Embratism is the first key point in educating children. We parents need to first respect and accept our children's emotions and behaviors. Only in this way can we better help children establish correct psychological cognition.
Only when we can empathize with our children's emotions can we understand our children's helplessness, anxiety, and anger. Only in this way can you feel the emotional connotation of your child and understand the needs of your child. Only by understanding the truth you say can you do the right thing.
So the question is, how can you empathize?
accept the response, do not criticize the child, listen to the child. -Singing can't solve the problem, what children need is good-tempered parents.
Parents want their children to listen to their own words, but we parents often do not listen to their children and do not understand them. They know how to use adult principles to discipline them, which makes everyone annoyed.
It’s been a day in school, and my body and heart are already very tired. When I get home, I just want to relax. This is not only the needs of adults, but also children. At the same time, I may have accumulated a lot of emotions in school to express. Who needs to relieve the children’s emotions at this time? Of course, it’s parents.
At this time, if you happen to be a parent who knows empathy, speaks patiently with your child, listens patiently, and thinks from the perspective of your child, and understands the root cause of your child's emotions, then you will know what your child needs.
responds to the child's needs and try to express his inner thoughts. This will not only relieve the child's inadequate expression, but also let him know that you are listening and understand.
At this time, the child will feel safe inside, and he will feel that my parents understand me and they love me. At the same time, the relationship between the two parties will further increase.
Think from the perspective of others and empathize with them. Children need us to feel them from their perspective
Only when we understand the inner feelings of children can we truly educate children well
Only when we stand in the position of children can we truly understand them, but it is difficult for us to stand in their position.
We must admit that children's thinking angles are very different from ours, so we must always keep this in mind. Sometimes small things that are not worth mentioning in the eyes of adults are huge things in the eyes of children. So if we want children to understand us adults, we have to go into the hearts of children and think from the perspective of children.
Express respect, get along with each other equally and become friends with children
Don’t blame them just by being arrogant. The words were filled with the tone of the elder. This will only make you and your children farther and farther away.
Put down the lofty posture, try to make friends with your children, and communicate with them like friends. Be careful not to treat your children as your friends, but to make yourself a friend of your children, children, so that communication will be effective.
Respect and equal communication are an important part of empathetic education.
Finally, one important point is love.
You will say that I can’t love my child? No one loves your child more than you. So you should empathize with your children more.
The premise of empathy comes from love
, but empathy does not mean echoing
In the process of communicating with our children, it may not be possible to "get" the point in the child's heart all at once. We need to correct it step by step until we get closer.
When the child gets angry, explodes in place and other emotional problems. Don't rush to convince them with big principles. We must coax the child first, and then try to communicate and educate us.
Parents who know how to empathize will be more likely to enter the hearts of their children. Because they can see and understand children who are deeply trapped in negative emotions, and use their inner softness and kindness to give their children the best healing.
May each of us meet the person who understands us during our growth.
