The next day, Wang Kai came to school. Teacher Zhang asked him about his stomach aches. Wang Kai hesitated and finally said, "It doesn't hurt anymore", and hurried back to his seat.
Teacher Zhang thought about it and called Wang Kai’s mother to find out about Wang Kai’s physical condition. Unexpectedly, as soon as the phone was answered, Wang Kai's mother "complaints" with him on the phone, saying that Wang Kai was simply trying to avoid the exam. When he heard the teacher criticized the fake, his stomach no longer hurt. He asked him to come to school for the exam in the afternoon, and he said he was uncomfortable.
Finally, the mother said, "This child is out of salvation. He doesn't like to study and lie. He beats and scolds him, but he just can't change him." When Teacher Zhang heard this, he said to Wang Kai's mother: "The child doesn't like to study, so let's find the reason together. Beating and scolding the child is not a good way."
Wang Kai's mother said, "Oh, teacher, I am an uneducated person, I can't teach people. But I know that studying is good, I don't want Wang Kai to be as unreliable as me. However, I want him to study hard, but he doesn't listen, so I have to beat and scold him."
Hearing this, Teacher Zhang vaguely guessed the reason why Wang Kai's "stomach pain" was.
Two weeks later, the Chinese unit test. Sure enough, Wang Kai asked for leave again with a stomachache. Teacher Zhang now knows that Wang Kai is just tired of learning.
So, Teacher Zhang came to Wang Kai's house and had in-depth communication with his mother. Teacher Zhang initially believed that the reason was still his mother. Wang Kai's mother was eager to see her son be successful. She passed on her anxiety to the child. The child could not meet her mother's expectations and gradually became full of fear of learning. So when she talked about exams, the child developed symptoms of "still stomachache".
Found the reason, Teacher Zhang first did the ideological work of Wang Kai’s mother to calm her down. At the same time, Teacher Zhang gave Wang Kai a small training course and asked him to pair up with his classmates, so that everyone could learn and make progress together.
After a while, Wang Kai's grades slowly rose, and his stomach no longer hurt. A child who is "averse to school" was healed by a responsible and good teacher.
However, some children do not have the luck like Wang Kai. According to the survey, the number of children who are "averse to school" in my country is still on the rise and is developing at a young age.
As a parent, understanding the stages of learning aversion will help children prevent learning aversion.
First of all, if the child’s academic performance is not ideal, or if the child does not meet the expectations of his parents, the child is prone to anxiety. This is the initial stage of learning disgust. At this time, if parents realize their children's anxiety and intervene, the child's emotions will be fine.
If the child is allowed to develop, the child will doubt himself, but at this stage, the child has not given up hope and will try to study hard. At this time, if someone helps the child improve his academic performance and lets the child see hope, the child can recover quickly.
Otherwise, it develops to the point of fear of learning. If Wang Kai is as afraid of exams, the child may be really tired of studying. This is a critical point of learning disgust, but if you receive psychological support and help, your child's condition can still be improved. If you can't, your child will develop inferiority complex next, and it will be really difficult to get rid of school aversion.
develops from anxiety to school aversion. Every step in this will be reflected by children. Parents can definitely notice it as long as they are careful. By seizing the opportunity to help children, you can keep them away from the abyss of disgust in learning.
