted in the minds of their children.
Gu Mingyuan, a professor at the Ministry of Education of Beijing Normal University, said this.
In the current epidemic, the calm and positive attitude of parents far outweighs the effect of drugs on their children. This power can not only help children improve their own immunity and defeat the virus, but also give children the confidence and strength to face all difficulties and setbacks in their future lives.
Help children develop independence to promote their continuous self-development. This is the ultimate purpose of our parents in educating their children.
I hope her story can give you more confidence and strength during the epidemic.
I hope everyone reading this article is safe and healthy!
