is smart but lazy. When you say it, you are prone to emotions and have a very fragile mentality. When you make a big fuss, you love to whine~ I'm talking about my big baby, is your child the same? Is it a headache for you to guide education? Many mothers say, you are a nanny, don’t have this trouble, right? It’s not that nanny is very good, and I don’t like to talk about theory without experience. Especially in education, I have also been exploring it in the past few years. Regarding this issue, let’s talk about it together~
Actually, my Dabao Yuanyuan is now 4 years old. I will find that she is smart. What we said, the teacher can quickly understand the truth, and the teacher can learn what she teaches very quickly. Just like when we went to a dance class, she was slower, but she could stand in the first row and be a small team leader. Playing Lego at home and playing with magnetic blocks, all have their own imagination and creativity, and they often say, "Oh, I understand, and then learn from it." Those who can explain the truth you are talking about in detail and often educate other children (it will be disliked).
But she is really lazy if she can. . .
When doing things, I was slow to get angry when I was doing things. Never sit up when you can sleep and wear clothes, and never use your hands to drag your pants with your feet. . I asked her to pack up her things, and the first thing she did was to shout, "Come here and help me, take it together."
There is another obvious feature in her: she cannot withstand criticism and has poor ability to resist frustration
This point I can feel from many things. When I went to , I felt that the teacher organized a game to play in class, she was unhappy; the first time she went to the dance class, the teacher made everyone compete, she would definitely be slow, she cried, and the teacher was scared by her; at home, I was not angry, but just said, "Hurry up", and her tears rolled. So does cultivating her ability to resist frustration really make her more courageous? No, it backfires. This path won't work for such a smart and lazy child. She will completely collapse and then choose to give up completely.
I have also read a lot of books on education, and then I gradually understand the principle that this is actually complementary!
The smarter the child will actually be more sensitive and strong. She wants to prove her intelligence, so she pays great attention to the results. Once she is disappointed, she will feel a strong sense of frustration. Especially in terms of emotions, you find that she cares about other people's comments. Sometimes our elderly people will say that she is very proud of her face, so the feeling of frustration is magnified and it is particularly uncomfortable.
So for this type of children, I summarize it as giving positive energy emotional feedback + a sense of accomplishment in specific implementation! I am very grateful to her dance teacher. She has observed that Yuanyuan is such a child, so she always affirms her and asks her to be the captain and stand in the C position. So we can see that our child is developing positively and is not crying or tired when it comes to dance. So if your child doesn't like going to kindergarten, then you can use the teacher to confirm her, and you need to be specific - like raising your hands to answer questions and enthusiastically helping your classmates. Of course, you have to communicate more with the teacher.
When talking about these, it involves a sense of accomplishment, enlarge the advantages, and talk about what you are good at! For example, our family has always loved building, and we will praise creativity, and we will praise it very specifically. This person's movements and smiles, and she understands the sense of joy. After this thing she is good at has a sense of accomplishment, she will also have confidence. Then at this time, we will associate what she is not very good at. You see, you will be able to learn English if you are so difficult, so you can build self-efficacy . Through such constant encouragement of positive energy + stimulation of a sense of accomplishment, the motivation will become stronger and stronger.
In fact, these smart lazy children need a stimulus, and this stimulus is our affirmation. Through repeated affirmations, they will give her motivation and make her roll little by little. Gradually, she will get better and better, forming a virtuous cycle.At the beginning, this external stimulation must be given by our parents. If you give the right stimulation, you will find that this smart and lazy child has finally gotten enlightened.
You must believe that there are no children who are unwilling to work hard. Every child is very willing to learn and explore the world when he is born. And it is not difficult for us to find that the children in kindergartens are more active than the primary school, the children in elementary school are more active than the junior high school, and the children are more active than the high school... The children's enthusiasm is declining, and they gradually become children who "are obviously very smart but are so lazy" in the eyes of adults. So we should reflect carefully. As parents, have we really given good guidance to children on their children’s growth?
It is crucial to educate children with the right method. I hope that parents can become the brightest beacon in their children's hearts and provide good guidance for their children's growth. Okay, that’s all I have to say today. If your child is the same as ours, then you can learn this~
