Xiaojun seemed to have been poured with a basin of cold water. He asked in confusion: "Mom, why?" Mom said unhappily, "Why? Tell me what you learned is not a three-minute hot topic?! From kindergarten to now, you have talked about how much you have learned, but you have persisted in anything. Money and time have been wasted, so I won't agree to what you want to learn."
Xiaojun drooped his head and said nothing.
Xiaojun's mother's words resonated with many mothers present, and they all said that the same is true for their children. Everything they learn is very popular for three minutes, and they will give up if they can't hold on for long.
Indeed, there are many children with "three minutes of popularity", but is it really good for mothers to directly reject their children's approach?
Chinese and Western parent-child education expert Huang Jingjie 's suggestion is: use the principle of "wide in and wide out" to accompany the child's "three minutes of popularity." What she means is that if the child is interested in, the child will be allowed to try it if the parents' ability permits. If the child tries but loses interest and does not want to continue learning, parents should also allow the child to "pause" and do not force him.
Because if a child loses interest in everything, he will not have lofty ideals. Ideal is the initial interest.
has to go through the following four stages when it rises from "interest" to "ideal" level:
1. Interest sowing stage
This stage is generally preschool and primary school stages. At this time, children are full of curiosity and enthusiasm for everything. They are willing to accept new things and want to try and explore everything. Parents should pay attention to protecting their children's desire for knowledge and exploration. Don’t stop your child because of his “three minutes of popularity”. Only by constantly trying can he find something he is really interested in.
2. Interest maturity stage
This stage is usually in junior high school. Children's minds are becoming more mature and they can also receive a certain degree of training for their interests. The focus of this stage is to select interests, develop them into fixed hobbies, and be able to develop relevant abilities from them. For example, concentration, logical thinking ability, etc.
For example, a child may like to sing, draw, swim, taekwondo, etc. in elementary school, but when he is in junior high school, he insists on swimming. Then, swimming may be his hobby, and when swimming, he can become very focused.
3. Advantages of Interests Transformation Period
This stage is the stage of elevating hobbies to specialties and love. Parents and children need to have an assessment before the change. The first is to evaluate the child’s talent and potential abilities. If a child's hobbies are too far from his talent, then the child will have to work much more than others to succeed, so he or she should consider it carefully. The second is to evaluate the child's love for this hobby. "Only love can last for the long time", true love can make people persevere.
upgrades hobbies to specialties, requiring children to receive a lot of deliberate training. Only those who truly love can persevere.
4. The ideal period of interest
This is the final stage of elevating love and expertise to the ambition and ideal for which we are willing to strive for in our lives. At this stage, the child transforms from a passive learner to an active learner, not afraid of difficulties and bravely climbing to the top.
So, parents should not be afraid of their children's "three-minute popularity". As long as they are willing to explore, it is good. "Stretch your hand to pick the stars, even if you get nothing, you will definitely not be covered in sludge."
Moreover, every exploration of a child will leave traces in his life. He has been unable to find his true hobby for a long time, and he has also asked himself again and again: What kind of person do I want to be? What is the thing I really like? This is a process for children to think, choose and make decisions, and it is also a life problem that children need to solve when they reach adolescence.
If parents no longer allow their children to learn new things because of their "three minutes of popularity", this is very likely to dampen their children's interest in learning, make them stop growing, or become addicted to games.
Take a step back, even if the child does not turn his interests into his life ideals in the end, this interest may become his profession, his lifelong hobbies and specialties. In the long journey of life, people who are interested in hobbies can always find more happiness.
