Similarly, how to make children use their time more rationally is to let children pay attention to learning and formulate specific learning plans. For example, they must memorize 5 words every day before they can sleep, rather than memorize words every day. Without quantity and no consequences, children will not care about this matter. Even if they want to memorize words, they cannot recite efficiently because they are not anxious.
On the weekend, my family and I planned to travel around. The night before, the children had chosen the clothes they would wear the next day. I was considering what to wear, because I usually have a lot of professional outfits and went out to play with my family, so I wanted to wear casually. I found a pair of sports clothes from my previous clothes. My eldest daughter Jinbao looked at the clothes I chose and said to me: "Mom, you should wear them more beautifully when you go out to play tomorrow. Maybe we will become lucky tourists. The photos will stay there. You will also be beautiful when you recall them in the future."
At that moment, I found that the children understand life better than me and the meaning of the present. It's just a very ordinary tour around the country for adults, but for children, they will be full of expectations and pay great attention to it. They will count how many days they have to go, so they will prepare the most beautiful clothes she thinks is.
The degree of attention will affect our attitude towards doing this. Only when we pay attention psychologically can we not be perfunctory, and we can do our best, and even have unexpected gains.
2. Make working hard a habit for children
Every class will have children who can do very well in every exam. In the long run, those children have become accustomed to working hard and become more and more excellent. I remember seeing a saying: "There are no ones who don't work hard every day." Parents take time to improve themselves every day and let their children see that we have not wasted time every day. We are responsible for ourselves and our children. Everyone yearns for being warmed, and as parents, we can first become the light that shines on our children.
Parents should guide their children to review the knowledge they learned on the same day in a timely manner every day. The teacher of the eldest daughter Jinbao sometimes notifies in advance that there will be a small test the next day. Most children in the class can do well in the exam, because everyone knows the exam, so they will study hard. However, if the teacher checks the test temporarily the next day, some students will not do the exam well because they have not developed the habit of timely review. When children study hard, they will have an inexplicable confidence in themselves and will like to go to school more. The epidemic has been repeated, and the eldest daughter Jinbao School notified her to take online classes at home, and she would be unhappy because she likes going to school the most. Haha, okay, the old mother is not happy, it is better for the child to go to school.
3. Methods are more important than attitudes
Parents should first tell their children that their real efforts are not only positive in learning attitudes, but also important in learning methods. It is not just that you put in time and you will have good results if you work hard. Only by truly working effectively can you achieve corresponding results. Yu Zhou said in his speech "The Confusion of Our Generation": "Don't touch yourself. Most people seem to work hard, but it is just stupid."
Teacher Wu Zhihong said this: "The most ineffective effort in the world is to reason with your children with heart and heart. The more you tell the truth, the more disgusting the child, and the less willing to communicate with you." When the child is young, parents cannot just preach, but should accompany the child to develop correct learning habits and find efficient learning methods, rather than complaining about the child's slow homework and poor grades. If a child cannot feel the recognition of his parents, it will be difficult to gain confidence. " Positive Discipline " writes: Only when a child feels better can he do better.
So, parents please believe in their children and give them some time. When they are young, their self-control is not stable. Not taking the initiative is the norm, and being proactive is the abnormal. When the child gradually gets on the right track of learning and has the internal driving force of active learning, the expected results will naturally appear.
